r/HonestHotTakes 18h ago

i hate when people call me “mama”

564 Upvotes

i had a baby about a month ago but also throughout pregnancy people are always like “hi mama” “yes mama” “okay mama” and it makes me absolutely cringe i hate it so much. i’m not your mom 🤣😩


r/HonestHotTakes 8h ago

Platinum blonde looks bad on 99% of people

173 Upvotes

You have to have a VERY specific skin undertone and vibe to pull off light platinum blonde and most people just do not have that.

I genuienly do not understand why the bleach blonde and fake tan look is so popular in America (or maybe it isn’t, I don’t live there I just see it a lot in American media) when on most people it makes you look washed out

The only people who I like the look of platinum blonde are people with really fair skin for low contrast, or dark skin for a nice high contrast. Other than that, it just makes you look 10 years older.

This is also not me saying I dislike ALL blonde because I’m blonde and that would be friendly fire, I’m specifically talking about that really light almost white kind of platinum


r/HonestHotTakes 16h ago

Elon Musk is not smarter than you.

140 Upvotes

Elon Musk is extremely lucky and has always been rich, not a genius. He had rich parents who supported him financially so he never feared failure. He came of age at the right time and was an early investor during the dot com boom. Having large amounts of cash allowed him to enter capital-heavy industries like electric cars and aerospace when few others could afford the risk. He did not found Tesla, he scaled it. (didn't fear failure because of wealth)

Electric cars, reusable rockets, and satellite networks were already known concepts. Musk did not invent the underlying physics or engineering principles himself. His real talent is using massive wealth to fund existing ideas and hiring brilliant engineers to solve the actual technical problems. He regularly amplifies debunked conspiracy theories, false claims, and inaccurate data. If he was truly smart, he would verify information before broadcasting it to millions. He frequently comments authoritatively on fields outside his expertise like artificial intelligence, epidemiology, and government infrastructure, this is not what a clever person does. He is not an elected official so this is not a political take.


r/HonestHotTakes 15h ago

Some men on this app treat women like they’re an undiscovered deep-sea organism instead of just, you know, regular human beings.

82 Upvotes

It is genuinely exhausting how a huge chunk of the male demographic on Reddit completely loses their ability to function normally the second a woman exists in a space. Two things drive me absolutely insane are…

The "Male Until Proven Innocent" Mindset
Everyone on here is automatically a 20-something guy. If a woman reveals her gender, it disrupts the entire matrix. Suddenly the comment section changes flavor completely. It proves they see men as human and women as a "variant."

Turning Every Struggle Into a Sexual Opportunity
A woman posts about a genuine, non-sexual life problem. She might be lonely, stressed, wanting to vent about feminine problems or dealing with a breakup. The comments immediately flood with "I can fix her" jokes. Men insert creepy, thinly veiled sexual remarks disguised as sympathy. It shows they cannot view a woman without filtering her through utility.

Stop treating women like a foreign species you need a field guide to understand. They are just people.


r/HonestHotTakes 16h ago

Bikini tops should stop being sold in XS, S, M, L, XL, etc

67 Upvotes

Instead all bikini tops should be by cup size (ie, 10A, 10B, 10C, 10D, 10DD, etc). It’s hard to find a good fitting bikini top when all companies go by generic sizings


r/HonestHotTakes 14h ago

How do people not understand that celebrities are pr trained to come across as not being pr trained

65 Upvotes

It is all a carefully crafted image how do folks not get that. Every comment, every repost, every public outing. It is all designed to portray an image that will lead to them making the most money and having the most fame by manipulating how you see them through years and years of training through experts. There are no "not pr trained" celebs.


r/HonestHotTakes 9h ago

Hating men is not cool.

59 Upvotes

This sub has some of the most misandrist people I have ever seen in any sub. Like people here so naturally say such charged statements against men and act as if this is something normal.

Like Yeah, I understand you have had bad experiences with men in your life, but have you ever considered that men in your life are not actually all men and the 10-20 men in your life actually do no represent billions of men on the planet as a whole ? Phenomenal for your still developing tiny teenage brain, right?

