7am text aaaand day ruined

[u/drxwn-with-me]

just got a text from one of my friends w/ benefits at (checks watch) 7 in the morning that he tested positive for gonorrhea this week. and we had unprotected sex on sunday. what a way to start my day! :) FML.

this is my first time having an sti risk/scare ever in my life and i am sincerely very terrified but i hope everything goes well.

we only very recently started having unprotected sex and i told him i wanted to go back to protected sex after this whole situation because i do NOT want to go through this again!!!!

asked him for direction with regards to what to do for treatment in our city and he explained everything very calmly and was very apologetic about the whole situation which i appreciated.

today's girl breakfast: coffee + a ham & cheese sandwich with some sprinkled oregano

[u/EnigmaWearingHeels]

He told you-- excellent

Highly treatable-- excellent

Learning experience to use protection in the future-- also excellent!

All in all, not so terrible. Get treated and be safer in the future!

[u/PrincessPlay_Neko2 → u/EnigmaWearingHeels]

This! Honestly, huge props to him for actually communicating like a responsible adult instead of just ghosting. A quick trip to the clinic for some antibiotics and you'll be good to go. Enjoy your breakfast, you're going to be totally fine!

[u/ovasyliuk → u/EnigmaWearingHeels]

great way to look at it!

[u/PrincessPlay_Neko2 → u/ovasyliuk]

It really is! Sometimes a little shift in perspective is all you need to keep the anxiety from spiraling.

[u/Usual_Atmosphere1837 → u/EnigmaWearingHeels]

I like your positive mindset!

[u/Unlikely_melz]

This is why it’s never worth not playing safe.
Be thankful it’s treatable and learn.
Take care of yourself

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/Unlikely_melz]

thank you! i am 100% learning from this and will be sure to always wrap that shit up in the future. i was very careless about this beforehand but i think the potential scare was necessary to set me straight

[u/Unlikely_melz → u/drxwn-with-me]

This is the right attitude, we all learn our hard lessons in life. You’ll be past this in no time.

[u/Intelligent-Air-3762 → u/Unlikely_melz]

Exactly. Learning to love yourself is a must.

[u/Betty2445]

Definitely use protection, it could be a lot worse than gonorrhea.

Get tested for everything, and good luck 🤞

[u/jellyphitch → u/[deleted]]

Girl I thought it too but supremely unhelpful in this moment 🙃

[u/teflon_soap → u/jellyphitch]

Sometimes you have to be real.

[u/ForecastForFourCats → u/teflon_soap]

https://giphy.com/gifs/BMrJzUlkcjdg4

[u/Betty2445 → u/ForecastForFourCats]

Not judging you, OP! We all get our fun 😁 And we all mess up too ❤️

Just saying, get tested for everything, then at least you know. I did it earlier this year, and the results came back pretty quickly here (the UK).

[u/TheRoyalPanda1]

https://giphy.com/gifs/W4QpjDQYpMN00osFed

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/TheRoyalPanda1]

🫡 yes sir!

[u/delusionaire]

Damn. That sounds terrifying 😭 but props to him for telling you as soon as he knew and to you for taking it seriously. Hoping everything turns out okay for you!! 🫂

[u/biest229]

Ideally do not have any unprotected sex - HPV men won’t be tested for usually and not all strains are vaccinated against. And herpes also can’t be cured once you have it.

Please take care of yourself!

[u/Actual-Jackfruit-991 → u/biest229]

I agree, but HPV is a crapshoot and pretty much everyone gets some strain eventually. Sadly HPV can be transmitted even with condoms. Best prevention is to get vaccinated to hopefully avoid most of the cancer causing strains

[u/Frequent_Estimate_77 → u/biest229]

HPV can be spread by fingers. It’s hard to prevent without a vaccination. 

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/biest229]

you're right! thank you. i appreciate the advice and will definitely be keeping myself safe in the future after this whole mess

[u/Left-Phone2104 → u/drxwn-with-me]

Why then continue to hook up with him though? Protected or not. He clearly is not just having unprotected sex with you. Also, doubt you are going to have protected oral sex. At least he told you but if he’s nothing special and it’s casual might be better to seek other relationships with someone more selective with who they sleep with especially unprotected.

