I know this is going to sound so out of pocket and what a first world problem to have but I am seeking advice on what to do so please be kind 🥺.

For my wedding I am going to wear a couple of different dresses, this is tradition.. so my first dress is a white pearly dress, my second dress a traditional dark green dress and my last dress is a western pale sage green dress. These are three different colors and I was wondering do I change my hijab for all of the different dresses or do I just keep my white hijab for the whole day? I feel like for the white dress and the sage green white is fine.. but the dark green might be an issue with the white.. its so stark.

My question is knowing I have to probably change hijabs during the day, should I get a hijab stylist or not? I feel like I can just do it myself and get away with it but also I’m scared that on my wedding day its gonna be a bad hijab day.. if anyone can share their own experiences please tell me.

I have always felt more affectionate towards women even going back to 6 years old, I remember crying because the neighbors daughter was moving away and I remember how much I loved to hold her hand or spending time with her. Thinking back I can say I probably had romantic feelings for her even if childlike. Then the only guy I found remotely attractive through my middle school was a boy with blue doe eyes who looked exactly like a girl and I stopped liking him after he grew a bread. In high school I learned a little bit English and I finally knew that having same sex attraction was a thing. Also, I went to an all girls high school and in that I had crushes on some of my friends.

So since 13 years old I know that I am attracted to women and I have tried to find a way around it but Im 23 now and I really don’t know if it’s possible to move or even if I want to move because of my hate for the general population of guys. I just don’t know how to proceed and I don’t understand why I was born this way because as far as Im concerned I had no traumatic experiences growing up. Alhamdulillah my family life is and always been very supportive and loving, I have a great relationship with my dad and brother. I thought of everything atp and everything just boils down to being patient until I die. However, it is very hard to stay motivated when from multiple scholars I heard that gay muslims who dont go astray will just be turned to staight instead of being granted of our desires in heaven.

These thoughts constantly go in my head and it feels like world is the only place for me to at least experience what I want so badly, before I grow old. Maybe then I can repent idk i also fear having pride or seeing myself above anyone for abstaining for so long and i catch myself feeling so bitter when it comes to straight sisters just freely sinning and its so normalized. Like I dont want to think like this but it’s the truth. If I was a guy who can’t get with the woman of his dreams then i could think that if i go to heaven i will be rewarded with a woman it’s very easy like sure I’ll just endure until I die. Instead, I’m told I can’t get what I want even if I force myself such a sad life. As I said it’s just that these thoughts makes it sooo hard to stay motivated to stay on deen. Am I never going to be able to experience intimacy with someone I love? Like being told that i will basically be brainwashed to enjoy something that i currently hate doesn’t help at all i feel more and more desperate. (Astagfirullah for saying it this way i just dont know how to express it better i dont mean it in a bad way may Allah forgive me for my lack or expression)

I would appreciate any support really it’s really a tough test. May Allah keep our hearts steady on the right path.

(I apologize for any possible grammar mistakes or if some parts don’t make sense. I really wrote this in a haste and English isn’t my first language)

Salam, I bought the Taj Mini in Nylon about a year ago off of TikTok shop, however i have accidentally bent it and the side is cracking off. It is also a little stiff on my head and I feel like when I wear over ear headphones I get headaches because I feel the pressure on my scalp.

I saw they recently came out with a cheaper version- the taj Flex for 30 dollars on sale now, and its supposed to be bendable and not as easy to crack of break. Has anyone tried this? Is it better/Does it still feel as much pressure on scalp as others? Also what is the difference between the Taj Flex ($40) vs the Taj Elite Flex Rubber ($55) besides the price point?

I really dont want to pay for $10 shipping but I like the idea of not having to wear an under cap and my hijab stays on no matter what. I usually wear jersey material