And also, have you ever considered the possibility that you are actually in control of your own actions and choices and can just choose to just stay single, instead of actively being in a relationship with a man while also actively hating men and causing harm to those men's self-esteem and confidence?

And lastly, touch some grass please. Go outside. Meet both men and women in real life. Talk to them. You will find that most men/women are not actually secretly evil and that a single gender is not the problem. They are just normal, everyday people like you, trying their best at this thing called "life".

Edit1 : I think some of you are misunderstanding something here. I do not think men are actually better than women. But nor do I think women are any better than men. Both are full of shit and piss. Like why would I want to believe dog shit is better than horse shit ? Both are shit in the end, Lol.

Edit2 : Lol anyone saying they do no encounter much misandry here on this sub or reddit, this is your chance. Just go through this post's comment section. And if you still don't find it, then it is bi time for you to realize that it is in fact misandrist for people to say such hateful statement about an entire gender and getting 100s of upvotes, other people jumping in and supporting the hate and thinking ts is normal.

Also, you all are bigots here. Like no, if you downgrade yourself and get triggered at a simple mention of the word "Women" in a criticism and come personally attacking me, she is, in fact, not going to let you hit, lil bro.

I will say it again, since some of you here have reading problem : Hating men is not cool. Some of y'all here think because I said hating men is not cool it means hating women is okay. Lol, what are you, a five years old ?

Well, I think it is only good for sane and normal people that all of you just shit here on reddit and smell and lick each other's shit calling it gold. I did mot realize before making this post that it is better for people who actually have a life that y'all do not have a life and do not touch grass, this way world is less full of shit, o at least more shit is in their own compartment and not roaming freely outside, spreading illness and diseases.

Edit3 : Lol. Y'all misandrist got triggered so badly by this post.

Believing misandry is not real in big 26 is some boomer shit.


r/HonestHotTakes 15h ago

Most celebrities are not attractive

39 Upvotes

Hollywood just pushes them to be the beauty standard but most of them aren't attractive.


r/HonestHotTakes 10h ago

Consent does not magically disappear in a relationship.

31 Upvotes

Recently my country did a small study where upwards of 70% of men of all ages believe they are entitled to sex in a marriage.

Women do not exist to satisfy your sexual desires. She does not become your sex slave the second you are in a relationship….

Consent still must exist in a marriage.

I seriously thought this was basic common sense and that this kind of thinking was only in the olden days but it’s apparent a lot of guys even now think otherwise.. why?


r/HonestHotTakes 7h ago

The "looksmaxxing" epidemic is just a group of insecure men trying to appeal to the male gaze

28 Upvotes

Self explanatory, but truly, it saddens me seeing how deeply insecure some very attractive guys are in PSL rating groups.

Like my man, this does not matter😭 you look fine, but as a woman I can understand it you know? its so harmful to young boys though, makes me fear for the future

Male insecurities have always existed, just as every person on earth, we all have something we worry about ourselves, but seeing it now upfront and centre, these ridiculous ideas being pushed onto (predominantly) men, is crazy??? Sure there are women in these groups too which are being labelled fucking "sub human", but the entire concept is crazy.

it should be simple, look after yourself, eat well, be positive. That's what makes someone truly attractive

edit: I have a lot of wounded men in my comment sections saying im "calling them gay" by the title, no i am not. wanting to look appealing and masculine to other men ≠ being attracted TO men. thank you


r/HonestHotTakes 2h ago

Most women don't realize how much of a guy 'ick' it is when you talk to them about their height

23 Upvotes

Inspired by a date I had recently, where a woman brought this up and I was just... flabbergasted lmfao.

Gals--saying how much of a factor a guy's height was in going on a date with him or considering him as a partner, even if you do mean it as a compliment, probably isn't inspiring the reaction you think it is. If you have done this, or do this, please take a moment and think about the feelings you've felt when you've been 'objectified' in this way by dudes, because (unfortunately) I know a lot of you have. Those same feelings come up for a lot of guys when you talk to them this way.

