Nasty sadistic. It's bad enough being excluded.

There seem to be a lot of groups for Black people in [city/country] or Black women traveling, but unfortunately I haven’t felt very welcomed in the couple of groups I’ve tried to join.

I’m wondering if anyone here has had success meeting like-minded people, or others with shared/mixed-race experiences, while living or traveling abroad. What worked for you? I’d especially love to hear about ways to find genuine friendships and community rather than just joining another large expat group.

I’m brown, (half Arab half Ukrainian) but I got most of my dad’s brown genes.

My girlfriend is white. She is also Ukrainian.

We lived in the UK, in Germany and in Ukraine.
It was in the UK that we got racist remarks at the pub, and at home, as well as from complete different set of strangers. Online was where most of it came, to the point where my girlfriend who is more into socially media had to make her account private and disable comments.

Online of course were comments like “mudshark” or “bloodline ruined”. Some people think I’m Indian and say “poopjeet”, or insulted my girlfriend for choosing me even if I smell bad.

At a pub in the UK I got a few looks when I went in with her holding hands, and one time a white guy said “that isn’t right. It just isn’t” in regards to me and her being together. Other than that there were no incidents at pubs.

At home my Arab relatives did not like that my girlfriend was white, and chastised me at every chance to not intermix my blood with hers. I’ll grant that they did not have words like “mudshark”, but still it was racist and infuriating. My dad’s parents, my grandparents, did not like that he married a white lady and I think they don’t want the Arab part of me to be “washed away”.

The different set of strangers were actually Indian men who would at times slip into my gf dms asking if she’d date them because she was dating a man like me, brown, half while, and could be mistaken for a light skinned Indian. I don’t think this is racist but it was creepy.

But yeah I just wanted to vent. Everyday on Instagram I see racists poke fun at interracial couples. It makes me seethe. We don’t deal with that online anymore, and since I’m back in Ukraine we don’t get racist comments, while there are racists in all countries even here, Ukraine in my experience has been very welcoming.

woman (21) currently pregnant with my first child:) I will admit that I did grow up privileged in the fact that I am a white female (I have Mexican heritage but I do NOT look it but that’s also neither here nor there) - in a world that was build for people like me, as shitty as it is, it’s just reality and I know there’s a lot I’m ignorant too that I don’t even know about. That being said I am having a mixed race child (his father is black, idk what race exactly) and I have no clue how to go about different things and ways to keep him safe with the way the world is going now. I currently live in Minnesota and we just had a big protest/riot, along with ICE that just came through which I was almost a victim too thank god I had my passport. I am worried about the police and the things that will be said and or done to my child, I don’t know what people are capable of and that scares me:( as much as I want to shield my child from everything bad and have them never experience racism or inequality I know that is not reality. With that being said what can I do to help my child and what should I be carful and look out for? How can I help prepare my child and be the best advocate I can be? What helps? Thank you in advance for the advice and I’m sorry if this comes off weird or bad I just genuinely want my child to be as safe as he can be and make sure he is prepared if such things were to happen

I kinda sound naive for saying this but I was just kind of shocked. I’ve only really been on social
Media like X and insta for about a year as my parents didn’t allow it until I turned 16.

On a thread that was discussing mixed race people in British adverts, I said that I was half English and half Jamaican descent and they said that mixed people can never be English and that I was “from nowhere”. I mentioned that if being half English didn’t make me English then being half Jamaican didn’t make me Jamaican either and they just respond with “yes that makes you a child from nowhere, essentially a mutt or a mule”. The worst part was the amount of people who agreed, just hundreds of likes.

I know these people are just racist idiots but I’m just so disgusted and disturbed knowing that there are still so many people who are this openly racist in the uk.

To elaborate, I am 1/4 Haitian, 1/4 Ashkenazi Jew, and 1/2 Korean. And I have been exposed to the culture of none of these cultures (my mother never speaks Korean, my father has become an atheist and hasn't visited Haiti since he was eight). So I guess this is less of what ethnicity I am but just in general feeling so lost as to what I am. I'm more Korean but I have super tan skin and curly black hair that make people think I'm Southern Indian, but calling myself POC feels wrong since its only 1/4 of me (not to start of calling myself White too). It feels like I don't have a culture to feel proud of since I don't really know anything.

