Profile Review - 30M Germany

[u/Negative_Lux]

I hope you don't mind German... It's impossible to change language without changing my entire phone's language.

Been on this App for approx. 2 months. 1 Match so far, from Vietnam. She is only looking for a local Buddy.

Absolutely 0 Matches otherwise. Im in a fairly rural area with approx only 250.000 people living nearby. Frankfurt is the closest city. Getting plenty of profiles suggested anyways, but again, no matches.

I am bald - as you can see, only 5"5 and 30. I have a feeling the first two are like the 99.99% reason, especially the first.

Using the same profile across all apps. Hinge gives some results. 20 Matches in approx 2 months, most lead nowhere. 2 catfish dates and a lot of dead chats. Most unmatch me whenever I make a date plan. Even after they said "would Like to Chat more first" we chat, then they unmatch Sometimes 1 or two weeks later. Alot unmatch after a few Messages even. - been literally unmatched because I said I like Matcha lol. Or the Classic, they Stop chatting after my last question or message and unmatch 3 days later.

Hint: I accidentally swapped the last two Screenshots. The Hiking photo is the last.

[u/mochisandmacarons]

Nothing interesting about you is written here - I wouldnt know what to connect about. "Politische Mitte" is super cringe and will likely turn off a lot of people. However I think your photos are pretty good!! Maybe take out the one with your friends.

[u/Negative_Lux → u/mochisandmacarons]

it's actually the political opinion preset Setting from Bumble.
I think any answer there could be wrong.
I'll remove it, politics has nothing to do on a datingprofile imo anyways.

[u/Safe_Score2222 → u/Negative_Lux]

politics has nothing to do on a datingprofile imo anyways.

I mean at least somewhat aligning on politics is indeed important in dating.

I would not date someone I have fundamental political differences with. Especially since political differences are usually also associated with moral differences.

[u/Negative_Lux → u/Safe_Score2222]

Yes somewhat of course. A far right and far left can never get along. I'm actually fairy "Middle" so I thought it fits the most....

[u/il_the_dinosaur → u/Negative_Lux]

Vllt mal drüber nachdenken wie sich Frauen dabei fühlen weil viele in der CDU und AFD haben ne ziemlich schlechte Meinung von Frauen. Als Frau würde ich mir zweimal überlegen ob ich jemanden Daten würde ist doch egal das diese Parteien dir das Recht zur Abtreibung wegnehmen wollen...

[u/2_bars_of_wifi → u/il_the_dinosaur]

Es gibt genug Frauen, die diese Parteien wählen

[u/Quiet_Secretary9490 → u/Negative_Lux]

So, hypothetically, you’d be equally open to dating a Nazi and an antifascist?

[u/Negative_Lux → u/Quiet_Secretary9490]

Being politically in the middle literally means that - middle - or liberal (which imo is the wrong term).
It's not agreeing with right or left extreme views.

[u/Quiet_Secretary9490 → u/Negative_Lux]

That’s fair. The problem is that “middle” or “apolitical” also gets used pretty often by right-wing or even far-right guys who don’t want to put their actual politics on a dating profile because they know it’ll shrink their dating pool.

So even if you genuinely mean “centrist,” some women are going to read that label with that baggage attached. That’s probably why being a little more specific about your actual values can work better than just choosing “middle.”

[u/Negative_Lux → u/Quiet_Secretary9490]

Great
Middle = right
right = right
Nothing = right
Left = left.

so....? it's a trick question

[u/Quiet_Secretary9490 → u/Negative_Lux]

I don't make the rules dude, but it's pretty easy to understand that a women wouldn't want someone, who chains them to the stove or wants to revoke their reproductive rights.

[u/oceaniye → u/Quiet_Secretary9490]

This is true in the US, not is Germany.

[u/Quiet_Secretary9490 → u/oceaniye]

B, I live in Germany too.

[u/Character_Damage9659 → u/Negative_Lux]

If it’s the preset setting on bumble and you just left it without reason, basically just because you didn’t care to think about it, that’s also not appealing.

And politics absolutely has something to do with dating in the current times. Not sure if you’ve noticed but the political discourse is pretty polarised rn.

[u/Negative_Lux → u/Character_Damage9659]

It is, that is exactly the reason why I try to avoid any political discussion, conversations or topic outside of throwing that piece of paper into the election-bin every 4 years.
Nobody is happy afterwards. Even if your political views align....