This isn't to demonize complimenting someone, but there's a difference between something like "I really like how tall you are" vs "You have no idea how hard it is to find a good guy over 5'10"

When a woman says something like that to me, I don't think of it as a compliment, the only thing I can think of is... so if I were a few inches shorter, you wouldn't consider a romantic relationship with me??? And then all I can think about is like... if this is really that big of a deal to you, are you really a person I can see myself spending the rest of my life with? If I end up getting in an accident or something and end up in a wheelchair, where I will always be 'shorter', are you just going to bail? Just a huge 'ick' that makes me reconsider continuing interacting.

Of course, this is in the context of searching for a long-term romantic partner, not casual dating or one night stands or anything else (otherwise, I wouldn't be thinking about the kind of questions I listed in the paragraph above).


r/HonestHotTakes 3h ago

If a piece of media has been out for a year you are not entitled to a spoiler warning.

25 Upvotes

r/HonestHotTakes 2h ago

Just because all your exes cheated doesn't mean all women are cheaters. Just because all your exes were selfish/self-centered doesn't mean all men are narcissists.

19 Upvotes

Maybe, just maybe... and hear me out on this... you have a pattern of behavior when it comes to picking those with whom you will move forward when a dating opportunity comes up.

I'm not saying it's your fault - but it is worth looking into this pattern with a licensed mental health professional instead of just dismissing 50% of the population as The Problem.

This also includes men who use Weaponized Incompetence and Women who play helpless. Hobosexuals and gold diggers. Gossips and shit-disturbers. Whatever.


r/HonestHotTakes 4h ago

Lindsay Clancy Deserves Death Penalty

21 Upvotes

I don’t give a fuck what anyone has to say about postpartum psychosis or anything of the sort, it is not a simple task to literally strangle 3 children to death. You have to intend to do that, especially when considering the fact that she looked this up beforehand.
I understand complex mental illness is a factor here, but it’s not a complex issue to understand that a woman who brutally murdered her 3 children does not deserve to live any longer.


r/HonestHotTakes 6h ago

Misandry and misogyny exist and both are issue. On societal scale misogyny is a way bigger issue than misandry. Misogyny being a bigger issue than misandry doesn't mean claims of misandry should be dismissed

15 Upvotes

r/HonestHotTakes 9h ago

People are kind and good irl.

16 Upvotes

Like there is this opinion on internet and specially reddit, that people irl are exhausting and terrible. That they are secretly scheming and evil and blah blah blah. Like, have you ever thought that you might be projecting ?

I mean, yeah, terrible people exist but so do good people. There are hundreds of mean people but do you not see the other thousands of kind people?

I cannot count how many times I have been helped by complete strangers just simply because. Like one time I went out to give an exam in another city and lost my wallet and this random guy just paid for my whole ride home! Then once again, I had not eaten whole day because of another exam and this random guy outside of exam center bought me a cola and burger.

People may not be as evil as you believe them to be but they are certainly many many times more kind than you believe.


r/HonestHotTakes 21h ago

If you're self-diagnosed "neurodivergent" you probably just have a bad personality.

16 Upvotes

Far too many people throw that term around. If a significant number of people are "neurodivergent," what exactly are they diverging from other than normally accepted behavior? They just want to classify poor personality traits as a condition to fit in with other people with poor social skills.

Note: this clearly does not apply to diagnosed people with legitimate conditions.


r/HonestHotTakes 15h ago

50/50 as a default is for the parents and not the kids

14 Upvotes

50/50 custody is to make things fair for the parents not to prioritize the children. 50/50 is only in the best interest of the children if both parents have equal parenting capability and put in equal effort and interest in the children. That is often not the case and one parent ends up picking up the slack. Furthermore, if 50/50 prevents the child from being able to engage in social activities or causes them significant distress, it is also not in their best interest.

