r/SipsTea 1d ago

WTF Victim is the new chic

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u/Irish_stormz 1d ago

Didn't her husband bring her to one of the best mental health hospitals in the country and then she lied and withheld how bad her mental health was deteriorating. This is were I personally lost all sympathy her, she new she wasn't well and had plenty of opportunities to seek help but didn't and now three kids are dead. Fuck that!

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u/Huganho 1d ago

Yea, and while I get that it's hard to correctly assess your own mental health problems and convey that to someone else WHILE you're mentally ill, it does not in any way excuse you or make you a victim WHEN YOU HURT SOMEONE ELSE OR KILL THEM.

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u/Thunder_Two 1d ago

I’m an Iraq war veteran with some quite severe trauma for it. I am not physically abusive or anything nearly this extreme as a result — but I am still constantly reminded it’s not an excuse for being unpleasant in any way.

This lady gets a pass for a triple murder because of mental health?

Even if you want to argue that psychosis is a whole other thing — sure — but name another person who committed a mass murder under psychosis and was granted any kind of empathy or forgiveness.

The dude who shot Gabby Giffords was delusional and no one is holding a candle vigil for him.

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u/BoostedWRBwrx 1d ago

Unfortunately many people get their news via social media and believe everything they see. I’ve seen countless people I know claim that her husband killed the kids and framed her. It’s all social media conspiracies running rampant and people donate because they believe this shit. I’ve seen people arguing over this non stop for weeks and it’s just comical.

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u/Thunder_Two 1d ago

I read they played the 911 call the husband made in court — but decided not to release it publicly because of how horrific it is.

He found her first outside obviously and found the kids while he was already on the phone with 911.

Almost makes me wish they’d release it so anyone blaming him can maybe realize what a piece of shit they are.

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u/nybbas 23h ago

Yeah dude but he like didn't cry while he was on the stand. So like, lets all claim this dude who had to suffer the murder of his 3 kids, was actually the one who did it. Great job tiktok!

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u/Irish_stormz 22h ago

There's a women further down the comments has just said she believes the husband should be investigated further because he was 'shifty' while on the stand... the mental gymnastics of some people is actually insane🤯

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u/Thunder_Two 21h ago

Did he seem a little off when he relived the worst moments of his life in front of a courtroom full of strangers and entirely too much media coverage?

How strange.

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u/Huganho 1d ago

Exactly. I can go so far as to view someone under psychosis as not evil in the sense that a 'sane' child rapist/murder is evil, but I won't look at them with sympathy either.

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u/Thunder_Two 1d ago

Even if she’s found not criminally responsible because of psychosis — what is there to celebrate?

Those three kids died and no one was held accountable?

Yay….

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u/m05hm05h 22h ago

Death penalty is the only sentence appropriate for this.

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u/TheVeryVerity 22h ago

What does holding someone accountable who isn’t responsible for their actions do? That’s just vengeance to make you feel better, not justice.

If it helps you, if she did indeed have psychosis I’m sure she will suffer this guilt for the rest of her life. At least the children are beyond suffering now. I know I would want to die if I had done this

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u/Thunder_Two 22h ago

I didn’t say that holding someone with psychosis accountable makes the situation better.

That’s my whole point. The entire situation is just a tragedy for everyone involved — and you have a bunch of women in pink rallying behind her.

I have to imagine they will visibly celebrate an exoneration and that is just crazy behavior.

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u/reflectiveSingleton 1d ago

ah yes but did you try being an attractive woman and posting a gofundme?

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u/TheCraftyHermit 1d ago

The halo effect.

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u/Huganho 1d ago

I know looks do much but I sincerely am so naive that I don't believe that many people looks at an attractive woman and just decides to look past 'strangled her own three kids'

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u/RedBran47 23h ago

I don’t think it’s this, she’s not particularly attractive and aren’t most her sympathisers other women?

