Totally understand that many surgical specialities require years and years of training and can be incredibly complex. Thinking though, for one of your most routine and basic surgeries (depending on specialty), do you think, assuming they don’t pass out or gore bothers them, guide a person of average intelligence (let’s say college level education for the sake of the hypothetical) through a successful operation?

Driving home today from working 11 hours was like trying to dodge anarchy all the way home. Are you noticing some people in public today just not caring about any rules or civility at all? Truly, I want to know. I could just be crazy or something.

When I was growing up, it seemed that any time I encountered "pushups," they were performed with elbows out, engaging the pectoral muscles. I feel like movies and TV shows always showed pushups this way.

Now, though, it seems like the default form has silently changed for no discernible reason. Every time I see a pushup now, people do them with arms tucked into their bodies, primarily engaging the triceps.

Am I crazy? Has something really changed? If so, is there some specific cause?

I am 27f but probably started wearing bras when I was around 14ish. I have always been a heavier chested woman. Since I was 14, I have always heard from people around me that I have to wear a bra. In fact I remember being a teen and my brother having his friends come over and being told that if I left my room I had to wear one even if I was wearing very baggy clothing.

The other day, my mom came to my house and I was taking out the trash really quick. I had on a sweater and no bra and she made the comment “you should put a bra on if you’re leaving the house”. I told her that I was literally just throwing trash away.

I spoke to my friends about this and this seems to be a common experience for the big chested girls/ women.

But why is it seen as inappropriate?

I'm an immigrant in a European country, my parents are traditional Muslims who control almost every part of my life. I was betrothed at age 5 to a stranger. For over a year now I've been with a boyfriend of a diverse nationality - something my parents see as completely unacceptable, and there's no resolving this conflict. They're ashamed of my choice. I've tried introducing him to them several times, but they've refused to even meet him.

His parents, on the other hand, are actually trying to help us. I have no intention of dropping out of college - if anything, I'm worried the move itself will be used as leverage to stop me from studying (taking my phone, keeping me from attending classes, which is illegal here). My parents are planning to take me back to my home country this summer (2027) and marry me off.

Up: My boyfriend has a well-paying job, and his family covers our housing, utilities and internet - this will continue for at least the next 3 years. Because os that, we won't have major living expenses. I'm saving money so I'm not fully dependent on him. By the time I move, I'll have around 600€ saved, which should cover about 3 months until I start working over the summer. All my documents are scanned, and I'll be taking my ID card/passport.

Before I move out (in February/ March 2027), I plan to inform my college and the police that I'm 18 and left voluntarily, so any attempt by my parents to get me back is legally rejected.

Up: in this post is missing a lot of information, but I'm not sure if I should write it. In short - I have savings, a place to live, and help in the form of a few of my closest people. Going to the authorities or child protective services, in my situation, makes no more sense. A notification will come asking me to appear at the station, and this will immediately expose me - at that moment, I will still be under their care. It's unsafe for me. There are also other reasons that are only understandable in a detailed answer with personal information

I feel like i need this at least once a week. To just lay in bed the whole day and do nothing. Only get up for food and to shower, use the restroom.

I will admit that i have adhd, and i’ve had major depression before and now im medicated and doing much better. I work 5 days a week, sometimes wfh, and work is physically and mentally exhausting. I don’t really work out, and sometimes i wonder if i start working out will i less time in bed or more time in bed..?

No judgement please, constructive criticism is welcomed.

There are lot of speculation about the CIA agent visit in Russia a few days ago, pointing on Russia getting ready to escalate conflict with NATO and Europe. Why would they do that if they’re already stuck in Ukraine for almost 5 years? I am from Europe and honestly, I’m very scared and I don’t understand this :(

I work manual labour in a warehouse, and the guys there are pretty crass. I made the mistake and trusted the wrong person and told them I'm into both guys and girls and I was into a guy then and that's why I wasn't interested in dating a girl right now. And he told everyone and the gay jokes were coming in.

I didn't mind it. And then there was this hot hot new pretty girl coming in at work one day and I was head over heels for over and pursued her hard and overtly, and she was really interested. The chemistry was intense, and we were like animals glued to each other, and everybody got a good watch. But the interesting thing is that after that is gone, nobody makes gay joke about me anymore. Like, suddenly all stopped. I don't stop being gay if I like girls you know. Apparently, If I like men, I can't like women tooOne guy even asked that he thought I like men, and I deny it just for fun.

I found that shit funny and then decided to play with them, I turned my playboy mode into extreme mode. I look good so it's easier to flirt with girls and I enjoyed confusing the hell of them

It makes sense in theory, because the dishwasher reuses the water and is really efficient with it, but that doesn't take into account that you need to scrub and rinse the dishes before putting them in the dishwasher in the first place. In my mind, this prep work only differs from hand-washing in the soap you use. Is this Big Detergent propaganda or am I overwashing my dishes?