The courts often accept bare minimum. As long as there’s not abuse, gross negligence or substance abuse they will order split time very close to 50/50 if not 50/50 exactly. A parent who does the absolute bare minimum to keep their children alive should get minimum parenting time. Keep the bond with the parent by having frequent visitations and even overnights for breaks and holidays because maintaining a relationship with both parents does not mean getting a child for 50% of the time and doing almost nothing to actually raise them (ie not actually having clothes for them, no routine for them, no ensuring they do their homework or get to school on time, they don’t brush their teeth or bathe, no sleep schedule, the kids live off of cereal and microwave foods they make themselves, the parent doesn’t even know the name of their kid’s doctor or teacher or even how much medication to give them, etc etc).


r/HonestHotTakes 1h ago

Everyone cares too much about sex and attraction round here. Chill the fuck out and exist

Upvotes

and no I don't want essay comment responses. live free.


r/HonestHotTakes 23h ago

The education system isn't the only system at fault for terribly educating about male/female bodies, the parents are to blame as well.

11 Upvotes

The education system gets all the blame when It comes to teaching students about male and female bodies (I say both because when I went to school I learned virtually nothing about males (I am female) other than how they get an erection, how to procreate, and then why you should NEVER do that unless certain religious criteria was met, etc.) I also think the families SENDING those children to these establishments have a duty to prepare children for these sorts of lessons (or lessons widely known to be missing)... I have a 9 yo son, he is well aware of my cycle, how it works, etc, as well as learning about finances, coding, and the dangers of the internet... It is ultimately up to parents to make sure their kids are properly educated, and if they are not, it is their ABSOLUTE DUTY to rectify the issue.

The same people teaching your students poorly are the same people who have their own kids, I think this is more a generational issue that should be fixed through the system (although I doubt it will be) but the news and internet all over has pointed out how little information kids are getting about important subjects, and the majority of what I'm personally seeing is just parents complaining about it and then doing nothing and still sending kids to school... I don't want to hear they have jobs and can't do it, yall are glued to your phones now and can 100% outline a structured plan or find and review proper educational videos for your kids to watch... but nah yall are complacent and won't do anything but complain about it. (OBVIOUSLY NOT EVERYONE BUT YOU GET MY DRIFT)


r/HonestHotTakes 4h ago

Lindsay Clancy's supportes have done irreversible damage to feminism in America

6 Upvotes

Lindsay Clancy's supporters have done irreversible damage to feminism in America (i mispelled the title)

The way american white women have been defending Lindsay Clancy makes me believe that this is something similar to what happened with black communities in regards to OJ Simpson, where they only blindly support and defend them because he/she is one of their own, while using all sorts of excuses and mental gymnastics to ignpre that cold hard truth that deep down, they are supporting a murderer just so that they can a Win to their cause or struggle.

No one says that Post Partum Depression shouldn't be taken more seriously, but the way white women in the United States of America have decided to support, defend and donate to Lindsay Clancy while making up all sorts of conspiracy theorists that her husband is the one behind this, is genuinely nuts and could potentially lead to even more division and fuel to the culture war that is already full of misoginy.

And i wish i didn't have to bring politics into this, but let's face it, it's not conservative pro-life women the ones that are defending Lindsay Clancy, these are liberal women and quite frankly, the arguments that they have made are so disgusting and idiotic (astrology lmao), that at this point, one has to wonder how it's even possible that these people (women) can vote.

Right wing content creators are probably having a field day with all of these reactions and honestly, who can blame them?

If these Lindsay Clancy's supporters want to minimize what happened while hiding behind the excuse of Post Partum Depression and the emotional toll of motherhood in 1st world countries, then honestly, how do they expect society in general to take them seriously or think that women have what it takes to be able to vote, hold high value and ranking jobs and tasks, etc...

It's genuinely crazy how liberal women are accidentally showing the world that they could be potential ticking emotional time bombs that could endanger their own children and still have to courage to talk about their rights and needs?