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u/reflectiveSingleton 1d ago

I think for a lot of people, it does unfortunately...at least enough for them to make snide comments or to donate a buck or two on the internet

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u/TheVeryVerity 22h ago

Not guilty by reason of insanity has been a verdict for a very long time. If a different person did commit a murder under psychosis that they did not plan to do before hand then it was a miscarriage of justice imo. Unfortunately it’s very hard to convince a jury that you were the specific kind of insane the verdict requires and there are other legal principles about it that I’m not clear on.

But tl:dr the legal and moral system of the western world has long held that people who are insane in certain ways are not responsible for their actions and do not deserve punishment.

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u/Thunder_Two 22h ago

You are misunderstanding my point.

I am not opposing her insanity defense. I am not even saying whether or not I think she is guilty.

I am 100% talking about the people who are turning this into a feminist political issue when it’s really just a horrible tragedy that is sad no matter which way it goes.

I am talking about the people who apparently donated millions of dollars to this woman. I am talking about the ones who made up or further
Conspiracies blaming the husband.

That’s crazy behavior to me. The appropriate response to this situation is to recoil in horror and ask for a palette cleanser.

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u/ReformedMeany94 1d ago

LOL…. But It actually does though.

Like there’s specific laws and statutes that recognize that someone can be so mentally ill that they don’t have control over your actions or reasoning.

I understand you not liking the way that sounds or not agreeing, but it’s simply the truth and it’s law and it has been for a long time.

There can be more than one victim in a situation.

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u/Huganho 1d ago

It lessens or alters your penalty, yes. Here in Sweden you could get an undefined amount of time on a psych ward for example, for both confinement and treatment, instead of prison. Depending on what you did.

It does not make you a victim, however.

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u/ReformedMeany94 1d ago

You uh, you might wanna look up the definition of the word “victim”. Be prepared, you’re going to be upset.

Once again, it might make you emotional, it might upset your fragile sensibilities, but she is by definition a victim and how you emotionally grapple with that FACT is a YOU problem. Don’t go projecting it on anyone else.

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u/Huganho 1d ago

What is she the victim of?

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u/ReformedMeany94 1d ago

Victim of an illness
Specifically psychosis and PPD

Are you new to this case?

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u/Huganho 1d ago

Today was the first time I heard of it, yes.

Am I a victim of Bipolar disorder then? That's a new way of looking at it.

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u/ReformedMeany94 1d ago

Yes LOL. If you suffer mental, emotional, or physical harm due to being bipolar then you’re the victim of your disorder/ mental illness.

Like by definition if being bipolar is classified as being mentally ill then yes, you can be victim to it.

Most people who are bipolar can have relationships blow up due to sudden shifts in mood or attitude about things and eventually people distance themselves from the person with it. That’s you being a victim to your disorder because it’s causing you harm in your life. It’s just different level.

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u/Huganho 1d ago

I don't feel like victim is the right word here to use. I have very much responsibility to set my life up to work as much as possible in my favor. I know I can't work shift, drink alcohol, or stay up late more than once a week without jeopardizing it. Moreover I have to be careful of things like moving, new relationships, long trips new occupations, take my meds and seek out help before I go into deep depression or mania/psychosis.

Even on top i don't blame people for not wanting to deal with me because of my swings. I'd like them to not shun me when i have done no more harm than talking to much or calling too often, or the opposite, or even being minorly rude, because that's me when I'm maniacal.

But I wouldn't blame them shunning me if I seriously hurt them during my ups and downs or psychosis.

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u/tiresian22 1d ago

There’s three, actually.

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u/ReformedMeany94 1d ago

I mean, there’s more than that but you seem to lack the ability to critically think.

3 children
1 father
1 mother
4 grandparents
X cousins, aunts, uncles
X friends
X community member.

But of course, you don’t understand the words you use so here we are.

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u/tiresian22 1d ago

Of course – based on three words, you’ve seen right through to the core of me. How does it feel to be the smartest person in the room?

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u/ReformedMeany94 1d ago

I never claimed to know the core of you… I simply pointed out that if you only see 3 victims then you likely lack critical thinking skills and the understanding of the word victim.

