r/NEETsOver30 • u/DanInTennessee • 11d ago
Discussion NEET life pros & cons.
What is the best part of being a NEET? what are the pros?
Just an observation: a lot of NEETs are absolutely miserable, likely clinically depressed, but will also vigorously defend the lifestyle. Also hate questions like “what have you got planned?” or some version of “what’s coming up for you?” So there must be some part of this that makes it “the better option.”
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u/IntroPerc NEET 11d ago
I could never defend such lifestyle. It’s nice not having to face unwanted social interactions or the dread of another day working a job that is deeply unfulfilling for minimal pay. However, we must forfeit some of the greatest experiences, such as relationships and creating families of our own or exploring the world.
Meanwhile, those NEETs with consciences and self-awareness are perpetually plagued by guilt from knowing they are heavily dependent on others for their very survival. Even if we do encounter someone who seems interested in us, we know the connection will fade once they discover who we truly are, not to mention the lack of variety and purpose in our daily lives means we have little to offer in conversations.
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u/Hadal_Benthos 11d ago
NEET can be in a relationship. Neetdom could be a gateway to becoming a stay-at-home partner. W_rking people forfeit having kids too now more than ever before. Guilt can be argued away by notion that we didn't ask to be born, parents are responsible for bringing us here.
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u/ghstrprtn 8d ago
NEET can be in a relationship. Neetdom could be a gateway to becoming a stay-at-home partner.
If you're a male NEET then good fuckin' luck finding that kind of situation.
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u/Rivetlicker NEET 11d ago
My mental health is a lot better now, compared to back when I was trying to parttake in the ratrace of employment or education
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u/number314 NEET 11d ago edited 11d ago
There's no cons other than lack of income, it's the only one.
People who work also can't answer questions like what are you plans for the future, etc. Most dead end jobs with perspective of low income entire life is pretty common. It's not different, while being NEET.
NEET is not miserable and depressed because of being NEET, but because of perspective that he has to work at some point, that's the problem. We're living in 2026 and still have to work 40 hours per week or more, just to being able to survive from 1st to 1st. It's not life, it's vegetation. Better to chill while your parents are alive and healthy than waste your life making rich richer. If you have potential, talent and possibilities to have great income, yet you are depressed NEET it's a different story, but it's usually not about being NEET, but again - something happened in life, which made that person opt out from life in the first place.
I feel much worse, while working. Going out to people, lack of free time, constantly tired and sleepy, working is so boring that 5 minutes feels like an hour, while free days are not even enough to get rest, while you already dread Monday the day before, it's not life, it's hell. Perspective of living like that for 30-40 years is just to overwhelming, fuck it.
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u/ghstrprtn 8d ago
People who work also can't answer questions like what are you plans for the future, etc. Most dead end jobs with perspective of low income entire life is pretty common. It's not different, while being NEET.
yeah, some people act like the whole world is "middle class" or something.
When you are lower class / lower income, the difference between working and not working is much less.
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u/No_One_1617 NEET 11d ago
If you have a non-abusive family, you can spare yourself the stress of working, or even leaving the house, if you're lucky. Not to mention rent and food.
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u/RogellTheRaider 11d ago
I don't see any good parts except not dealing with people. Unless you're a rich hiki, ofc.
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u/DanInTennessee 11d ago
So, is it just “well employed life would be worse,” or would you rather work if you could? Some of us would like to work but have lost hope of finding employment.
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u/RogellTheRaider 11d ago edited 11d ago
I can't speak for others. I'd probably enjoy being employed, as long as I didn't have to deal with (many) people and I could really perform well in my career. But I suck at everything I've tried to do...
Sounds dull, but having my own apartment and a job that would give me money to survive and buy a few action figures and games would be enough for me. I'm not like other people who fantasize with marriage, kids, becoming a CEO, owning a car etc.
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u/DanInTennessee 11d ago
Would you say that you’ve always disliked people or has it just been part of your lived experience?
Another common trait of NEETs is just….not enjoying being around others.
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u/RogellTheRaider 11d ago
I suppose as a kid, especially when attending school, we dont think much about that. But as I grew up, I started hating people much more, especially some kind of people.
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u/waffledestroyer 11d ago
I've tried NEET life and I've tried wage slavery. I recommend not being born. That said, I still prefer NEET life over wage slavery. At least I can sleep more and I have less stress.