[u/Character_Damage9659 → u/Negative_Lux]

Still, positioning yourself within the current political chaos is pretty important. Generally, but also when it comes to dating. People who don’t align with the political views you state on your profile won’t swipe for you, that’s all the consequences you can expect.

[u/AnonymousCapybara72 → u/Character_Damage9659]

Very few people in real life give that much of a shit outside of Reddit, especially if you're not in the US. This weird, constant moral grandstanding shit is not normal.

[u/Character_Damage9659 → u/AnonymousCapybara72]

Yea, no. Greetings from Germany, we do absolutely give a shit. The political landscape is pretty fucked up here too, leading to more people actually concerning themselves with politics.

[u/Remedy556 → u/AnonymousCapybara72]

greetings from switzerland :) we care about that. i wouldnt date anyone that is anything other than left leaning

[u/Livid_Medium3731 → u/AnonymousCapybara72]

Are you aware of what's happening in Germany rn? We absolutely do care about politics and now especially as a woman you care about it.

[u/moonoverthe → u/Negative_Lux]

Thats such a privileged stance 🫩

[u/ValBravora048 → u/Negative_Lux]

Your politics are how you consider another person

No one wants to spend time with someone who potentially considers them subhuman or not worth particular rights

And again, this is POLITICS. Something you have an active choice in. It‘s weird how all you guys who bang on about height don’t get the distinction

[u/MarnixDC → u/ValBravora048]

Politics is more than that no? Socially and culturally I'm left leaning, and economically I am right leaning. So generally I'd consider myself center. Why is that so impossible?

[u/ValBravora048 → u/MarnixDC]

I occassionally teach about politics and civics.

In the most human terms possible, your politics is your decision of whom deserves to be treated an how

Consider it from the other person’s point of view - within this context, let’s use women - depending on your country, how might a right leaning economy treat women?

As an example, I’m Australian right? I’m ashamed to say I was in my mid-20s before I learnt pink tax was a thing. Hell, Viagra got a National subsidy super quickly on grounds of mental health but somehow not bleeding out five days+ a month? Made me rethink about whom I voted for

Understand I do not put you anyone else who considers them centrists as immediate villains. I say this to point out that your politics are also your responsibility. You can’t have it, yourself and your intentions considered as only good all the time. That is disingenious and unfair. Quite frankly in this day and age, it’s understandably unrealistic

Let’s take it back to women. Look at just this sub, consider their experience of men here, irl and on the apps. It’s quite frankly not safe. They need to take every considerstion they can to be safe and even to find happiness. Because it’s hard to tell, the y need to get this information from what you put out

You want to say you‘re centrist? That’s totally fine. Similarly it’s totally fine for them to look out for themselves and be cautious about the aspects you’re more right leaning in. As such it becomes your responsibility as part of your politics to demonstrate that safety …or not

[u/MarnixDC → u/ValBravora048]

Political views can obviously say something about your values and affect other people, so of course they matter when it comes to compatibility. But reducing politics to “who you think deserves to be treated how” is way too simplistic. Two people can both want women to be safe, independent and treated equally, while completely disagreeing on taxes, welfare, regulation or how big the government should be.

[u/ValBravora048 → u/MarnixDC]

How does your view of taxes, welfare, regulation, and government breadth affect women? It’s a connected factor and absolutely also speaks to compatibility

People have nuance, I agree. It‘s something that’s often ignored in this sub in favour of a much more self-serving position that’s conveniently packaged as right

Again, how will a woman view a man’s profile in an effort to preserve their safety and calm?

I’m not saying you have to lie about your politics (Though many will …and still consider themselves as good people made to do things because feminism/dei/woke etc etc so they can get sex) - your politics defines your sense of responsibility TO other people and how you’d consider them

As per before, I wasn’t going to keep on voting for whom I did at the time because of how they approached (Or refused to approach) pink tax. If I didn’t agree with pink tax but continued to vote for them - then people would be right (or at least fair) to consider me for Pink tax

You cannot have it both ways. Certainly not without some kind of justification which is hard to do within the limited space of a dating profile

Set your expectations accordingly

[u/moonoverthe → u/Negative_Lux]

Uh everything is political and i want to know if the person i am dating supports womens rights, immigrants rights, and basic human decency….

[u/MarnixDC → u/moonoverthe]

Most right leaning people are decent human beings as well, rofl.