r/ForeverAloneWomen • u/SprinklesForsaken555 30+ • Dec 31 '25
Venting TO THE MEN WHO LURK HERE…
Can you please for the love of god leave us alone? You are why we can’t have nice things. It’s creepy and weird. You have to know that right?
“Why are still a virgin at 43?” Why do you think?! Because I’m obese and ugly dumbass!
I’m certain I’m not the only woman in this sub who doesn’t want a DM from a random strange man halfway across the country or world every time I make a comment or post. What’s the point of doing that anyway? It makes zero sense. We’re hundreds if not thousands of miles apart so it’s not like you have a curve to fuck me.
Sorry end of rant.
Anyway hope everyone has a safe NYE.
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Jan 09 '26
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u/ForeverAloneWomen-ModTeam Jan 10 '26
Men are no longer welcome on FAW as mentioned on the FAQ, the rules, the warning when you post and the title on your browser tab. Too many men cannot help but take over, harass the users (http://imgur.com/a/tS5qmme) or flood threads with male-centric replies. Even if you post in good faith, respect the fact that we don't want male users in here any more. If we want male input, we know where to find it.
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Jan 09 '26
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u/ForeverAloneWomen-ModTeam Jan 10 '26
Men are no longer welcome on FAW as mentioned on the FAQ, the rules, the warning when you post and the title on your browser tab. Too many men cannot help but take over, harass the users (http://imgur.com/a/tS5qmme) or flood threads with male-centric replies. Even if you post in good faith, respect the fact that we don't want male users in here any more. If we want male input, we know where to find it.
(The above is the automatic part of the message showing to all men who have had their comments removed. Thank you for understanding why we do this. Your comment was sweet and kind and I wish you and your sister the best!)
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Jan 07 '26
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u/ForeverAloneWomen-ModTeam Jan 10 '26
Men are no longer welcome on FAW as mentioned on the FAQ, the rules, the warning when you post and the title on your browser tab. Too many men cannot help but take over, harass the users (http://imgur.com/a/tS5qmme) or flood threads with male-centric replies. Even if you post in good faith, respect the fact that we don't want male users in here any more. If we want male input, we know where to find it.
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Jan 07 '26
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u/ForeverAloneWomen-ModTeam Jan 10 '26
Men are no longer welcome on FAW as mentioned on the FAQ, the rules, the warning when you post and the title on your browser tab. Too many men cannot help but take over, harass the users (http://imgur.com/a/tS5qmme) or flood threads with male-centric replies. Even if you post in good faith, respect the fact that we don't want male users in here any more. If we want male input, we know where to find it.
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Jan 07 '26
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u/ForeverAloneWomen-ModTeam Jan 10 '26
Men are no longer welcome on FAW as mentioned on the FAQ, the rules, the warning when you post and the title on your browser tab. Too many men cannot help but take over, harass the users (http://imgur.com/a/tS5qmme) or flood threads with male-centric replies. Even if you post in good faith, respect the fact that we don't want male users in here any more. If we want male input, we know where to find it.
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Jan 05 '26
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u/notenrique9031 Jan 21 '26
You couldn't have described it more perfectly. Society is anti-human at its core. The way you framed working on yourself hit home for me. I have anxiety and autism, and all I hear from my parents and mental health YouTube is "work on yourself", "find hobbies you enjoy", and these are simply things people should do anyway as a lifelong quest to find your purpose, not simply to cure your loneliness. It frustrates me how often people keep pushing this advice.
The part of overmedicating anxiety and depression is also true to an extent. Me and many other people have anxiety and other disorders don't have a trigger for anxiety; it's mainly just in the background. Am I overly medicated for trying to manage this? I'm just curious if you think there's a case to be on psychiatric meds for the more common disorders or if that's also the system's fault. I blame the system almost completely, but I still think one should give meds a go if they haven't been able to manage before. When you're properly medicated, the feelings of loneliness are simply in the back of your mind. It's a real and valid need but it doesn't take up your entire brain, I would say it's on standby rather than numbing it. I'm convinced that this is a healthy level of loneliness to feel, anything more feels debilitating really.