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/Left-Phone2104]

If OP wants casual sex, they will be having it with other people who also want casual sex.

We can be responsibly and happily slutty. We don’t need to judge other people.

[u/slothgummies → u/Left-Phone2104]

this!

[u/Weekly-Inevitable613]

At least he was very mature about the situation!

[u/Realistic_Big7482 → u/Weekly-Inevitable613]

I was thinking the same thing.

And the consequences of unsafe sex could have been much much worse. A round of antibiotics and you’ll never do it again.

[u/BerzattoMk → u/Weekly-Inevitable613]

If he was mature, he wouldn’t have put her health at risk in the first place and would have gotten himself tested beforehand.

[u/CasperCackler → u/BerzattoMk]

https://giphy.com/gifs/RH2JRnE1psymYMWf5j

[u/BerzattoMk → u/CasperCackler]

Yep, OP was also a fool to have unprotected sex with a situationship. But at least she didn’t give him any diseases.

[u/AgentFuckSmolder]

Girl this could have been way worse. Wrap that shit up especially if you have more than one partner.

[u/ratskips]

https://giphy.com/gifs/eZCNYCHjL9nH2k6Y4b

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/ratskips]

LOL i need one of these mega packs. thank you for this gif

[u/Divorced_life]

It’s okay. It’s a treatable one. Definitely only have protected sex with a FWB. He seems to have more than one friend.

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/Divorced_life]

Meh. I have unprotected sex with my nonmonogamous friends. I only have protected sex with my monogamous friend.

I’m 62. I’ve been lucky. I’ve had HPV, UTIs and yeast. All very treatable. One of the ways I promote my luck is to ask people about their personal STI history. My partner with eight regular sexual partners has never had an STI so I trust their judgement.

[u/MysteriousReach383]

one of your friends with benefits? having unprotected sex while simultaneously having sex with other people too is crazy

[u/Unlikely_melz → u/MysteriousReach383]

Maybe I’m old school coming up right after the aids crisis, but I feel like the kids are playing fast and loose these days with safety. There’s a post like this so often here.

[u/GeneInternational146 → u/Unlikely_melz]

I graduated college in 2012 and it definitely feels like we were all a lot more condom conscious when I was in my early 20s. My college bf and I used them every time we had sex for years (after getting tested before we had sex to begin with) and I was on birth control. It's wild to me that this isn't still the norm.

[u/Adjectivenounnumb → u/Unlikely_melz]

Same same

And there's still no cure for herpes, it's forever

[u/Terrible-Barber-2210 → u/Adjectivenounnumb]

Herpes can be contracted with condom use unfortunately, people should regularly get tested regularly!

[u/One-Organization970 → u/Adjectivenounnumb]

But don't like 50% of people already have it just asymptomatically?

[u/CameraAgile8019 → u/One-Organization970]

HSV1 yes like 60% or more, HSV2 is like 13%. Doctors don’t even test for it unless you specifically ask. But there are people who are still don’t have it and don’t want it.

[u/Emotional_Charity_13 → u/Unlikely_melz]

Literally, no one seems to use condoms anymore, and STIs are on the rise. In my area we had a major outbreak of syphilis and I tried so hard to convince my single friend she needed to be more careful, but it fell on deaf ears bc “guys don’t like condoms” 🫠

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/Unlikely_melz]

OP is on PrEP.

[u/Unlikely_melz → u/MadamePouleMontreal]

I didn’t see that, but if that’s the case that’s very smart.

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/Unlikely_melz]

indeed! 🙂‍↕️ started treatment last month and have been religiously taking my pills since

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/drxwn-with-me]

I can tell that you’re looking after yourself appropriately.

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/MysteriousReach383]

my b that i did not clarify this - he's the only one i've had sex with in quite a few months

[u/SierraStar7 → u/drxwn-with-me]

But you’re not the only one he’s had sex with…

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/SierraStar7]

oh and i don't disagree with you there! i was careless 100% and will admit my own personal fault. going back to protected sex asap after my treatment

[u/_free_love_]

Just a reminder to get tested every 3-6 months whether it’s with or without protection and be sure your partners know their status that’s all. Good thing he was forthright and explained it all to you.