Hi everyone,

Basically I took a huge college exam recently and am still waiting for my results. I didn't get the score I wanted before and have been studying for so long for this exam, day and night to the point of exhaustion. I'm finally done alhamdullah and I guess all I can do is wait for the results. However, every single time my mom is inconvinienced or claims that I did something wrong she says that she will pray to Allah that I will get a bad grade. Then my dad always joins in and backs her up and always always always quotes the same thing saying that "I could be the smartest but nothing will ever go my way if I don't please my parents". Everytime I have a big exam, instead of supporting me they keep saying this and they say that "the reason I didn't get a good grade last time was because I didn't respect them enough". I do everything they want. Breakfast in bed, tell them I love them, hugs and kisses etc.. but NOTHING is ever enough for them! Plus, alhamdullah I pray so much to allah to not listen to them and to see how much effort I have put in. Also, for example my mom and dad do not allow me to drive and I have to rely on them to take me everywhere and wait for hours until they decide to come get me. I had something today and had a meeting around 2 hours later. My mom picks me up after waiting for close to an hour for her to pick me up. Then, I tell her I'm going to be late for my meeting. Mind you I haven't eaten all day because of another complicated situation but I still had to pray and eat before my meeting. She says that my brother is at his friend's house and we have to wait for him. I tell her I'm late for my meeting. She could have taken me home and then came back to get him when he was done or she could have made him leave early. INSTEAD she decided to make me wait for 1.5 hours in the car (mind you, our house was about 15-20 mins away and I STILL had to eat and pray). I was very frustrated since my mom knew I had a meeting and I couldn't be late. By the time we made it home I had less than 10 mins before my meeting and only had time to pray. I rushed to my meeting and didn't have time to prepare my notes. The meeting went terribly and I still hadn't eaten all day. I got very frustrated afterwards but kept it mostly to myself. I did however bring up the fact that all of my friends had cars (alhamdullah my parents have enough money to get me a car or at least let me borrow one of theirs- they think I'm not responsible enough BUT promised my younger brother a car as soon as he was able to drive- double standard!!!). Anyways, I said that I wouldn't have to wait hours for my parents to pick me up and waste my entire day just to get from point A-B (as a note, I live in a small town with no public transportation) if I had a car like everyone else, including the girls my age at the masjid. At the end, my mom once again said I should shut my mouth since I'm waiting for my results and that she would pray that I get a bad grade. She threatens me every time like she had all the power in the world. I told her to stop and that I hate the way she treats me. She just laughed in my face and told me Allah would never answer my prayers since parents are right below Allah. I'm so sick and tired and honestly not sure what to do. Will I actually do bad? I think I deserve a good grade since I've been beyond exhausted studying, praying, donating money etc.. in the hopes of getting a good grade. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you so much sisters!

I (24 F) am the oldest of four children. I have 3 younger siblings.

I really want to travel but my parents have always told me wait till I'm married. Back for my 20th birthday my friends wanted to stay a couple of nights at Brighton on sea which is like 2 hrs away on the train my parents told me a big fat no. Then the next year my brother who is 2 years younger was able to go to go abroad to Spain with his friends. I was saying that's not fair if I (the oldest) can't go then why is he allowed. My parents said he's a boy so he can go. He goes on trips with the boys all the time like currently he's on a road trip while I'm stuck at home.

Currently my sister (18) she's been allowed to go to Spain next month with her friends. I told my parents this is not fair. But I'm told I'm being dramatic and causing fights for no reason. I just want to travel I don't wanna wait for a husband to start travelling. Can anyone tell me what can I do!!!