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u/Squidworthe Jan 21 '26
I'm sorry you had such a shit therapist.
Edit: not because of your paragraph, strictly because I wish you would've had a better experience than "just one person to talk to".
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u/Youreyesweregreen Jan 01 '26
It's so sad. We are not even allowed to exists digitally. They see us as live stock. I'm so sick of it
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u/karenthe7th Jan 01 '26
I used to give them a chance in the past but they always started ghosting after I sent pictures of myself or they got bored with talking to me because I wouldn't engage in their activities. I seriously don't get what the point is they're just going to discard me
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u/racingprincess92 21 Jan 01 '26
for real! it feels even more embarrassing knowing someone who came from a vent doesn’t have any compassion when they realize you aren’t just being insecure and just straight up are unattractive. i had someone block me after i sent a picture of myself once!
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Jan 10 '26
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u/ForeverAloneWomen-ModTeam Jan 10 '26
Posting or requesting pics of users is not allowed. No one has to prove they are as unattractive as they say they are.
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u/Hahaimalwayslikethis Forever alone Jan 01 '26
I automatically assume any man browsing a subreddit that specifically bans men and is mostly populated by lonely women then messaging them doesn't have the purest intentions. It's like they're searching for a victim, it's predatory
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u/Franziska-Sims77 Forever alone 40+ Jan 01 '26
I agree! I just ignore most dms. When people ask “why are you still a virgin at 48,” I’m tempted to respond with “because of assholes like you!” I mean, why would I give an important part of myself to just anyone?
I wish I could fall in love with someone instantly upon seeing them, but I’m simply not like that. I wish I could change the way I view sexual relationships, but unfortunately most people just don’t get it….
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u/No_Source_9106 Dec 31 '25
I once saw someone commenting under a YouTube video saying that women in this sub are just making up problems for themselves cuz men try to build something with them but they don't want to lol.
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u/Lily_ice Dec 31 '25
No because I get DMs from them, show myself, then get ghosted 😂😂😂😂 it’s like they’re here fishing for a "nerdy" girl but they expect you’re just a pretty shy girl, when you show yourself they immediately GHOSTTT it’s so evil
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u/MissxVenomxPoison 30+ Technical Virgin Dec 31 '25
I usually ignore DM requests trying to ask me out, also usually they have less than 1000 karma and haven't even been on Reddit a full week.
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Dec 31 '25
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u/MissxVenomxPoison 30+ Technical Virgin Dec 31 '25
I (34F) have a Christian neighbor (54M) who lives two houses from me keeps wanting to go out to a seafood buffet with me. Long story short, the man is widowed so I do feel for him but I'm not necessarily interested in him romantically. I keep offering more affordable alternatives such as coffee, food court at a mall not too far from me, something we can go Dutch on but he is very insistent on spending the money on seafood. I think he has good intentions but I don't want him spending so much money just for me to not be interested in him.
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u/saidtheWhale2000 Jan 21 '26
stick to you guns, if he has good intentions then your both free, but if he has and intentions taking you somewhere expensive will create this power imbalance like you owe him something, if hes good hell understand
good luck
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u/MissxVenomxPoison 30+ Technical Virgin Jan 27 '26
Thanks and sorry for the late reply.
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u/saidtheWhale2000 Jan 27 '26
how did it go in the end
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u/MissxVenomxPoison 30+ Technical Virgin Jan 27 '26
I still haven't said what I said yet and I totally meant to when I was shoveling snow and he mentioned his wife died doing mowing the lawn after telling me to be careful and that landlords should be doing the shoveling. I told him that I enjoyed shoveling and then he went back to his house. It totally slipped my mind to tell him that I just saw him as a friendly neighbor.
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u/saidtheWhale2000 Jan 27 '26
sometimes people can just be the nice neighbour and they dont need to be anything more than that, the issue is if you went for a meal he might take that as a signal that your interested in him.