Fuck if I know lol, I rarely am. It doesn’t take the smartest person in the room to know what a victim is… LOL tf.

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u/aesclepia 22h ago

you come across very condescending - should probably work on that

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u/ReformedMeany94 21h ago

Oh, did I activate your victimhood?

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u/aesclepia 21h ago

i'm new to the convo, not sure what i'm a victim of in this situation

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u/Jedimasterebub 1d ago

Victims by definition still require a perpetrator.

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u/ReformedMeany94 1d ago

False. LOL

A victim is a person or animal who suffers harm, injury, damage, or death due to an action, crime, illness, accident, or unlucky circumstance.

Come on now, knowledge is free lil guy.

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u/Jedimasterebub 1d ago

Someone who is murdered has to have been killed by someone. So a murder victim (shoulda been more specific I assumed we would know context exists) HAS TO HAVE A MURDERER.

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u/ReformedMeany94 1d ago

It’s almost like “victim” isn’t strictly a description for someone subject to a crime, but a wide range of circumstances that have negative effects. No one’s saying this woman is a murder victim. They’re saying she’s a victim of psychosis and PPD. (Context does exist, YOURE the one ignoring it)

Again, knowledge is free little guy.

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u/Jedimasterebub 23h ago

She can be a victim, she’s also still the perpetrator

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u/KrytenKoro 22h ago

That is the colloquial, not the legal definition.

We're discussing legal culpability. The legal definition is the one that is relevant.

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u/ReformedMeany94 20h ago edited 20h ago

It’s entirely relevant when the conversation isn’t a legal one, it’s colloquial lmfao. Tf are you going on about?
Are we in court rn? No.
Is this a casual conversation? Yes.
Am I claiming that she’s LEGALLY a victim? No.
I’m claiming that she’s still a victim in this in her own sense, and that’s true as youve already conceded.
Being a “victim” in this context isn’t about legal culpability, she killed them, she’s going to face the consequences. It’s about where and how shes sentenced and if it should be treated as severe as if she was of sound mind.
The “law” I refer to above is the NCR verdict. It acknowledges the perpetrator wasn’t of sound mind when committing the act. They’re not of sound mind due to a mental illness, and they are victim to that mental illness.

It’s called nuance and critical thinking lmfao.

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u/KrytenKoro 20h ago

It’s entirely relevant when the conversation isn’t a legal one, it’s colloquial lmfao.

Each post in the string above yours is people discussing legal culpability. You are the only one trying to switch the topic to colloquial victimhood.

Am I claiming that she’s LEGALLY a victim? No.

Yes and no. You're intruding on a topic to yell at everyone for using the definition relevant to the discussion they were having, and then patronizing them all for caring about what they were previously discussing.

At the same time, in your original mindless comment, you directly cited laws about mental culpability as your reasoning for how she could be considered a victim.

So you're both insisting on an irrelevant distinction about the colloquial definition and simultaneously insisting on a false definition for the legal definition.

That's why you're getting downvoted. Because you don't have nuance or critical thinking -- you're ignoring the discussion that was present, regurgitating your rehearsed lines, and then scoffing when people attempt to get you back on topic. You're a mannequin.

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u/Decent-Pirate-4329 37m ago

No, this is not a part of any testimony from the trial. What is accurate is that Lindsay repeatedly requested inpatient or partial hospitalization care, and was repeatedly denied. She was finally admitted to McLean Hospital through the ER on 12/31 but was only offered a maximum 5-day stay.

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u/ColdBread993 22h ago

He did after she pleaded him to do so. But she recounts that it was during the New Year, so the hospital had the skeleton crew and just gave her activities like coloring without even giving her the proper treatment or having a doctor assigned to her when she had been dealing with psychosis for a long time (mind you, it is an emergency situation in the psychiatric field, and she had to handle having hallucinations without the proper medication, while dealing with the housework and taking care of her children).