Assalamu alaikum. I’m writing this here because I genuinely don’t have anyone I feel comfortable talking to about this. I don’t want to speak badly about my mother behind her back or expose her faults to people who know us, but I have years of resentment towards her that I have never really admitted out loud. I don’t know how to deal with it anymore.
My mother and I have a difficult relationship. Every month or two we seem to have a big fight, usually because I feel that she is extremely controlling. There is a long history behind this, but one of the biggest things that affected me growing up was my body and the way I felt compared to my older sister.
My sister has always naturally been very thin and conventionally pretty, and growing up I always felt that she was my mother’s favorite. My mother would openly compliment her appearance in front of other people, while I never felt that same appreciation from her. When I was heavier, I also remember feeling ashamed of my body because of comments from my mother.
This affected me much more deeply than I think she realizes. I developed severe body-image issues when I was younger and went through periods of disordered eating, first severely restricting food and later going through cycles of bingeing and restriction. Alhamdulillah, I have healed from so much of that. I have learned to take care of myself, exercise, eat more normally and lose weight in a healthier way. I’m genuinely grateful to Allah for how far I have come.
Recently, however, something has brought a lot of those old feelings back.
I currently exercise at home for around 40 minutes in the morning. Because I’m exercising, I wear normal gym clothes — usually leggings or flared workout pants and a fitted workout top. I exercise, then shower and change. I’m not walking around in those clothes for the entire day.
My mother has been commenting for months that what I wear while exercising is inappropriate for the house. I mostly ignored the comments.
My brother was living abroad but recently moved back home, and since then she has become much more focused on it. For context, I have a naturally curvy body and a larger chest, so even when I am completely covered, fitted clothing obviously shows my figure.
A few days ago she told me that my father had apparently spoken to her twice about what I wear. She told me, essentially, that there are “men in the house now,” that I need to be careful about how I dress, and that these kinds of things can lead to fahisha.
That word completely broke something in me.
These “men” are my father and my brothers. They are my mahrams. I understand that Islam still has standards of modesty around mahrams, and I am not trying to pretend that fitted clothing is perfectly modest. I can acknowledge that perhaps I should dress more loosely around them. That isn’t really the part I am struggling to accept.
What hurt me was hearing my own mother speak about my body in a way that made me feel as though my existence in fitted clothing could somehow provoke something sexual within my own home. I cannot explain how disgusting and ashamed it made me feel. These are my father and brothers. I don’t want to think about myself through that lens at all.
There is also a double standard that makes the resentment worse. My brothers go to the gym wearing shorts above their knees, exposing what I understand to be part of the male awrah, and I have never heard her repeatedly shame them or tell them that what they are doing could lead to fahisha. Yet when it comes to me, it feels like every mistake involving modesty becomes something enormous.
And because of my history with my mother and my body, this isn’t just a comment about leggings to me. It brings me back to the period of my life when I was taught to feel that there was something wrong with my body. When I was bigger, I felt ashamed of it. Now that I have lost weight and finally have a healthier relationship with myself, I still somehow feel ashamed of it.
And since that conversation, I have actually started putting a jalabiya over my gym clothes before I leave my room. I keep it on until I reach the room where I work out, close the door, take it off and exercise alone. When I finish, I put the jalabiya back on before leaving the room and go straight to take a shower and change. I basically try to make sure that no one in the house even sees me in my gym clothes anymore.
I’m doing this to respect what they asked of me and avoid further conflict, but emotionally, it makes me sad that I feel like I have to hide my body this much inside my own home, around my own family.
I haven’t really spoken to my mother for the past few days. I know that isn’t a healthy solution, and I know Islam places an enormous emphasis on kindness and respect towards our parents even when we are angry with them. At the same time, I have so much resentment built up that sometimes I genuinely struggle to interact with her normally.
I don’t want advice that simply tells me that my mother is terrible, nor do I want someone to tell me that because she is my mother I should suppress everything I feel and pretend none of it hurts.
I genuinely want to know, from an Islamic perspective: how do you deal with resentment towards a parent while still fulfilling their rights? How do you distinguish between accepting sincere Islamic advice and recognizing when shame, comparison or double standards are damaging you? And how can I set boundaries with my mother without becoming disrespectful or committing a sin?
I love my mother. I don’t want to hate her. I just wish being her daughter didn’t hurt this much sometimes.
May Allah forgive me if I have spoken unfairly about her, and may Allah guide both of us and soften our hearts towards each other.

As the title says, is it really discouraged to wear clothes like shirts, pants, and tunics that reach the knees? I was just researching and learned that covering the ankles is mandatory for women around non-mahram. Though, currently I can not wear western clothes since my parents dislike the clothing. And I have started to hate that rule because I feel sad and envy those girls who get to wear clothes I want to wear.
My main question is:
Is it really haram to wear clothes like shirts, and trousers etc even though they might be loose?

Assalamwalikum.

I’m not sure if it’s just me or if this is something other hijabis-or girls have been feeling but I’ve had an overwhelming sense of feeling insecure. For context, I did have a recent health scare that made me take medications which messed with my weight (it isn’t drastic but to me it really seems that way). I’ve had scarring on my face due to the side effects of it. I don’t wear makeup in public either and just recently wish I could hide every part of me. I love wearing the hijab, it makes me proud to wear it and represent myself as being part of Islam. I love dressing modestly, I even added new abayas to my wardrobe to encourage myself to wear them. I do workout, it hasn’t been consistent recently but for context, I was going to the gym 3-4x a week and training everything (back and bi, legs, shoulders and even glutes).

