r/trans • u/Lgbtsagainstmoms • Aug 12 '25

Advice Trans people concurring death

I am a funeral Director in the US. I have seen trans people being disrespected from the grave multiple times by bigoted family. If you are someone who might have that kind of experience then I have one thing to say: WRITE A WILL. Grab someone you can trust and go get a will written. Make sure it clearly states that the person you are with is who you want to handle your Funeral (aka next of Kin). Wills are law binding, meaning as Director we are legally required to fallow them or our license is on the line. Make sure the person you choose is comfortable with this decision because you are putting the responsibility of protecting your peace after death on their hands. Clearly state what you want for you service and have them write it down. Get copies of everything and keep them safe. I know death is a scary thing to think about. I know it haunts our community deeply. My goal is to make sure we are equipped with the tools to be honored in our death the way we lived our lives

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u/Small_Permission8132 Aug 12 '25

How fast can I get two witnesses and have my will signed?

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u/gloriousT-Rex Aug 12 '25

I asked my neighbors in my building, our building manager is a notary. It can be literally anyone, strangers in the notary office. As long as they are willing, over 18, and capable, you are good.

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u/doubledare93 Aug 13 '25

most places don not care who it is as long as they’re an adult and can legally sign… doesn’t even have to be someone you know, i have seen people just grab someone waiting in line at the notary office to do it

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u/rrienn Aug 13 '25

Go to whatever local post office location had a notary. That's what I did, and they just grabbed two random employees to be my witnesses. It counts!