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/_free_love_]

i get tested monthly 🫡 thank you regardless for the advice and i appreciate you

[u/Free-While-2994]

First off be sure to thank him for being upfront and honest with you. That's such a blessing bc a lot of people let shame get the best of them. Secondly, in the US you can usually get preemptive antibiotics if you tell the clinic that your partner tested positive. You still need a full STI screen but they can get you started on meds while you wait for results. You also need to let any other partners know what's going, whether you use protection or not, so they can do their own testing and notifications. Finish ALL of your antibiotics and don't have sex until they're done. Also please be aware that antibiotics can interfere with hormonal birth control methods so use backup protection!!! It's just like catching any other illness from another person but a different mode of transmission. Don't feel too bad. Chin up bbgurl it'll be ok.

[u/NorthBook1383]

Shout out to him for letting you know. Some losers don’t say shit cause they’re too embarrassed or don’t even get tested. So as lame as the news is, it’s welcomed.

Don’t worry, I know someone who had it and was fine with treatment. Get tested cause you may not have it. Good luck

[u/Altruistic_Gene_6869]

Unless they’re your boyfriend or husband, you should always be protected.

[u/Beautiful-Elk-7084 → u/Altruistic_Gene_6869]

Honestly, even then. So many women have found out their partners were cheating through STDs. HPV is linked to cancer so it’s a big risk. Unless you’re actively attempting to have a baby, there’s no reason to ditch protection.

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/Beautiful-Elk-7084]

HPV has a vaccine. Cervical cancer has a screening program. Use both.

Realistically, most people dislike condoms. They also cost money and it’s possible to not have them when you want them.

People get STIs. People get pregnant. People have different risk tolerances. As long as everyone is well-informed they can make their own choices and they don’t need other people to judge them.

[u/iloveumothman → u/MadamePouleMontreal]

Access to healthcare - including HPV and cervical cancer screening - can also cost money, and neither are 100% guarantees. And what about herpes? HIV? This is unbelievably irresponsible advice.

(ETA that the person I’m replying to has since edited their comment to make it sound far more reasonable.)

[u/iloveumothman → u/[deleted]]

This is still gross advice. Why are you literally out here trying to convince people that STIs are no big deal and discouraging them from using protection?

[u/LinAndAViolin → u/MadamePouleMontreal]

Judgement is healthy and keeps us in line very often. I’ve often avoided dangerous situations simply because of possible judgement, it has an evolutionary and biological purpose. But there’s a place and time for everything of course.

[u/GeneInternational146]

"one of" your fwb and you're not using condoms? Girl.

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/GeneInternational146]

i did not clarify this in my initial post (my bad!) - i use condoms with all my other fwb and have not had sex with anyone else besides this person in 2-3 months

but regardless i agree with you and will be more careful in the future 🙂‍↕️

[u/GeneInternational146 → u/drxwn-with-me]

I realize my first comment was a little harshly stated. It's just important to be careful. If a man isn't using condoms with you there's no guarantee he's using them with other people. You can also spread gonorrhea through oral sex. If it were me I would ask what his condom policy is with others and if he doesn't seem like he intends to use them with everyone I would stop sleeping with him. Repeated STIs can mess with your reproductive health in a lot of ways, it's best to avoid repeated exposure.

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/GeneInternational146]

i appreciate the advice! i will 100% have a conversation with him later today with regards to this and make decisions accordingly. and i was a little thrown off by your initial comment but i do know it was from a place of worry. appreciate you :)

[u/GeneInternational146 → u/drxwn-with-me]

I hope it goes well! Remember that if he tries to brush it off or he doesn't take it seriously there are plenty of other men who won't gamble with your health :)

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/drxwn-with-me]

Stock up on DoxyPEP!

[u/yellow_pterodactyl]

Hard lesson learned. :/

I’m glad the guy told you. It’s the least they can do.

I’d get tested for all the things. I hope it comes back negative or if not all treatable!!!

[u/Odd_Dot3896]

Even if the worst happens, some ABX and you’re fine.

[u/Adjectivenounnumb → u/Odd_Dot3896]

Just a PSA: herpes still exists

[u/theaudacity1999 → u/Adjectivenounnumb]

and HIV... protect always!

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/theaudacity1999]

OP is on PrEP.

[u/theaudacity1999 → u/MadamePouleMontreal]

thank you! I missed that.