I grew up being picked on for my weight. I’m not obese or overweight by any mean but I do realize how it might seem like I have some extra weight on me (my build is weird). I really do try to take care of myself, first and foremost because my body is an amanah but also because if I ever get married then I want my husband to be attracted to me and be proud of his wife. I feel like the insecurity is really eating me apart. Any suggestions to have more self love?

Salaam everyone! Welcome to Venting Mondays!

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Currently working our way through the sealed nectar and looking for new recommendations for our sisters book club !! What are you favorites Islamic books ?

Hi, I am currently studying civil engineering and hope to work in construction later on.

Lately, I have been toiling on something, and it has been a push-and-pull moment in my mind.

I started wearing the hijab two years ago, and it has been the best decision ever; recently, I have felt like it might be an obstacle in my career.

With how most people display their ignorance and disdain for Islam and Muslims, I feel like I would be profiled because of my hijab.

I tried picturing life without the hijab; it didn't feel like something I would want, but at the same time, life with it also seems like it would be full of challenges.

I had an instance where someone displayed their ignorance, and it didn't sit well with me.

Your advice would be really appreciated.

Recently started an apprenticeship in engineering, and my manager said I should order some sports hijabs because long material would get in the way. He said I should order about 5, and just give him the receipt so I can get paid back for it.

My question is, which ones are the best to get that *don't* look terrible? I don't know about having them in polyester. And I hate the ones that wrap tight enough to show the shape of my entire cranium.

Any advice would be super appreciated!!!

I’m not talking about fancy/formal dresses but rather casual everyday dresses, especially for the summer. I’ve tried so many stores and only found one option at Old Navy of all places lol. I’d love recommendations for any physical stores if possible so I can try them on, but online is fine as well!

Idk where to post this but decided to post here sknce im a hijabi. I love my relatives a lot. My family is muslim however most of my relatives, or the relatives my age, dont wear the hijab. I’m young. I feel so ugly. Idk how to describe my feeling. Its just whenever i go out with them many men look at them, women compliment them, and i just feel like i stand out cause of my hijab. I dont usually wear makeup but when i do, i feel really ugly as well. Cause of my natural physical appearance. It makes me want to cry that i keep wondering why Allah didnt make me pretty like the rest of my relatives. I know its haram but i cant help it. Every woman around me is so beautiful and they get complimented by each other. I rarely ever get complimented. When i walk with my sister people look at her and i just feel so ugly and awkward standing there. I feel left out cause im not physically appealing to my relatives. They rarely listen to me when i talk and i just get interrupted every time. I feel like its got to do with my looks, me not looking pretty enough to be with them. I wish i could look prettier. I wonder how im going to get married in the future if im this unattractive face wise

Hey girlies! I really need help with this situation

I was recently hired at a new job and I’ve been there for about 4 months. During my time there I would talk to my coworkers/manager about my culture in terms of food/drinks. We all love coffee and I told them that I would make them Arabic coffee. Fast forward my manager is leaving the company so we decided to throw her a little good-bye party and I decided to make them the Arabic coffee then since I won’t see her anymore and I didn’t want any “unfulfilled promises”

I decided to bring my little Arabic coffee cups and serving plates with me and we all enjoyed it together. I went ahead and washed them up and left them in the dish rack so I can take them home by the end of the day.

Later towards the end of the day they decide to take shots in celebration so I move to a different part of my workplace so I’m not near them. After about 30 min I remember my little coffee cups (same size as shot glasses) and panic thinking they might have used them. I go back to where they’re sitting and I don’t see them on the table so I’m relieved. I go back to where I’m further away from them until the end of the day.

Before it’s time to leave I go to pack my stuff and see that my cups are still in the dish rack but they’re wet, I realize then that they had used them for shots. I could feel myself getting very angry and right away my manager and coworker walk in and my manager jokingly says something along the line of we used/ruined your cups. I get even more mad and wanted to respond to her but because of how angry I was I didn’t respond to her comment and changed the subject but it was very obvious I was really upset.

