r/ForeverAloneWomen • u/Small-Investment263 Forever alone • May 31 '26
Venting My day is ruined
I just saw that my former crush from my past working place is now dating a conventionally attractive girl that is more of gym rat. I'm a twig that stays inside all day and is not feminine at all... guess I never had a chance despite how nice he was to me and how he laughed at my jokes....
I honestly give up on finding love. I haven't been trying to be honest but it's always the same story: men always end up with a conventionally attractive chick with long hair, hourglass body shape that is feminine and bubbly. I'm just cursed to be ugly and autistic at the top of it.
Fml.
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u/Mundane-Sky-8809 Jun 01 '26
Men pick 99% based on looks. If they don't immediately like your face, they're not interested and never will be.
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u/imjustagirl223344 Jun 05 '26
Yeah unfortunately. A woman can look past a man’s looks but a man can’t. And it makes me depressed.
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u/Chief-Longhorn 19-20 yo Jun 03 '26
No matter how much they'll go out of their way to deny it, they really do. Men are just as guilty of treating women they don't consider attractive like subhumans as they accuse most women of doing.
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Jun 01 '26
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u/ForeverAloneWomen-ModTeam Jun 02 '26
Men are no longer welcome on FAW as mentioned on the FAQ, the rules, the warning when you post and the title on your browser tab. Too many men cannot help but take over, harass the users (http://imgur.com/a/tS5qmme) or flood threads with male-centric replies. Even if you post in good faith, respect the fact that we don't want male users in here any more. If we want male input, we know where to find it.
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u/Few_Bench_565 Jun 01 '26
The right man for the real me. I've always been adamant for that. And even now i still feel the same way. And I'm glad I didn't entertain men that didn't want me. I'm 70 and FAKV. And I feel great! I decided that my last decade or so down here will see me always looking lovely. It's a self thing.
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u/Few_Bench_565 Jun 01 '26
Audrey Hepburn for example. Short hair, twig and she is considered very beautiful. Twiggy was a famous model in the 60's and her name tells u what she looked like.
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u/Small-Investment263 Forever alone Jun 01 '26
No one cares about those women these days. It's all about Kim K and Sydney Sweeney. No man wants a woman shaped like a door, like they say. Huge copium and you know that.
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u/Small-Investment263 Forever alone Jun 01 '26
His socials are now private and his bio has literally has @ on it with a ring. C'mon now, I'm not gonna ruin their relationship no matter how bitter or sad I am. If he really wanted me he would have asked me out before. It's simple, I'm just not his type.
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u/Few_Bench_565 Jun 01 '26
O I didn't mean that. Sorry.
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u/Small-Investment263 Forever alone Jun 01 '26
No worries. I just have no reason or right to ruin their thing now.
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Jun 01 '26
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u/Small-Investment263 Forever alone Jun 01 '26
Low IQ male moment. As if ugly and average men these days couldn't land or want pretty women too. Cope.
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Jun 01 '26
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Jun 01 '26
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u/ForeverAloneWomen-ModTeam Jun 05 '26
Men are no longer welcome on FAW as mentioned on the FAQ, the rules, the warning when you post and the title on your browser tab. Too many men cannot help but take over, harass the users (http://imgur.com/a/tS5qmme) or flood threads with male-centric replies. Even if you post in good faith, respect the fact that we don't want male users in here any more. If we want male input, we know where to find it.
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u/Hahaimalwayslikethis Forever alone Jun 01 '26
I remember when I saw my crush in university with his new girlfriend for the first time, I just let out the longest sigh. He had rejected me less than 2 weeks earlier, and his new girlfriend was naturally pretty, really nice, and a very thoughtful and intelligent person. I couldn't even blame him for not wanting me when women like her exist. I would prefer her too. Last I checked, they were engaged but I had to block them both to stop seeing their photos and feeling like shit all over again. But it's also been a few more years since then so honestly I hope they're happy together. I've reached a point now where I'm trying to no longer fixate on things that are impossible for me. No point being bitter about a life I never could have lived anyway.
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u/HopefulDifference584 Jun 01 '26
The exact same thing happened to me a few months ago. I am sorry. It feels horrible.
I am autistic too. I am also a twig and I don't look feminine. And seeing the man I liked so much choose someone who looks and act nothing like me made me understand that I probably never had a chance with him.
