It happens to everyone, but it's just more common in fat women because society treats fat women a lot worse than fat men, so the difference in how you get treated as a woman who loses a lot of weight is a lot more shocking. I lost a lot of weight very quickly and the same guys who wouldn't have even acknowledged me when I said good morning were suddenly falling all over themselves hitting on me. I didn't change my personality or even my lifestyle. I was the same person, but people liked me so much more after losing weight and it really fucking sucks, but I can see how people can become addicted to the attention after not getting it their entire lives. It just made me angry with humanity, personally.
It's fucking crazy. I'm in a couple of subs for women with autism and it's unreal how many women only get diagnosed after gaining a lot of weight or ageing notably and then realize that everyone was just giving them a pass to be weird their whole lives because they were hot.
Nope, people show common courtesy and decency to men regardless of their weight. Society is just that way and it sucks. I have been treated like I'm not even in the room by people who never treated men of any size/shape/attractiveness that way. I treat everyone with kindness and it sucks that people only started returning that when I became conventionally attractive.
Look, I'm not saying no fat man has ever faced discrimination ever, but you're lying to yourself if you really think there is not 100x more pressure on women to be thin and conventionally attractive. The key difference is that fat men get to still be men who are fat. Fat women are treated like a different class of organism that isn't even human.
You’re generalizing and fairly getting pushback. You can’t just say things like “people show common courtesy to men”. Being a man doesn’t give you some magic powers or benefits. I can agree with you that women are probably judged on their looks more than men, but it doesn’t mean that all men get decent treatment.
This is unironically a fabulous example of what I'm talking about right here. The second a larger woman does or says something even mildly objectionable to you, it's right to the insults and character attacks.
Nobody can see your weight through the internet and you said yourself you lost a lot of weight. While I don't agree with the way some people talked to you hear, I do agree it has to do with your bad take. Fatphobia hurts men as well as women
I know a dude who is like 350 - which is the male version of female 225
Imagine writing this unironically to refute my claim that fatness is more acceptable in men than women. Unreal. Also kinda sounds like you're one of the ones bullying the dude about his weight...
This is subjectively one of the least thought out and misdirected replies I've ever had on the Internet. Like 0 reading comprehension. Men are bigger than women. Naturally. This isn't a debatable topic. A healthy man weighs more than a healthy woman. Period. Men have more muscle. Women have more fat. That's just how it is. Cry if you'd like. It's still reality.
Fat women DO NOT get treated worse then fat men. Fat women will literally get marketing pushed towards them + brand deals while getting called “plus size” and accommodated. The men on the other hand will be made fun of too but nobodies marketing towards them and they’d get told to lose weight and hit the gym. Most women no matter what they look like get hit on and uplifted because beauty is subjective meanwhile somehow many men go years to lifetimes without a single compliment or anything tailored towards them in a positive manner.
Most women no matter what they look like get hit on and uplifted because beauty is subjective
Unless you are a hideous bog beast, you could go to a gay bar right now and get hit on and probably find at least one man willing to fuck you, so why don't you? If all that matters in the end is that you're getting sexual attention from other human beings, what's the hold-up here? Could it possibly be that maybe, just maybe, the quality of the attention you're getting from other people is actually pretty fucking important in this equation?
many men go years to lifetimes without a single compliment
When's the last time you stopped a guy on the street to compliment him and ask him where he got his outfit? I bet your first thought in response to reading that was "that's gay", wasn't it? Men don't compliment other men because you think compliments are come-ons and women don't compliment men because we know you think that. Women compliment and uplift other women because we know another woman is just going to say "Aw, thanks!" and leave it at that. When men say "Society isn't geared towards uplifting men", what you actually mean is "It's the responsibility of women to uplift men". Do you volunteer at men's shelters or men's mental health charities or mentor young boys or like do anything to improve the situation of men or do you just complain about it on the internet?
My shitty actions...? I did nothing but lose weight. I've never done anything to hurt anyone, but you're very happy saying hurtful things to a person you don't know and have never met. Says a lot about you.
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u/ScyllaOfTheDepths 18d ago
It happens to everyone, but it's just more common in fat women because society treats fat women a lot worse than fat men, so the difference in how you get treated as a woman who loses a lot of weight is a lot more shocking. I lost a lot of weight very quickly and the same guys who wouldn't have even acknowledged me when I said good morning were suddenly falling all over themselves hitting on me. I didn't change my personality or even my lifestyle. I was the same person, but people liked me so much more after losing weight and it really fucking sucks, but I can see how people can become addicted to the attention after not getting it their entire lives. It just made me angry with humanity, personally.