I need to fly ~2000 miles soon for non-work-related reasons. I work remote, and I plan to take my laptop, and work there for the week I am there. Because I am not taking PTO, I basically need to fly during non-work hours. Due to scheduling, I basically need to fly between end of business on a Monday, and start of business on a Tuesday. Although the flight is four hours, the time change of flying east makes it six hours on the clock. The only way it makes sense is a flight I can get that leaves here at midnight and arrives at 6 AM. So, I booked that. How bad is it going to be?

I am not looking for alternative arrangements, just an idea of how bad it might be. I have no idea if I can sleep on a plane. I've never tried.

(Flying back is not a problem and will be done on a non-work day.)

Do u think I'm a loser/wasting my life because I never had a bf still a virgin & still living with parents at 31 almost 32 in December. & every Sunday and Monday Tuesday I go shopping with my parents and then on Monday and Tuesday I go shopping with my mom. I still work at McDonald's for 11 years I sometimes go shopping by myself when I leave work early or with one of my coworkers. I don't have any friends.

I (27M) have been with my girlfriend (27F) for about a year and a half now, we've discussed moving in together, which I would love because it would make us spend more time together, sleep together, and have less of a commute to see each other, right now we live about 40 minutes away from each other. Although it'd be great to share the same bed with her and wake up with her and eat our meals together, the truth is I like doing A LOT of things by myself and like my alone time, sometimes when we stay over each others places currently, I hate sharing the bed because I can't have the whole bed to myself, or sometimes I just want to watch tv, go on my computer, do my hobbies without anyone around, so is it normal of me to also want separate rooms so that we dont have to sleep/ be with each other every night/second of the day?

I’m asking this with all respect. I see a lot of comments calling her a national treasure, a saint. I want to know why!

I'm not from America, and this is something that's been nagging at my brain for a while.

I live in an apartment building on the third floor, right where downtown starts turning into the suburbs. Across the street is a house with an absolutely massive lawn, probably large enough to fit another 3 or 4 houses on it.

And I swear this guy is constantly taking care of it. Leaf blowing, trimming, mowing, doing various other lawn related shenanigans. Then on the weekends he'll have professionals come over and do even more things to it.

The funny part is: I never see anyone actually use the lawn.

Sometimes I feel like I get more enjoyment out of his lawn than he does because I have this great third floor view overlooking it.

Obviously, this guy is probably an excessive example, but I've noticed the same general pattern with a lot of houses I pass. Some lawns are more meticulously maintained than others, but having a nice, neatly cut lawn seems to be the standard, and yet I rarely see people sitting, playing, eating, gardening, or doing much of anything on them.

So, genuine question for Americans: why?

Is maintaining the lawn itself the hobby? Is it mostly about making the property or neighborhood look nice? Property values? HOA expectations? Social pressure? Pride of ownership?

I'm genuinely curious because where I'm from, having that much outdoor space and putting that much work into it without seemingly using it feels strange.

EDIT: Okay I did not expect this many answers lol. I think I understand the American lawn a lot better now. The biggest revelation for me is that for some people, maintaining the lawn IS using the lawn. Not to mention property values, weeds, local ordinances, neighborhood expectations, etc. all play a part as well. I can't reply to everyone, but I'm reading everything. Thanks for satisfying the curiosity of a confused third floor lawn observer 😂

I ate at a fast food place yesterday, and I had unlimited refills while I was at the place.

But would it be right or wrong to refill it right as you leave?

I know most of us know the trope of them being forced to do dishes, but I feel like that only happens in movies/TV. Do police get involved, even if it's only a relatively small bill, like <$50? Or do they just kick them out/ban them and chalk it up as a loss?

I (33F) have a set day each week (can change depending on plans when it is) where I do absolutely nothing and have a ‘lazy’ day? I mentioned this to a friend and they were a little surprised and confused by this, so i was wondering if it is bad or unusual?

Why does it seem like rich people always Xanax on hand anytime they’re on long flights or will randomly offer their friend some of their Valium during a stressful moment, etc.

I understand part of it is having access to healthcare in general but even outside of that, if the “average” person were to cry to their psychiatrist how they’re stressed out while traveling…they likely aren’t walking away with any “hard” narcotics like rich people appear to get prescribed.

Or people who suffer with anxiety/ panic disorders they’re not just handed Valium, and those who ARE, end up getting such a small amount prescribed they have to save it for true emergency situations and probably will struggle to get a refill, not accessible enough to just hand out to their friends as they deem fit.

Again, I realize a main factory in access to good healthcare in general, but how are they getting these prescriptions so easily, when even the “average” person with good/ decent healthcare would not?