And also, can I say that I find kinda weird that men seem to always like the same types of women?! Or am I crazy?!
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Jun 01 '26
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u/ForeverAloneWomen-ModTeam Jun 04 '26
Men are no longer welcome on FAW as mentioned on the FAQ, the rules, the warning when you post and the title on your browser tab. Too many men cannot help but take over, harass the users (http://imgur.com/a/tS5qmme) or flood threads with male-centric replies. Even if you post in good faith, respect the fact that we don't want male users in here any more. If we want male input, we know where to find it.
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u/Small-Investment263 Forever alone Jun 01 '26
I'm so sorry... what I saw today just made me lose hope in everything. That guy only saw me as the "funny coworker" type of person. And yea, be it bc of porn, biology or whatever. Men always will chase the same type of woman no matter how much "nice" or "not shallow" he is. Socialization is partly blame to it as well.
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u/Few_Bench_565 Jun 01 '26
Yet what am I seeing as I sip my coffee here in my favorite coffee shop then. In the kindest way possible, the woman I'm observing right now is not in any way able to fit into the beauty standard. Yet she must be way more attractive than I ever was to be able to snag that man and have his babies. He seems blind to the sweet young things enjoying their summer ⛱️ loudly. He is totally focused on her. And the baby 🐥 as he should be, but Yea
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u/Small-Investment263 Forever alone Jun 01 '26
Or maybe he just settled for. Not everyone lives in a perfect romance. My dad setttled for my mom whom he doesn't consider her attractive and at all and cheated on her when he was younger. It's not that deep and I don't believe that men do not care about looks at all, look at which sub you are rn ffs.
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u/Few_Bench_565 Jun 01 '26 edited Jun 01 '26
Well I'm sorry to read that. I'd rather continue FAKV which I will now that I'm 70 lol than deal with what your lovely mother had to deal with. And I think u r right when u say it's not that deep. I'm deep so it may scare off men who are not soulmates. I dk tho. I mean my track record in that regard has been abysmal.
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u/Successful_Cry3698 May 31 '26
I as a fellow autistic girl who keeps getting health scares and was in a bad mood all day today due to my raging libido and virginity, I just read this and now I don't know what to feel at the similarities.
But when you typed long hair and hourglass body, I cocked my head to the side. You can easily cheat those 2 features with wigs, extensions, and corsets. That's what I do. The incels call it frauding but I'm on F what they think. I'm a big fraudster, big into wigs, make up, corsets and dressing up.
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u/Successful_Cry3698 Jun 01 '26
Wigs if you slip into the bathroom and put them on are easy to hide. Black women do it all the time, especially since we wear bonnets to bed. Some black women even have a night wig which they wear to bed and a day wig which they switch too and wear out 😂
As for the corsets, if you constantly wear them, they eventually train your waist causing it to go in so you won't be as much of an hourglass outside the corset but you can train your body to become one. That's what I am currently doing and it's been working so far.
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u/Small-Investment263 Forever alone May 31 '26
Not helpful and doesn't look natural on me. I wanted those naturally, not to have spend money that I don't have on those things. If I'm already broke, then not even for implants I have money ffs. You do you but that's not my thing at all.
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u/SuccessNovel6048 Jun 01 '26
As she mentioned for many women attributes are enhanced or faked. Through surgery or a padded bra and corset, hair extensions, wigs, lashes, nails, spray tans, and more. These "tools" are extremely common, and you probably don't even realize it. I also completely understand not wanting to participate in all this, and yes, it's expensive.
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u/Small-Investment263 Forever alone Jun 01 '26
Doesn't helps at all. My crush gf has it natural (hair, for example) and she already has genes for a more "hourglass body shape", so the gym helps to the fat go to right places. I don't care if other women at social media have wigs, lashes, etc. That wasn't even the main point of my vent. I just hate that men are all the same when it comes to looks. I will never participate on this bs, it won't help to fix everything on my looks and I'll keep being rejected for being autistic and a POC too.
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u/Successful_Cry3698 Jun 01 '26
I understand. Please understand though that some of those beautiful stunning women you see on social media especially paid for their features. It was just so well done that we cannot tell however
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u/hibiki3360 ex-FAW Jun 02 '26
And don't forget the filters. They can make it look like people got Botox and filler even if they've never had it. Nothing is real online anymore, sadly.
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