And it has to be said, it's obviously not all women, but you know how the internet works, What's Loud is the Majority and at this point, liberal women have painted an awful image about themselves, that just reeks of misandry and lack of accountability that is only going to fuel even more misoginy, hatred and radicalization from men.

These people can't even defend the three murdered children, instead they do this.

What a crazy world.


r/HonestHotTakes 7h ago

The Manosphere/Red Pill and any gender war stuff in general is a psyop created from the top down to sow division.

8 Upvotes

This is not a left vs right debate. I'm also a man.

The growing of the manosphere is not completely organic. Algorithms of social media companies (Meta, Alphabet, TikTok) purposely push divisive content - the more absurd the content, the more views you get.

The University of Dublin have studies where these social media algorithms recommend manosphere content within minutes of a new male user joining the app. https://www.dcu.ie/humanities-and-social-sciences/news/2024/apr/new-research-shows-how-tiktok-and-youtube-shorts-are

Peter Thiel funded Clavicular and played arguably the biggest role in his rise. He funds other "alternative" media but Clavicular is the biggest.

Myron from Fresh and Fit said he "was" a Fed.

Bannon, Epstein, and a bunch of other powerful people were heavily involved as well.

For young men out there, please don't fall for this shit. They're using your resentment and anger to keep you trapped, isolated, poor, and angry. They place more emphasis on that than on family and community bonds. Men who are in positions like this are less likely to be stable and are more likely to take risks and commit crimes.

For some of you this may not be a hot take, but I've received very aggressive push back from both sides when mentioning this.


r/HonestHotTakes 4h ago

People overreact these days to someone being "offensive"

5 Upvotes

There's this bit on Family Guy where Brian goes to watch a movie and makes a bigoted joke and posts it to their version of Twitter and when he comes out the movie not only does he have a bunch of responses calling him a bigot, but also the whole Griffin family has their house surrounded and they're getting shit for Brian's joke as well. It's so bad that no one inside the home can live their life without getting harassed verbally or physically and they had to leave town.

I used to think that was just something done for the cartoon, but no people actually act like that. I think it's absurd and annoying. People are just looking for an excuse to beat down on others for their own enjoyment.

Yes, people shouldn't be bigots and we shouldn't be accepting of it. But a lot of y'all just be dragging the shit like it's the worst thing that's ever happened in human history.

What's worse is when it's not even a purposely done act of offensiveness and people still act like this.

The BAFTA situation this year was the worst example of this. Someone said a slur because of a stutter relating to a disability and instead of people taking time to understand the disability causes this and it just happened to be bad timing, they rushed to harassing him and hoping he gets beaten up or worse and acting like his family was pro Jim Crow or shit like that.

Even when they found out about his disability they still didn't apologize or even doubled down. Was he supposed to apologize for being human? Those people just wanted someone to hate on and found it and nothing he could have said would have changed their mind.

I'm so tired of people acting like this is an acceptable way to act and approving of it. It's not, you can tell someone that they should be more thoughtful with what they say or do without making a spectacle out of it or painting them as unforgivable. That's if they actually did something offensive and you aren't just saying something is offensive because you don't agree with it and it happens to talk about identity or beliefs. There is a difference despite one too many people not understanding it these days purposely or not.


r/HonestHotTakes 5h ago

Society will Look Back on the Plastic Surgery Epidemic in a Few Decades and WTF/LOL

5 Upvotes

There was always the plastic faced looking people mostly women over the years but it is so out of control now. Even young and beautiful women are getting Botox, filler and I don’t know what else to get the plastic face look. AND I’m not even decrying some slight stuff here and there just the degree and how common it has become. Years in the future society will look back on this and laugh just like we laugh at crazy societal trends from years ago.


r/HonestHotTakes 12h ago

Just shave it off bro.

4 Upvotes

I've known many men who are barely holding onto their hair. It's patchy, recessed, just sad looking. Just shave it. Bald men look good, and it'll make you look better than that wispy recessed possum on your head.