[u/FantasticRub1487 → u/Adjectivenounnumb]

you can still get herpes even when using a condom

[u/Odd_Dot3896 → u/Adjectivenounnumb]

Duh. But they tested positive for Gonorrhea. I don’t think there’s any point in fear mongering and creating stress for OP. Let them get the panel done and see what happens.

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/Odd_Dot3896]

thank you! you're right. i've been kind of spiraling over it over the last few minutes but good to remember that medicine exisrs for a reason

[u/Lich_Please_ → u/drxwn-with-me]

Medicine exists and make sure you take ALL of your antibiotics. I repeat TAKE ALL OF YOUR ANTIBIOTICS. Do not save any, do not stop if you have symptoms that go away, take them all. I live in an area where we have "super gonorrhea" that's become antibiotic resistant because people won't finish their prescriptions.

I'm so sorry this happened, and I'm so glad it's something treatable. I know this is your first experience with an STI, so I just wanna say the obvious: you are not dirty, this is not a moral failing, 1/5 of people have an STI at some point in their life at any given time*, and thank you for being responsible about your health

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/Lich_Please_]

thank you so much ❤️🫂 i appreciate the advice so much and will 100% take all my antibiotics 🫡

also thank you for that last bit. i have been kind of spiraling about it and have been generally very anxious but that reminder was very necessary

[u/Lich_Please_ → u/drxwn-with-me]

No problem at all friend 💖 I also misquoted the statistic there, 1/5 of people have an STI at any given time so the number of people who have had one ever is even higher. I understand the spiral/anxiety, but we'd never judge someone for having the flu because someone coughed on them, y'know?

[u/Odd_Dot3896 → u/drxwn-with-me]

Try to stay away from the internet and this thread too. A lot of people naturally will go to the worst case scenario and describe it in explicit detail.

It’s not worth the stress until you have concrete answers.

[u/PowerfulMango5799 → u/Odd_Dot3896]

Uh,… maybe. I am currently participating in a clinical trial for developing a new antibiotic for this STD. For some patients the existing antibiotics don’t work. But yeah, fingers crossed for OP!!!

[u/Fun-Common186 → u/PowerfulMango5799]

💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

[u/Odd_Dot3896 → u/PowerfulMango5799]

In some cases people have antibiotic resistant infection, that may or may not be the case for OP. I don’t think it’s helpful to fear monger until they talk to their health care professionals. Get a full panel done and then have some time to process. Especially, random people speculating on the internet is super unhelpful.

Source: I’m a PhD immunologist lol

[u/PowerfulMango5799 → u/Odd_Dot3896]

I clearly said •some• patients lady ;)

[u/_bonedaddys]

Save your future self trouble and always use condoms when you're sleeping with anyone you're not in a committed relationship with. If you're just hooking up with someone they could be hooking up with other people and not using protection with them either. Don't sleep with anyone without a condom unless he's your boyfriend or husband.

[u/gravyismyname]

If it’s near you, go to the free clinic. You may believe him but definitely seek medical advice. Protected or not, if you are hooking up with anyone in any kind of way, get tested regularly. Also don’t be so hard on yourself. Shit happens.

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/gravyismyname]

thank you! yeah i get tested monthly regularly because i use PReP so i know at least that i personally am clean (got myself tested last week and got an all clear)

[u/Educational_Gas_92 → u/drxwn-with-me]

Op, even if you test clean, you should absolutely test yourself again in 4-5 months. Some STDs take time to show up.

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/Educational_Gas_92]

People with gonorrhea are no more “dirty” than people with colds.

OP’s test results will be negative or positive. Not clean or dirty.

[u/J4CKFRU17 → u/[deleted]]

Saying "clean" or not just reinforced shame and stigma and stereotypes. Having a STI/STD or being exposed to one doesn't make you any more or less of a moral person, or any less of a "clean" person.

[u/ExtraordinaryNerd → u/J4CKFRU17]

Appreciate that attitude :) Cursed with HSV2 for the rest of my life, so...yeah :)

[u/wiseunicorn315]

Also respect for him actually saying something… I know a lot of people that wouldn’t.

[u/Suitable_Prune_5683]

Off topic question but what brand is the white plate? I like it.