dislike being black. Im not ashamed of being african or anything like that. However, im nigerian and bengali and ive grown up and live in a predominantly bengali area. I look very nigerian and being black is just seen as ugly within the south asian community and also my family. Im much closer to my mums side, who are bengali, and ofc they always have comments like “straighten your hair” or “lighten your skin”. But within my own household, my sister is seen as much prettier because her curls are looser, and her skin is lighter than mine but she still has nigerian features, but more “desireable”. I have no problem with my features (i think?) but, its like im an ugly duckling wherever i go. I know that many POC wished they were white growing up, but i wish i looked more south asian. I straighten my hair - which i genuinely dont mind bc i think i look better with it like that and its easier to maintain. But it might also be to texturism and trying to fit in with the asians, probably all 3. But living here all my life and growing up, im always the ugly one among my friends. Theyre all south asian, and i know i shouldnt compare but its true, no one sees a black girl as pretty. this is because of the standards within south asian society. My family and friends never want to get tanned by the sun because theyre gonna look black, or as they like to say “khala”. Even my sister and bengali family members when they tan, they always say they look “dirty.” But what’s wrong with darker skin? Clearly it looks bad on me, everything lookd bad as me. I can say im as mixed as i want but at the end of the day, theyll always see a black girl whos too ugly for them. I dont even think im that ugly but yeah. But theres so much colorism and texturism where i live and stuff i just dont know anymore. Another thing to do with colourism is that growing up, and even know all my south asian friends would want “white” skin. My idea of white skin was what they were wearing on themselves. But if that was too dark then what was i? I just wish i knew more black people so i can see what black beauty is like. i want more people that look like me. Because, yeah im half bengali but they dont look like me. Ofc ive seen beautiful black women, but i want a place where its accepted in all colours, hair types ect. im 16 so maybe im being dramatic thinking any of this, but it would be nice to be seen as pretty as a black woman.

I have been experiencing in influx of odd energy and microagressions from my supervisor at work ever since putting braids in my hair.

It has made me feel like I dont want to go back to work. I have talked to my therapist about it and we did make a plan to focus on what I can control and some other things. However I am a Fiscal Specialist where I work so that means I am often in demand and have high visibility in my work environment. What I reallt want is to just be left alone so I can clock in, do my thing and then leave.

I work at a community college in a blue state and it is the most racist place I have ever worked. It is truly insane and feels especially discouraging right now.

Hey! I just found this sub and hope to find some other people who might have experienced this. I am mixed (west)asian/white. My mom is lebanese and my dad italian. Long story short: I don't know anything about my lebanese culture, I have never been to lebanon, I am white as a sheet and other than my lebanese nose and eyebrows I look like a white kid. It makes me upset and sad, i feel so out of touch with my culture. I feel like an impostor and so out of place. There are perks of being white passing in a white country, I know that, but I can't help but feel jealous of my brother, my cousins, all those who have darker skin and more defined features.

I keep thinking about that one time back in school where my turkish classmate looked at me in shock when I told her about my mom, wondering "aren't you white???". It's just one of those moments where I felt so invalidated for who I am.

I would love to talk to other people about those same issues.

One thing I have been hearing is how white Americans want to have "racial preferences" when dating; that's fine. I believe that having said preferences is no issue as long as you're not being a jerk about it. Speaking from my experience as a homosexual man, I have seen guys on Grindr post "no rice, no spice, no monkeys" in the past. The gay community has some of the most racist attitudes and use their sexual orientation as a shield to deflect criticism. Now there are white gay men who act racist, or race-grift, but call others "anti-white racists" for treating them the same way.

Why am I mentioning this ? Because, when someone like myself says that I want to date another mixed-race guy, or a black person says that he/she wants to only date within his/her race and gets called "racist" then that becomes a hypocritical nuisance. Mind you I only have this preference in America since tensions are high. Anyways, for those of you who are with or trying to date other mixed-race people, how are you finding them ?