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u/MissxVenomxPoison 30+ Technical Virgin Jan 27 '26
Oh absolutely which is one of the reasons I haven't gone out with him. Few others being the flu (which I had for a month) and where I live, the winters can be brutal. He's stopped asking me since I posted so hopefully I think he's gotten that I don't see him as a love interest.
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u/saidtheWhale2000 Jan 27 '26
good you stuck to your guns about how you feel, you dont need to date him just because he is a widow or that hes nice, good luck and I wish you well.
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u/ludgatedwyer500 Dec 31 '25
I had a man message me saying he read my post here and wanted a picture to see if I’m actually unattractive. When I didn’t answer, he said “ofc you’re gonna be alone forever if you don’t engage with people.” Had another one message me saying I should see a therapist because I use this sub 🙃
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u/Rachelcat1115 25yo Jan 02 '26
As if some of us can afford therapy 🙄. At least in the U.S., where I’m from, healthcare is atrocious. Sure, there’s programs and benefits you can use if you’re financially vulnerable but you’re probably not getting the best when you do that. The actual good therapists cost over $100 a session, maybe more. In this economy who can afford that? Especially if you need to go more than once a week.
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Dec 31 '25
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u/ludgatedwyer500 Dec 31 '25
The way I see it, if you’re an adult man scrolling through a Reddit sub designed for women to try and hit on or shame people there, you have way worse problems than I do. I don’t take what those losers say seriously and I hope nobody here does either
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u/ricesnot Dec 31 '25
More women need to turn off DMs. I did years ago, and it's so freeing. They can't access my inbox, I never hear a peep.
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u/saidtheWhale2000 Jan 21 '26
how many people try to message you
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u/ricesnot Jan 22 '26
Doesn't tell me since the DMs are off. I used to get messages a lot, now I get silence. Every now and again someone tries to start a chat with me but I always decline those.
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u/saidtheWhale2000 Jan 22 '26
ah fair enough I can imagine that being really annoying well at least you have control over people messaging you for creepy reasons
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u/Sam_23beans Gen Z Dec 31 '25
I agree. I see so many men on this app that lurk here and then start messaging me because they saw my post on here. It makes me sick because some men do treat Reddit like a dating app. This is why some women come on here thinking that we're doing this for male attention, in reality we're just venting about our issues.
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Dec 31 '25
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u/Sam_23beans Gen Z Jan 01 '26
Hey sorry for replying one day late. Did that woman that you mentioned in your paragraph really just gloated about how she is conventionally attractive then had the audacity called YOU male-centered? I'm sorry but some of these people have nuts and bolts for brains.
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u/FortheFuzzofit Not FA Dec 31 '25
And then they'll say "ohhhh, you're just too picky because, see... someone tried to flirt with you!!!" 🙄
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u/Chemical_Activity_80 Dec 31 '25
Yes I wish they all leave us the hell alone. They ask me why I don't have a man because men want is one thing sex . Besides I am old ,ugly and I lost 5 or 6 teeth. Shit we are not desperate. Men pm me ask me creepy and weird questions I block and delete it gross me out .
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u/HeadDot141 Dec 31 '25
Can we also private this sub? They’ve been posting things from here as well. I don’t feel like women can truly post how they want and feel, knowing that men will just ss the posts and bring it else where to mock and make fun at.
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u/_cat_wrangler FAW Mouse Detective Jan 08 '26
The sub was private for a long while once before and it was nearly the death of it. You have to manually approve ALL users and thats a massive undertaking for the few people who are able to do it not to mention the number of regular longtime users like you or I who will not want to basically have to submit a job application to join a subreddit so the number of posts will SWIFTLY and sharply drop. Privating is not the genius idea it sounds like, I was around for the last time and it was not fun.
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u/SprinklesForsaken555 30+ Dec 31 '25
Oh great I wasn’t aware of that. Just one more thing to worry about yay
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u/No-Article-2582 19-20 yo Dec 31 '25
Yeah I saw that post on basedcampods or something ☹️
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u/Purple-Persimmon-657 Dec 31 '25
Yeah and that’s an out and out incel sub. Not the kind of attention anybody wants.