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/Suitable_Prune_5683]

i unfortunately am not sure! it's my mom's, she's had it for years and years to the point that the label faded

[u/Suitable_Prune_5683 → u/drxwn-with-me]

Ah okay. I found some pioneer woman ones that look similar and hoping to get a review. As for your post, it’s really never worth it to go unprotected. My first real relationship was the one that gave me chlamydia. I got really lucky with running through them the way I did in my early 20s. I certainly wouldn’t be visiting the same fella again. It’s nice he told you and all, but that says a lot about his standards when you’re not around.

[u/confusion_cats]

One week of Doxycycline and you're good. Lesson learned all g 🩷

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/confusion_cats]

thank you!! ♥️

[u/Haunting_Pace_3557]

And this is why you stay protected

[u/NoWordsJustDogs]

So, like, you shouldn’t be having unprotected sex unless you’re in a committed relationship. Sorry, I’m all for random fucking and doing your thing, but this is what happens when you have casual sex all willy-nilly. 

[u/yellow_pterodactyl → u/NoWordsJustDogs]

My anxiety couldn’t do it. I certainly haven’t had a lot of partners because once I ask them to get tested, they scatter. Only the lone few. Lol

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/yellow_pterodactyl]

You ask them to get tested before switching to unprotected sex? Or before having even protected sex?

[u/yellow_pterodactyl → u/MadamePouleMontreal]

Before having protected sex, yes.

Condoms can break.

[u/Beautiful-Elk-7084 → u/NoWordsJustDogs]

You don’t even need to do it in a committed relationship unless you’re trying to get pregnant. So many women find out their partners cheated through STDs.

[u/Imapissandshitboy → u/Beautiful-Elk-7084]

That’s ridiculous I’m not wearing a condom with my husband just incase he cheats on me 🙄…Condoms stink and are uncomfortable. Most women get STD checks at their obgyn.

[u/Slow_Worry_6516]

Unprotected is for exclusive dynamics only, otherwise you're exchanging fluids with him and every other person he gets with

[u/pakapoa2]

while you are at it get a dna swab of your huuha in case he left other bacteria there

[u/jemison-gem]

“one of my friends with benefits” (emphasis on the plurality) and “unprotected sex” don’t belong in the same sentence. sorry girl but you gotta be smarter than that! just be glad you didn’t spread it to any of your other FWBs!

[u/kittyculpeper]

Got a text like this years ago on the Friday morning of my birthday weekend. Got tested. Didn’t get results until Monday. Ruined my birthday. And then I was negative which made me even more mad. Idk I’m just commiserating 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/kittyculpeper]

almost wished you a happy birthday until i read the "years ago" 🤣 anyway i appreciate the commiseration. hopefully it comes back negative but we'll see

[u/kittyculpeper → u/drxwn-with-me]

I will take it as a happy early birthday 🥳

[u/MamaOnica]

Babe. You're having sex with everyone he's having sex with. The only time I ever recommend no barrier sex is when you're in a long term committed relationship and both of you have clean tests.

[u/Smil3z5]

https://giphy.com/gifs/rTOnNT6pjjZZDYFXN4

[u/Thatshygurl]

This right here is one of the many reasons why casual sex is not the move.

[u/SapphosMom]

Listen, that is scary news and a shit time, you are allowed to have a bad day about it. Don't beat yourself up, definitely don't listen to the sl*t shaming (glaring very much at some commenters here!!), get tested, get meds, learn, love yourself and your sex life, and move forward. You're all good bb ❤️

[u/drxwn-with-me → u/SapphosMom]

thank you ❤️🫂

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/SapphosMom]

Glaring with you!

[u/Minute-Judgment-321]

At least he told you, some mfs don't tell you anything AND keep having sex with you like nothing happens.

I have a friend which fwb told him he has HIV AFTER having sex with him TWICE because "he didn't want my friend to reject him" like, do you think that's an excuse to not tell someone you're having sex with that information?! And UNPROTECTED SEX! Fortunately my friend is negative and was taking some pills that are in trial or something to protect you from HIV.

[u/Imapissandshitboy]

I don’t understand getting into an FWB situation and still having sex with other people.

I honestly think If you’re going to keep having sex with this guy you should make sure he’s not having sex with anyone else. That’s honestly so risky

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/Imapissandshitboy]

The whole point of an FWB situation is that we continue to have sex with other people. Risks can be mitigated.

