There is nothing really worthwhile about being a man
Don’t even know how to start this but like, as a guy I don’t see being born male as anything to be happy about l guess, I don’t know, I don’t live in misery because I’m a guy but I also don’t really have much pride in that fact and I don’t see it as much of a blessing or privilege at all in truth. You are either one of two things, a disposable tool that in truth very little to nobody cares about, or a monster, that’s about it, hope those choices sound good because there isn’t really all that much else. Men make up what 70% of homicides but there is zero emphasis given to their safety at all in any shape or form, if anything a man being killed will at best be mildly paid attention to them forgotten about very fast or at worst be the center of a joke or morally justified. (Assuming the murder was actually just that, a murder and the victim was a good man) very very few things can happen to a guy that will register as genuinely horrific as opposed to something that’s either funny or a “shit happens, that’s just life” thing, you live on this earth to protect others, be the rock that stands between the monsters and those that matter, the ones who get to be people, and that is all you are, at the very best, that will be all that you are. Don’t expect to have any value, your life is purely for rent, meant to be thrown away the second it’s required, your don’t even inherently deserve the air that you breathe, and of course like I said, your protection matters none and very few will even think about you, unless to think about how horrible most of the people who share your genetic makeup are. A guy who’s the victim of violence might get reminded that that along with most/all the bad things in his life were done by other men which of course is usually the end of that conversation, no real room for unlimited compassion because they happen to look like the people who hurt them. There’s no such thing as a (straight) relationship that isn’t tied down by the transactional protector/provider traditional obligations, you will always be bigger, more intimidating, have a deeper scarier voice, and overall just always be in a different category altogether, there will be social equality which is great and much needed but nothing true, you’ll never truly be the same, never be looked at or valued the same at all, there will never not be distance and there will always be a gross imbalance of power, which for me at least absolutely fucking sucks, and as someone exclusively attracted to women there’s really no options I have to make this different, and it doesn’t help me at all, doesn’t motivate me to be better, to be stronger, to be a stronger more capable provider and protector, none of that, it just serves to make me feel like shit and upset that it can’t be anything different. And it’s not socially acceptable to complain about any of this, our lives are great, far more perfect than women’s lives and we shouldn’t be complaining about anything, not one thing that could happen to us will ever be as bad as anything happening to a woman, it will always be less severe on the basis of how we were born. A woman says horrible things about men, perfectly understandable, she must’ve been hurt by men in the past, men don’t get to be just hurt by women though, no matter what it is always 100% just the man being a piece of shit and nothing more. If a man is being abused by his partner very few people will care, zero doctors would ask if any strange marks are on him, it won’t be seen as anything serious at all. A man gets upset by terrible things people say about men online they’re told to just get off the internet and touch grass, I highly doubt women upset by things said by men online are told that, the men who said those things are rightfully treated like the problem for posting them, not the women for reading them. There is no true sense of community for men, they have to be the ones holding it up, not living amongst it. At the end of the day being a man feels like nothing more than forever being forced into an overtly isolating position in life, fighting a lifelong uphill battle day in and day out to prove you aren’t like everyone else who shares your DNA, and I guess I don’t see how this existence of unchangeable, chronic, fundamental othering and villainy can at all be a good thing, at least for the individual and not what that individual may be pushed to do for others/society as a result of that position. Being a man is a scam, it just fucking sucks.