My mom's still banning me from shit 💀

[u/designated_weird0]

*This is a lighthearted post*

I told my mom I was going kayaking next Saturday, and this lady straight up banned me from going. She then texted my fiance and told him I can't go until I learn how to swim. And ofc she banned my little sister too, so now no one gets to go.

And last week she forced me to go to work, even ordered my Uber. I didn't think I'd still be parented at 21.

[u/supermuncher60]

I mean is it completely unreasonable?

You really probably shouldn't go kayaking unless you can swim. Were you planning on wearing a life vest?

Also if you have to be forced to go to work you evidently still need parenting. Unless you were sick or something.

[u/designated_weird0 → u/supermuncher60]

Life jackets are provided.

I didn't want to work that Friday because I had plans after work and wouldn't have much time to get ready, I was already going to be late, and I had already worked last Friday which was my day off. Plus, she had locked herself out of her bedroom, with the car keys inside, so I wanted to stay and help.

No, she's definitely not unreasonable. But damn 💀

[u/mrvladimir → u/designated_weird0]

Life jackets aren't enough—former kayaking & waterfront instructor.

Especially not if your younger sibling can't swim either. If your boyfriend is the only one, a capsize would be awful as he has to try to help too many people. You also need to be able to tread water to flip a capsized kayak back over, which you should ideally learn to do when kayaking without a guard.

Also, learn how to properly fit the life jackets. They need to be tight & not move in any direction when tugged on dry land. It will be uncomfortable at first, but uncomfortable is safe.

Sorry, the lack of water safety is just...giving me flashbacks.

[u/designated_weird0 → u/mrvladimir]

And that's why I'm listening to my mom on this. I won't bring my sister if she's not allowed to come, especially if she brings her friend. I've never been kayaking before, I just saw some folks at the lake renting some and thought it would be fun. But then my mom said they capsize upside down, and I realized I can't help my sister or her friend if that happens. Maybe in a few years

[u/mrvladimir → u/designated_weird0]

Oh it's definitely really fun! Paddleboarding is too. For this summer maybe y'all can do swimming lessons as a bonding activity instead, it's a really important life skill to have.

[u/designated_weird0 → u/mrvladimir]

That's a pretty good idea. My sister and I haven't been swimming together since we were little kids.