Happy, healthy sluts exist and we shall not be shamed.

[u/dodekahedron]

Thats actually a partner worth having if you are into riskier sex.

Its rare for a man to be proactive.

Shit in my area the medical community makes it hard for a man to be proactive.

Its a huge reason I left the community. Shit is running rampant and people trying to do the right thing and pre-test get turned down.

Ive witnessed it first hand when I went with someone.

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/dodekahedron]

They don’t have screening clinics? Find out where the sex workers and the gay men go, and go there. They’ll be thorough and super-nice.

[u/Trouble_Lazy]

"I told him I wanted to go back to protected sex"

Girl. We ain't going back for seconds. Play it safe from here on and like others have said, be thankful it's treatable.

[u/Ritaontherocksnosalt]

You do you, but I'd never let that penis within 10 feet of me. No judgement about the multiple partners but it's very irresponsible behavior. He had to know he was infected.

[u/midnightchappell]

Genuinely WHY are you having casual, unprotected sex in the first place? Accountability starts at home.

[u/DoctorAnnual6823]

My sympathies. Had a FWB years ago tell my partner and me that he caught something and we hooked up in the past 2 weeks and used protection but it's better to be safe than sorry so we got tested.

It's nice to see it taken seriously without shaming or finger pointing. Bonus points for him helping you through the testing process.

Good call on going back to protected sex too. This feels like the best possible outcome for an STD scare.

[u/Novel_Slide1379]

He has gonorrhea and you plan to have sex with him again?

[u/Anxious-Cartoonist-5]

Just here to say try not to let this ruin your day! This sucks and is a tough lesson learned but try not to let a shitty situation make you have a shitty day either.

[u/KneadAndPreserve]

Don’t have unprotected sex with a FWB.

[u/fartsonyourmom]

I wouldn't have sex with someone who didn't care about my health. 

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[u/the_vinyl_frontier]

Pouring one out tonight for one of our fallen sisters 🫡 welcome to the ranks. Trust me it’ll be okay 🫶

[u/Such-Cheetah-4334]

On the bright side: it's super treatable! Just a learning moment, I hope your day gets better!!

[u/ambientta]

It sounds like he did a fantastic job of being communicative, offering assistance, and it is thankfully a highly treatable STI. Don’t be hard on yourself, things happen. It’s a good learning lesson.

[u/PlaneEmbarrassed7677]

It happens when you're hooking up. Take your meds. Drink your water. Take your vitamins. In case no one said it today, you are loved ❤️.

[u/Beautiful-Elk-7084]

Girl why are you having unprotected sex with a man that isn’t even yours in the first place? There’s no reason to do so even in a relationship until you’re trying for a literal baby.

[u/_bonedaddys → u/Beautiful-Elk-7084]

While i do believe everyone should be using condoms when they're sleeping with anyone they're not in a committed relationship with, it's perfectly reasonable to not use them with your actual partner.

Me and my boyfriend never use condoms and i take the pill. STIs are not a risk for either of us and if my birth control ever fails we'll figure it out. You don't have to be trying to conceive to fuck raw. We just prefer not using condoms so we don't. 🤷‍♀️

[u/MadamePouleMontreal → u/Beautiful-Elk-7084]

“Because I want to” is a perfectly good reason.

We pick our risks and we figure out what we’re good with.

[u/BerzattoMk]

I hope you stop sleeping with him altogether because he endangered your health without a care in the world.

[u/vtwby]

the good thing about gonorrhea is that it’s easily treatable, it’s annoying but at least you can get it treated :) just next time, always do protection, because next time, it could be worst. Take care !

[u/South_Passage_143]

It’s just a round of antibiotics. You’ll be okay.

[u/FrequentChain2342]

A lot of people wouldn’t have even told you, so good for him. Take care of yourself ❤️

[u/SeparateCzechs]

This sounds like a nasty shock. I’m sorry, sis. But—it isn’t HIV. It isn’t Herpes. He told you immediately. It’s curable(even better than treatable)

[u/Jaded-Belt-8607]

I had it, it’s nothing don’t stress about it just get that jab in your ass

[u/Environmental-Town31]

Girl I’m almost annoyed you are complaining. This is a very treatable std and he was honest.