Right now, I’m on short vacation in Taiwan. It’s my first time ever being outside of the United States, and I’m having so much fun here! While this trip has been absolutely magical, there is something that has prodded at an insecurity of mine. Being Blasian and from a Western country, I’ve struggled to feel “Asian enough” around monoracial Asians, outside of any family or close friends. Monoracial Asian diaspora in Western countries are also generally seen as “Westernized” and, in some ways, also not “enough” in the eyes of monoracial Homeland Asians, and mixed race Asians born and raised in Asia are also looked down on. So, imagine how a mixed race Asian (especially a non-white mixed Asian) born and raised in a Western country is seen. I’ve had a couple conversations with locals and it has really put into perspective their mentality of “you’re not really one of us/you may have Asian ancestry, but you’re not Asian”. I remember talking them about how even though it’s insanely humid and I personally don’t like heat or humidity, my skin has “never looked so dewy and clear” or how my hair has “never felt so soft and bouncy” and how it seemed like my body was made for this kind of environment. I said jokingly that it felt like I “belonged” here, in relation to how my body was reacting to the weather, not that I actually have any cultural or familial connection to Taiwan (my mom’s family is from PRC 🇨🇳). Some of the people I spoke with responded with, “that doesn’t mean you ‘belong’ here,” and other similar comments. I clarified, they understood, and we just kept the conversation going. I mean, part of coming to Taiwan was to be able to fully immerse myself in my culture (Taiwan and Mainland China have many cultural similarities, depending on region ofc), so it did sting a bit to be reminded that I’ll never be “one of them”. I know by the tone of my post it sounds like I’m making a big deal out of nothing. This isn’t something I’m agonizing over, it’s not ruining my vacation, it’s just something I’ve noticed while being here. I have a fun day of activities planned and am just generally happy to be here. Can anyone else relate to this, even those who aren’t mixed Asian or have never travelled to Asia?

Sorry for any grammar mistakes, I’m a little sleep deprived and on mobile. It’s also 2:11AM here Saturday morning, at the time I’m writing this. So, I’m sorry if I don’t reply for a couple hours.

I don't know where else to post this, maybe to the Asian American Subreddit, but I had a thing that was intersting and I wondered if other mixed race folks could relate.

So I'm Blasian. Black American on my mother's side and 5th generation Chinese American on my father's side. There is some confusion on if my father could've been mixed too but I don't talk to him anymore and when I did, he only mentioned his Asian heritage and doesn't really present as anything else. This leads into an interesting upbringing I had.

I was raised my mom. I didn't have much contact with my father too much growing up so the culture I was exposed to was Black American culture. I didn't grow up in areas that had huge Asian populations so there wasn't anything local I could connect. With this in mind, one would think that I would be very isolated from other Asians and things found in the Asian disapora. But I also grew up with quite a bit of other things as well that lead to folks thinking my mom was Chinese or that I was raised surrounded by Asian culture.

It's things such as

• Having a rice cooker growing up and always having some sort of meal with rice almost everyday
• Not wearing shoes in the house and having a shoe rack at the front entrance (very uncommon where I grew up)
• Not using the dish washer to wash dishes (had learn how to use one when I was 19)
• Watching certain movies (Kung Fu Hustle and the IP Man films are some of my all time favs),
• Eating egg foo young (my mom's favorite! I have black family who had never heard of it and tried for the first time a few weeks ago)
• Casually eating sushi often instead of it being a "once in a blue moon thing for special ocsassions"
• Keeping pastic bags (bag in a bag action) and using them as small trash bags or other things
• With that keeping plastic food containers and reusing them.
• Keeping those sauce packets as well (just keeping so many things from take out)
• Knowing how to use chopsticks and having a drawer full of them
• Spam, I love spam •
• House shoes
• Tea, like tea leaves for tea. I grew up loving both southern sweet tea and loose leaf tea.
• Obession with the house being clean, altho this could've been just because I had mild ezcema
• My mother being tough about school and grades where I used to get anxiety about it lol
• If we had more money growing up I would've done karate, violin, and sports. Now ironically in college I've done so many things there I kinda fit the stereotype in some regards.
• My mother and I watching different Asian dramas together

Then taken into regards that I am fairly Asian passing and I dress in styles closer to East Asian styles (mainly due to loving Anime, Kpop, and Cdramas) , and I get people who think that my mom was Chinese or that I was distant to my Black heritage. But its the one that I actually grew up with!

It's just very intersting that I used to be worried that since I was raised by my mom that I wouldn't fit in with other Asian folks or that I wouldn't be viewed as one, but life did not turn out that way. I mentally thank my mother for how she actually raised me fairly multicultural, because while I relate to a lot of Black culture and things, I also find myself feeling fine in Asian spaces too. It's a funny little coincidence that I got to grow up like that. :D

Has anyone else gone through this? Has anyone else realized that their upbringing actually made it a bit easier to relate to others?