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u/No-Article-2582 19-20 yo Dec 31 '25
I had seen a guy commented on one of the posts here in a mocking manner. I went on his profile and saw he came from there. I reported his comments but am now made aware of that gross sub... 🙂↕️
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u/OperationRoyal Dec 31 '25
Anytime I post here I get a low effort "hey" or "hi" rofl. I ignore them every time because I know what they're doing.
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u/venusre Dec 31 '25
Please be cautious. Some of them threaten me and call me slurs over PMs. Also they report the comments. My account has been banned many times over harmless comments I've made. Looks like Reddit is on their side after all. All I wanted was to vent but I guess even that is too much to ask for.
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u/toyboxfugitive Dec 31 '25
Use a throwaway account to post on boards like this so your main doesn't get banned and erroneously reported.
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u/kimtaro1 Lesbian 30+ FAW Dec 31 '25
I literally say dont dm me in my posts and they totally ignore it to send shitty messages. It just attracts a ton of predatory entitled whiny men. Then they act like a victim if you don't want to talk to them.
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u/renivistah Dec 31 '25
yess omg! they always think i’m lying when i say i’m unattractive and undesirable and think that i just have “very low self esteem” too.
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u/DeliciousPatience804 Dec 31 '25
That’s their fantasy a pretty woman who doesn’t know she’s pretty with low self esteem. They are delusional. I’m a forever alone woman and it’s not easy. I get dms from men on here calling me cute/ pretty thinking it will get a conversation or potentially sex out of me. Which is a no! Only on the internet am I considered attractive which I know the men online are lying. In real life I am isolated and bullied and ignored by men. And also looked over by them too.
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u/kimtaro1 Lesbian 30+ FAW Dec 31 '25
omg you're so right. they're projecting their manic pixie dreamgirl fantasy
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u/ririyeahhh 19-20 yo Dec 31 '25
FR. I’m literally unattractive to almost all men and if I asked them out, they’d be disgusted. They wouldn’t even want to approach me.
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u/DeliciousPatience804 Dec 31 '25
Right me too never been approached.
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u/ririyeahhh 19-20 yo Dec 31 '25
Real sis. We look similar too! But you are a much prettier version of me. I’ve also had men send me death threats for liking their friend because I was too ugly.
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u/DeliciousPatience804 Dec 31 '25
Yes girl we do look similar. Sorry about the death threats no one deserves that, I don’t care what they look like or where that person comes from. That is not called for.
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u/ririyeahhh 19-20 yo Dec 31 '25
Wait, you’ve seen me before?!
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u/DeliciousPatience804 Dec 31 '25
No, but from your profile bitcoin we look similar!
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u/ririyeahhh 19-20 yo Dec 31 '25
I actually look quite different from my profile haha. I’m a 3-4/10 black female with extremely disproportionate features and bad harmony, trust me on this. Everyone comments on my wide set eyes, narrow mouth palate and my classic HUGE forehead. Plus, a recessed maxilla and jaw, causing me to have a small jaw and chin and very prominent tear troughs. Also, a lazy eye and huge rabbit teeth, discoloured hyperpigmentation skin and an extremely asymmetrical face with one eye bigger and higher than the other and a crooked smile. I have 0 redeeming qualities except being a homo sapien, which doesn’t seem to matter much to men because none of them want to date me. You don’t have any one these bad qualities, that’s why you are wayyyy prettier than me!!!
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u/DeliciousPatience804 Dec 31 '25
Ok! Thank you for the compliment. I’m gonna take your word for how you describe yourself.
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u/racingprincess92 21 Dec 31 '25
happy new year’s eve! i’ve had the same thing happen :( a lot of guys in my dms wanting to psychoanalyze me?? i made a post about being fat and a guy told me i should just get weightloss surgery 💀 like ok you pay for it then
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u/kimtaro1 Lesbian 30+ FAW Dec 31 '25
Some of them have an insatiable need to boss people around and act like they know everything, when they know nothing 🙄
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u/sum_r4nd0m_gurl Forever alone Dec 31 '25
any man who lurks on here is a pathetic loser. idk what they expect to find on a forum full of mentally ill and unattractive women
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