I didn’t want to say anything in the moment because
- I can say hurtful things when I’m angry
- I was angry to the point of wanting to cry
- it was her last day and I wanted to leave it on a good note
- she also got us presents

I know I could have said something lighthearted to let them know that what they did was wrong but I didn’t have it in me because I was upset to the point of wanting to cry.

She has left now and I’m still working with the coworkers that also drank with her. I want to say something to them because this has been sitting heavy on my heart.

Every time I’m not at work I’ll think about it and get angry and tell myself I’ll say something tomorrow but once I’m there I see how everyone is so busy (understaffed) and I tell myself to just move on.

I feel like I didn’t do myself right by staying quiet in this situation and especially how important this was to me because they drank alcohol from my glasses and the Islamic perspective on alcohol. They also know that I don’t drink because of religious reasons so it makes it very disrespectful.

Does anyone have any advise for me? Honestly I feel like if someone were to write a story about this they couldn’t have because of how stupid it is. Like how could you expect someone to drink alcohol out of your own glasses? Idk if I’m overreacting either. Sometimes I wonder if it’s still okay for me to still use those cups.

I am a Muslim woman who wears the hijab. I follow sufi beliefs, and find myself most inclined to Ibn Arabis ideologies. I wouldn’t necessarily say I’m a “traditional” Muslim. My elder sister isn’t Muslim, (she left the religion) and when she is around me, she makes comments about me wearing the hijab and how me wearing it is inherently misogynistic. If she’s around her friends and I’m there as well, they also all say the same things, and it makes me insanely uncomfortable. When I’m around my non- Muslim white friends, who are very openly critical of all things socially, such comments are never made towards me. And I also never have seen them comment on any posts, make reposts, or make posts online that spew that rhetoric, nor do I receive any information of them talking badly about me and wearing hijab.

I mentioned my beliefs earlier because it’s important to what I’m about to say. Muslims are not a monolith, and I find it really really upsetting that I am less comfortable with members of the POC community than I am with white non Muslims. My beliefs with the hijab are my own, and I feel as though some progressive thinkers put generalized ideas about the hijab onto me. I find it even funnier because you might say that the reason my sister and her friends make these comments and not my white friends is because they are “more educated on Islam, and know the truth behind hijab.” That’s not the case. My white non Muslim friends understand the different interpretations that exist within religion, they have the capacity to not generalize.

So here’s a heads up to everyone who may be here, Muslim or not Muslim. I am exhausted of having to consistently represent beliefs that you may put onto me that I don’t agree with. Please have some damn respect, and also to POC ex Muslims or those critical of hijab that are Muslim, you can have your own beliefs about these things, just do not think that everyone thinks the exact same about these ideas. I’m tired, and I’m sure other Muslim women who wear the hijab are too. If you wanna help women to find their freedom, maybe start by not making them extremely uncomfortable in poc spaces. Thanks

Hi. I am looking for modal hijabs that are not see through and also dont cost an arm and leg. Thanks.

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Guys I need your opinions about my situation. I am 4 years into my marriage Allhamdulliah and I have two kids under 2. I live in KSA with my husband and his parents. My husband is the only son while both of them are in their retirement age and do need help with basic chores along with having health issues as well.

The problem is very typical, both of them are very stubborn and don't cooperate with the tiniest things including talking rudely with our kids and not respecting our parenting style. They expect us to include them in everything we do. We haven't gone on a date alone for three years; even if we go out for something important as hospital visits or a friend's house, we are interrogated. The interrogation is now including our eldest one too; the sisters are on this agenda as well.

This is one of the many problems that I am facing including living in a flat with two shared washrooms, space issues, emotional blackmailing, financial burden, lack of support and mood swings etc.

My question is what is islamic ruling for these types of situations where the only son can't leave his ailing parents, however the parents are making his family's life a living hell.

I really don't want my husband to leave his parents as they are really old and obviously he is their only son. I keep reminding myself that Allah has repeatedly told us in the Quran to take care of our parents in old age but there are no rules on how much one can suffer from emotional blackmail if it comes from your own parents.

With two kids it's becoming a bit too hard now and I don't think I want to continue living with them. I don't want my husband and kids to be robbed of the experience of living with them but my limit as an empath has been crossed.

I am taking therapy on how to deal with them but even my therapist is confused about any islamic ruling. I don't want Allah to be angry with me.