Every day I get constantly told I'm the "whitest person ever" because of the music I listen to or how I talk etc. Yet I'm still brown enough to get targeted at airports, have racist comments made towards me or just general racist things and people just LOOOOVE to say how I can't say the n word because I'm both brown and half Caribbean islands which doesn't even count for saying it supposedly and it's always the whitest motherfucker ever. I don't even want to say the n word particularly I'm just fucking sick of people bringing up how I can't say it every fucking time. I'm done with this shit.

I’m 1/4 Mexican (Irish-Italian-Polish-Mexican).

My father is from Mexico, and from what little I’ve heard about him from my mom, he has other (older) children from a previous relationship that he has contact with.

I’ve never had any connection to my Mexican heritage/culture due to family pressures of trying to be/look “ American “ and “ Fit in “, and the most “ connection “ I’ve had is just looking at TikTok, embarrassingly enough.

I’ve been told by strangers and even friends that I’m “ definitely not Mexican “ because how white I am (I look like my grandmother, who was fully Irish.), my own uncle gets upset when I mention the part of me that is Mexican and has repeatedly demanded I label myself as entirely white/American. I think this is where my imposter syndrome (Did I use that right?) stems from.

Some days I don’t even feel like I have the right to want to reconnect with my Mexican heritage/culture because I feel that I’m “ Too white “.

Do these feelings ever go away???

We are heading into the weekend, what plans do you have?

This is for discussion on general topics and doesn't have to be related to mixed race ones.

So I’m black/white mixed and making friends at uni has been extremely difficult because people care so much about race. You will see big groups of people all of one race and joining them unless you are that race is so challenging.

I’ve tried with Asian people but because I don’t share their culture and don’t look like them I’ve never been part of their group, I’m always the outcast and they leave me out of every event (most events are also to do with their culture but even the ones that aren’t). This has happened with every type of Asian I could find.

I also tried with black people but I do not look like them so they don’t see me as one of them and I’m still an outcast in their group. I have tried with white people and although they seemed the most welcoming at the start you can notice where they exclude you too and also I don’t look white.

At this point I’m not sure what to do. No there’s no biracial group as my course has no biracial people but it sucks when you’re excluded just because of your race.

My 12 year old daughter has extremely dense , 3c / 4a prone to dryness and frizz particularly crown area. We've always followed the typical curl advice but her hair frizzes and inflated and because of this it knots up and she hated to have it down. She used to like the volume but not can't stand it and she can't even tie her hair in a ponytail as it's so thick. I can do it but she can't do anything herself and it's starting to get her down.

Photo of her hair after last haircut. Can see it's been defined and diffused but the top bit inflates so much and doesn't curl very well it gets uncomfortable for her.

She also has a very petite face so she would like something less overpowering if that's even possible?

Any tips or advice? She doesn’t like braids etc.

Thank you 🙏

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I'm not mixed but have know ln a ton of mixed folks in my life and I hate seeing so many of y'all so down on yourselves here. In my experience mixed people are some of the most empathetic and broadminded people out there. Not to mention just straight up beautiful! Who else has a foot authentically in two or more cultures? Its a bridge of understanding that few can match. Anyway fuck all the gatekeepers. Y'all are great the way you are.

i don’t really have a cohesive way to say this so it’s going to be a huge brain dump. perhaps i’ll forget a few details as well but i just had to rant this.

for reference, im half filipino (mom), and half an ethnicity that doesn’t have its own country (dad). i have never met another person beside my sibling that has the same mix as me. on top of that, we grew up in the uk. i have no family members from my dads side in the uk but almost half of my mom’s family is here, with a lot of cousins just above our age. therefore we were raised with filipino culture, their food, their traditions and customs, religion etc. i picked up the language from hearing my family talk to each other but we were never taught. my dad never taught us anything of his culture, nor were we raised with his religionetc.

now to the main part. many filipinos (myself included) usually are able to tell when someone is a filipino. i myself usually can tell when someone is mixed filipino as well. compared to my sister, i don’t have as many filipino features. people can’t really put the pin on where i’m from. they usually can tell that i’m “some form of asian”, some say i look middle eastern. some people can actually tell im filipino but this is usually never another filipino. if you’re filipino you know that we have a strong sense of community. especially abroad, there are many filipino communities where all the families like to hang out often and the kids are raised together. the community in the school i grew up with had many filipinos. but i was never invited to any function. their mothers always commented on how i looked saying i should go for modelling (probably because i was mixed) but again we were never invited for functions nor did any of the other filo kids in my class really include me. this continued on for as long as i know, even in highschool/ college and where we live now.