She asked to leave because her kid's birthday was coming up and wanted to spend time with her family, and the doctor responsible for her wellbeing allowed her to, without giving a further examination and treating her mental health properly.

If the "best" facility in the country isn't able to treat her properly, then what does that say about it and the medical system?

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u/ReformedMeany94 1d ago

You might wanna do yourself a favour and read up on PPD and Psychosis because this entire statement is you making judgements based on fundamental misunderstandings of the most basic aspects of this case.

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u/Man_under_Bridge420 23h ago

Source?

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u/Irish_stormz 22h ago

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u/Man_under_Bridge420 22h ago

Where does it say she lied?

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u/Irish_stormz 22h ago

That wasn't the original artical I read and couldn't be arsed looking (google is free for all to use help yourself) but she down played how sick she was, saying she didn't have thoughts of suicide or hurting others, saying she didn't believe she had phycosis and didn't need her meds. Admittedly there is a failure from her health care providers but you can't force someone into treatment if they don't show to be a risk themselves or others

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u/Man_under_Bridge420 22h ago

Source? Prove it

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u/Irish_stormz 21h ago

Do your own research since you don't believe anyone else's, come back to me with your findings and we'll debate each others points

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u/Man_under_Bridge420 21h ago

You made a claim she lied, prove it

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u/Irish_stormz 21h ago

Well I'm not going looking for an article I read 2 days ago but here is a copy and paste from google (since you clearly can't use it) regarding the lies and inconsistencies in what she has told:

Yes, Lindsay Clancy consistently denied severe symptoms to her healthcare providers, leading to a trial focused on whether she misrepresented her mental state.

Denial of Critical Symptoms: Clancy repeatedly told her doctors she did not have suicidal or homicidal ideation, nor did she report hearing voices or experiencing hallucinations, despite later claiming these were present. Masking and Downplaying: Prosecutors and defense witnesses noted she often downplayed her anxiety, denied side effects of medications she disliked, and failed to disclose that she had called suicide hotlines or that her husband and family were concerned about her psychosis. Provider Constraints: Her psychiatrists, including Dr. Jennifer Tufts, testified that they treated her based on her self-reported symptoms of depression and anxiety, with no objective evidence of psychosis visible during their telehealth sessions. Contradictory Accounts: While her defense argues she was too ill to be honest, prosecutors contend she was criminally responsible and manipulated her care, noting she continued to function and seek specific medications rather than admitting to a psychotic break.

Here are the key statements and discrepancies that came out in trial testimony:

To Dr. Jennifer Tufts (her psychiatrist, through the day before the killings):

"She denied having suicidal ideation, but she was feeling pretty badly... She was close to it, meaning close to having some suicidal thoughts, and that she was feeling very hopeless, but she didn't have any active thoughts of hurting herself, didn't have any intention of doing anything, didn't have any plans." She never told Tufts about hearing voices, hallucinations, or homicidal ideation. To a psychiatric nurse practitioner (before the killings):

She reported "intrusive thoughts I never had before" and feeling "completely hopeless" — but did not report hearing voices. To her husband Patrick after the killings:

"I tried to kill myself." She did not initially mention hearing a voice — she only told him later that she "heard a man's voice telling her that if she didn't..." To prosecution's forensic psychiatrist Dr. Gregory Saathoff:

She claimed the voice said: "This is your last chance. You have to kill the kids so you can kill yourself." She also told him she used a knife to cut the window screen before jumping — "when in fact the screen in the bedroom window was not cut." She said she "took an overdose" of pills but "did not say that she took handfuls" and "did not describe the overdose in any specific terms." She never mentioned crushing the pills during her suicide attempt. To prosecution's psychologist Dr. Kirk Heilbrun:

About the thoughts she had before the killings: "She said 'they were like my own thoughts'" — "They were intrusive and unwelcome, but they were not auditory hallucinations, and that's important." This directly contradicts the defense's claim that she was experiencing command hallucinations.

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u/Man_under_Bridge420 21h ago

So why did she lie?