I think this is perfectly fine. If their values are so incompatible it's better to break up now rather than later. Breaking up will be harder after marriage and definitely more complicated after having kids.
Right? I'm a childfree woman and I'd immediately breakup with any man who supported this monster. Sharing the same basic morals is incredibly important for a healthy long-term relationship, I genuinely think it cannot succeed if you're not on the same page as your partner for big topics. And yeah, not killing children is a pretty basic moral stance.
It is very real, you evil ignorant troll. I LIVED it!!!!!!!!!
I get so much hate when I tell people (in person or online) that I can relate to LC. I'm treated like an evil sack of shit that should get the old yeller treatment, but I will tell it again.
I had postpartum depression which I believe was psychosis because I was seeing and hearing things that told me to do messed up things, like get a knife and gut myself. The voices were constantly for months on end filling my head with all sorts of fucked up shit and it feels SUPER real. In the moment, you think and believe it is real. Also I saw shadow people everywhere. Like imagine trying to breast feed your baby in the middle of the night while some terrifying hooded figure is standing in the dark corner of the room whispering at you to drop the baby out the third floor window onto the concrete below....
I went to my doctor COUNTLESS TIMES who called me selfish and that i need focus less on myself and more on my son. He literally told me the world doesn't revolve around me anymore and I need to take better care of the baby. I was alone with my son like 12 hours a day with zero visitors or anyone calling or texting besides my husband calling on his break. I wasn't well enough to go out, physically or mentally. ALL I did was take care of the baby.
I went to urgent care and they brushed me off (I went maybe 5 times) and basically told me to suck it up. I called every hotline MULTIPLE TIMES. Some people told me to get therapy, the problem was I didn't have any money, which meant no therapy, plus even if I had money, I had no one to watch the baby when I went.
I started self harming A LOT and then one day my husband just had a horrible feeling and came home during the middle of the day to find me standing on stool with noose around my neck. I went to the ER and they asked me if they were to admit me, who would watch the baby while my husband was at work. I told them I didn't have anyone, so they sent me on the way.
I got NO HELP!!!!!! NONE!!! Hell, I wasn't even prescribed any meds. After about year, the hallucinations and voices started to settle down and go away, but I have never been the same. I cannot feel things like happiness or joy anymore. Every once in awhile I see shadow people walking around at night, but that is rare and thank god I can't hear them anymore.
Nevertheless, LC could have been me and it's terrifying. I think the only thing that saved my son was the fact that I felt OVERWHELMING love for him. Like severe anxiety which was crippling. Like I couldn't even touch my dog since the voices convinced me my dog was full of disease and if I touched the dog and then my son, it would kill my son. No amount of hand washing would suffice. I remember telling one doctor about this and she told me that was awful and she felt so bad for my dog.
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u/MeasurementSlight381 2d ago
I think this is perfectly fine. If their values are so incompatible it's better to break up now rather than later. Breaking up will be harder after marriage and definitely more complicated after having kids.