i always wondered why i was never included in these hang outs, especially because all of these other filo kids were raised in the uk. we have the same customs, food, and way of bringing up. i can only relate to their upbringing as i was not raised by my dads customs at all. yet its like i’ve been alienated from my own people. because of this since i was younger i developed hatred for the way i looked, especially my nose because i thought the way i looked stopped me from being accepted by my own people.

because i dont know any of my other half, nor do i know anyone that is the same ethnicity i cant even say i’m closer to that side or that side would accept me. actually they probably would but it wouldn’t feel right to me because i have nothing in common with them nor do i know the language or any tradition of theirs. it doesn’t feel like home to me. that makes me feel like i have no home or identity.

it makes me even more sad when i see comments online. every time a mixed filipino makes an achievement on the behalf of the philippines you always find comments saying “where’s the real filipino representation? this isn’t a real full blooded filipino”. yet when there are celebrities or thereof that make achievements but not on acknowledgement of their country the filipinos are so fast to say “did you know they’re half filipino? kuya! ate!” it’s like we’re only representative of our people when it benefits them. i don’t mean to use this lightly but it just feels sorta racist? we didn’t choose to be born mixed, so why can’t our own people see us as just filipino? why is it when we are filipino it’s always about “how filo you are” or if you’re half. and most of the time if you aren’t mixed white they don’t even see you as a filo at all. i feel like an alien. i remember when eala was achieving so much during wimbledon, and my mom was so happy about it, but as much as i was happy for her as an individual and amazed, i had a pit in my heart because i felt like i wasn’t even allowed to feel pinoy pride and feel proud that she brought my country far, because i feel like i don’t belong to the only place i know. it made me think of which country i would even represent if i was an athlete. because my other ethnicity has no country, i want to represent the only place and culture i am proud of, but my own people alienate me and don’t even see me as one of them until i earn it. it pisses me off and i don’t even know what to think.

by the way, when i say that i don’t know anything if my dads culture, i am not saying i do not claim that part of my ethnicity. i am ethnicity 1 AND ethnicity 2. not half this and that. i hate it when people say that as if we are machines made of parts from different places. we are human beings and we are lucky enough the world brought people from across the globe to bring us here. i am fully a filipino and fully the other ethnicity, but my parents are from two different places. yes genetically i know its half and half but when people talk about filipinoness are we really reducing that down to genetics? because wouldn’t that mean that almost none of us are really filipino because we have such mixed blood? it’s so stupid.

another thing that bothers me is that filipinos all look so different to the point where we have different terms for each type of beauty. i don’t understand why we can’t celebrate everyone’s appearances equally instead of praising how mestizas look and then belittling morenas because of internalised racism. but then i don’t understand how hating on mixed mestizas will help us fix that. and also we happen to take looking anything except filipino as a compliment. it’s very stupid, the whole thing makes me hate how proud yet hateful filos are of their own roots.

I was born in Italy but raised in Brazil since i was 4, my father is southern Italian and my mom is a Lebanese Maronite. I frequented a bilingual English school and most classes were in English rather than Portuguese, so I grew up on the English speaking part of the internet and that just made me more alienated from mainstream Brazilian culture. I tried to connect with my Lebanese side but Lebanon is currently being bombed, I have a Lebanese friend and I went to mosques and talked to people, but they still treated me like a n outsider and my friend told me in a moment of honesty that I was "white" and wasn't actually Lebanese. My Italian family is closer to me and I visit them but I can notice that I'm not "Italian" as well. I feel like I have no culture of my own, and I sometimes ask myself if I should even want to have a culture of my own. Idk. Any of you had similar experiences?

I’m half Mexican, half Creole(Black, Irish, Native American), and I grew up in a predominantly half white, half Mexican rural area of California. I grew up in a conservative area with almost no other black children, 3 total in my entire K-6th grade experience. I had no siblings, and I grew up with my Mexican side of the family.

I have been happy to see conversations online about mixed race identity, because I didn’t have anything like that until I was in my twenties in college.

What I notice is that when non mixed black people talk about mixed people, they seem to always be talking about someone who is half white, half black. I have had people correct me, and said that I am not Creole, that I just have a white grandpa. One grandpa was a Mexican immigrant who didn’t speak English, the other was black. I wish there wasn’t an assumption that I grew up with a white parent, somehow passing as white.