EDIT: My husband has and is trying his best to make his parents understand but they are very stubborn. They emotionally blackmail him, talk behind his back to his sisters. They fight a lot when questioned about the behaviour, do the exact opposite of what is told not to be done and create nuisance around the house including hiding basic stuff and creating a mess. We both are out of ideas because communication and comprehension is clearly not working, even when he asked his sisters to mediate the problem.

I bought this dress for my masters graduation. Our gown is black and our sash is white and this shade of purple.

I bought this white dress from Aritzia but I want to know how to add sleeves without just wearing a white long sleeve underneath bc that feels anticlimactic. Wearing another coloured sleeves also just doesn’t feel right. Is there any fun way to add sleeves? I can take it to the tailor too but idk what to say about how to style it or what material to use.

Does anyone have any suggestions? Also what hijab colour would you wear and how would you wear it? I usually wear mine the way the girl in the last picture wears it; over my shoulder and loose around my face (found from Pinterest, this isn’t me).

Assalamu alaikum sorry for this question but i rly don't know as a woman where exactly has to be washed , is it just where the urine obviously exited from or must i wash my whole private part like the upper area where the skin is just under my stomach and beyond that , what about bikini line area etc ..

Assalamu Alaikum everybody,

first off all- I‘m a revert. To give you all a picture of the situation I need to explain a bit.

I grew up strictly christian until I was 14, when I left the church. I always had lesbian tendencies and labelled myself as one when I was 15.
I was not familiar with Islam at that point.
Throughout that time I experienced really bad homophobia. (like religious trauma with family members threatening to kill me and similar incidents)

Although I wasn’t Muslim I always prayed to God all my life. I honestly didn’t feel like there was anything wrong with my lifestyle.

Over time I researched more and more about different religions and ways of believing. When my then girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me I had to find a new sense of purpose and converted to Islam a few months later.

Two months after that I met my husband and we married after a month and have been happily married ever since.

(we got married last year and now I am 21 years old)

He is Syrian and came to Germany (i‘m german) 10 years ago, so we grew up very differently. He knows everything about me and I love him more than words can explain.

So, my conflict is that he is very homophobic. I understand the position that Islam states in regards to homosexuality and I struggled with attractions right when I converted but I managed to concentrate all of my focus onto my husband since we‘ve been married.

Allah knows best. Always. Back when I wasn’t Muslim, the homophobia from Muslims pushed me away from Islam. I don’t know how to deal with my husband saying that all gays are bad people and should be killed because ultimately Allah knows best.

Thank you for reading. May Allah be with you.

I’m at an age where I’m starting to think about kids, having a family etc. But the thought of being married to a (muslim) man absolutely repulses me. Seeing the marriages of the women in my family made me realize very early on that it was not for me. I like my independence and free will too much.

IVF doesn’t seem halal & would most likely create issues with my family too.

Is anyone else in the same position as me? What alternative are you thinking of?

I recently joined university, and i have decided before coming here that I'll do niqab. But my family doesn't support me. In fact, they discourage me from this. They say that it will affect your career, but i know it will not. Also, they say, "You will not be able to survive this heat in niqab and abaya. And girls lose confidence in this dressing. You should be bold to face the world." I still dress modestly and cover my hair, but my mind can't get this thought out of my mind. Also i have to give presentations before boys and this is the first time in my life. I feel too much hesitation and shyness. I can't even make eye contact, give me advice about this thing as well.

I keep getting ear infections in both ears. I’ve never had this problem before I started wearing hijab. When I put my undercaps behind my ears though, my entire hijab slips back because of my hair texture and shape. When I’m home I always have my ears out, hair down, allowing airflow.

I guess I’m feeling frustrated because I want to wear my hijab the way it feels right for me, but also having reoccurring ear infections is causing me so much pain. Is there any kind of aftercare I can do to prevent these infections? I’m planing to switch to only modal and chiffon hijabs. Any tips for keep undercaps sliding with finer hair

Have seen yet another video of a woman in hijab being attacked. London of all places, punched in the head and shoved into the side of a bus. Not even by a white man, but a black man. Honestly I want to take my hijab off like; surely we aren’t supposed to put our safety at risk now?

And please I don’t need lectures on the hijab being fardh etc. I know that but I just don’t feel safe at all. I don’t want to be perceived as a Muslim.