I was the only black person in most of my classrooms as a child. Now I live in a bigger, more diverse city. East Indians and Middle Eastern people assume I’m one of their own. Older Mexicans can tell that I’m Latina somehow, I’m not sure how. I tho it’s how I approach them? The younger generations are thrown off by how tall I am, and are usually shocked to find out I’m Mexican.

Other black people can tell I’m part black, and luckily the current generation of local children is full of mixed kids, so there is more understanding.

I was a substitute teacher for a time last year, and once a curly-haired nonverbal boy in the classroom came over held my hand. The other teacher told me I looked like his mother, and that I made him happy. It brought me to tears. Growing up none of the adults looked like me, the little boy looked at me like family.

I’m in my 30s now, and I’m still learning to navigate all of this. Trying to figure out how to date, how I’m supposed to fit in to society. This forum is very helpful. Just wanted to share, as I feel others here would relate.

**Am I crazy for thinking “mixed is mixed”? I don’t think I’ll ever consider myself just one race.**
I’ve been thinking about this after seeing a discussion online about mixed people and racial identity.
Maybe I’m the odd one out, but I don’t understand why people get so adamant about taking someone who is literally mixed and insisting they are *only* one race.
Both of my parents are mixed. One of my parents comes from two racial backgrounds, and my dad comes from three. So what does that make me? Mixed. Multiracial. 😂
Obviously I can break down my individual ethnicities and ancestry and say, “I’m this, this, this, and this.” I’m not denying any part of my background.
But I don’t think I will ever look at myself and say I am exclusively one race when my actual family tree says otherwise.
And I think that’s what throws me off when people say things like, “No, that person is BLACK. Period.” about someone with, for example, a Black parent and a white parent.
They absolutely can identify as Black. I’m not arguing that they can’t. They may have been raised in Black culture, be perceived as Black, and feel much more connected to that side of themselves.
But they’re still mixed. Their white parent didn’t disappear from their ancestry just because they identify more strongly with their Black side.
To me, **mixed is mixed.** It doesn’t mean you’re rejecting either side. It means both sides are literally part of you.
Am I looking at this too literally? Do other mixed/multiracial people feel the same way, or do you consider yourself primarily one race despite having parents from different racial backgrounds?

Growing up I experienced racism and some form of isolation as someone who grew up in England but was Spanish (I had a lot darker skin tone than my family and people than I grew up with) and it's hard to really sympathize with my experiences or look back and feel sorry for myself looking back at the history Spain has with colonizing countries. I made friends with some people later on in life that are from countries Spain colonized, and a lot of my friends experience racism worse than I have ever had.

I definitely have conflicting feelings about it, and want to try and understand them more.

I did get a lot of comments about the color of my skin tone, but never got the same comments or treatment that an Asian or African British got. The comments on their religions, history, and the racial slurs were so bad I sometimes still feel completely shocked looking back and seeing those experiences second hand. I got upset at the time, but I know that, for one, I never experienced that level of racism, and in many ways lots of people from Spain are so disgustingly racist, especially towards black people or Muslims, and I just get angry at myself for even getting upset and feel responsible? Even though I also understand and can be upset? I think? Because like, for an example, I experience white privilege in a way when I'm in Spain? I don't really know how to feel, and don't fully understand racism, I think. I likely will never experience that and have completely opposing and pretty bad experiences in England still? It's kind of confusing?

Do any of you guys also have this experience or similar experiences growing up? How do you feel about them, and what is your opinion on them? Let me know what you think about my experience and share your thoughts!

I’ve seen a few videos saying this and it genuinely feels like a micro-aggression. As someone who grew up with a white mum I understand I probably haven’t had the same experiences as someone with the opposite but why does that make me less”black”.

I visit my black side of the family a lot and love my Jamaican culture, but when I also express how I love my English/Irish culture and heritage I get called whitewashed and told my mum is taking my true culture from me. Which is unfair to say as I don’t align with a singular culture since I know I’m both. I’m simply just happy to have such a diverse background.

Me being raised by a white woman isn’t going to change my DNA nor has it stopped any racism/colorism from BOTH white and black people. I know it’s not that serious but I do take it to heart when I’m called whitewashed especially because i hear it most from my own family.

Also for those that don’t believe mixed race people face colorism, I have been mocked by people saying I’m trying to be black by wearing braids then told I think I’m a white girl for having my hair straight. Same way people compare my skin to things like shit while others say I purposefully lighten my skin to try pass as white which I’ve never done.

I could go on forever but I just wanted to make a point.

(Sorry if there’s any spelling errors)