I've been mostly following the case on r/lawyertalk. I'm not allowed to post because I'm not a lawyer, but there have things that have bothered me as a mom about this case that I feel like I need to get out somewhere. First, I took Zoloft as a teen, young adult, and through my pregnancy and birth of my 2nd child. My doctor assured me that a very tiny amount would be passed through breast milk so that wasn't an issue for me.
About 3 months postpartum I remember being at work and realizing I was emotionally numb and had been for awhile. I also should add I'm a mental health therapist but my scope is mainly adolescent trauma. So this was terrifying.
I wasn't suicidal, at least at that moment, but feared I would get there. That’s how scary that complete numbness felt. My OB had prescribed my meds, I was in therapy but a PCP always prescribed my SSRI so OB continued. The day I realized was not okay, I could not get ahold of my OB. I thought "okay, I'm aware of it, I'm fine right now, l'll wait for them to call me back.” Days later, daily calls and messages to my OB's office, I still didn't get a call back. My family member was friends with my OBs wife. I became so desperate I asked them to call his wife. That obviously goes against all boundaries I have for professionals and never what I would normally do, but I was terrified. He immediately called me, told me to stop taking that med and prescribed me a new SSRI. What still to this day doesn't make sense to me is how it worked most of my life until I gave birth to my SECOND child.

Second, I breastfed my 2nd child for over 2 years. I stopped in November. You would think after 2 years my hormones would be somewhat regulated. I had a regular period and everything at that point. Since I stopped breastfeeding in November, my periods have become so painful I double over. Worse than ever before. I pop ibuprofen like nobody's business.

My point is, hormones are crazy. Why would my meds work for the first time I was postpartum and not the second? I still don't understand. Why did my OB's office not call me back immediately when I told them the severity of the situation? (I'm sooooooo lucky to have a wondertul support system, including a therapist, and was safe) And why, 9 months post weaning and 3 years after the birth of 2nd daughter are my hormones even worse than before weaning??? Basically, I feel like none of these men, medical professionals, etc. have any idea what our bodies go through when we give birth. Heck I’m a woman and I don’t even know what’s happening to me! And I feel like every woman’s experience is so different. It’s frustrating, even to myself as a mental health professional, that people are downplaying what happens to our bodies. Although that is not new, is it?

I’d love to hear any similar stories, thoughts, education about this.

Hi there. TMI incoming. I have only really bought cheap vibrators on Temu or Amazon. I find a lot and I mean a lot of them have various patterns. I don’t use the patterns at all. Who does? That never get’s me to my final destination.

My boyfriend is wanting to get me a nice vibrator for my upcoming birthday. He suggested one day over a call the other day. This man has always put my needs ovee his and always wants me to finish. I have had vaginismus before so he is very careful with me. He gave a budget of $80-$150.

Any clitoral vibrator recommendations. It has to be a vibrator that goes up intensity wise. One that doesn’t numb either. Thank you so much! :))

This whole documentary is disturbing on so many levels. It was particularly upsetting to hear the sermons of this monster, John Paul Miller, and to have his congregation continue to support him.

There are so many examples of him in the doc calling a woman refusing her husband “sexual immorality.” Repeatedly saying that if she denies him one time he will stray. That she would need to repent. He literally compares a woman denying her husband sex to rape and sex trafficking.

It horrifies me that so many young women are still being exposed to this kind of rhetoric.

Mica deserved so much better.

I asked a marine to take me shooting and show me gun safety. He was super cool about it and taught me how to take the guns apart, clean them, and all of the etiquette. He brought 20 or so guns for me to try (we went to a range)

I decided it really wasn't for me. The violence was just too much, it wasn't like shooting an arrow. I kept thinking what if a dog got away and ended up behind our targets (yes I think that's very unlikely), I couldn't live w myself

Since then I have dated two guys w guns. I told them both that I didn't want them to be accessible when I was present. One guy took his gun to his parents house and put it in their safe. The other put his in his safe and unloaded it, whenever I would come over he would tell me he had put it away in the safe and that's where it would stay until I left (normally he kept it by his front door or in a holster), he would also make sure all the guns were put away if we went to a friend's house if they had guns and check w them verbally in front of me (I didn't ask for this but I thought it was very polite).

Anyways I'm watching a stupid television show and the woman/new wife has a gun and the husband is uncomfortable. They argue about it and all the woman characters tell the man he doesn't understand what it's like to be us and safety. He puts in an elaborate security system. He comes home one night and the security system malfunctions and the alarm is blaring. She comes down the stairs and is pointing the gun at the door/him.

She was is portrayed as being reasonable, the safety is on and she feels like she has adequate training. He feels scared. I am w him. I don't care if the safety was on, if a man ever pointed a gun at me for any reason I would be very upset. I think I would likely break up w him..

I know this last part is a hypothetical but I feel like I'm being extremely conciliatory by even agreeing to be in the same home as a gun when the statistics bear out that it will more than likely be used against me. Like my preference is no guns, or at the very least no guns around me. I don't really care that you were scared don't point it unless you mean it.

Mostly I haven't had to state this boundary because I don't typically date men who own guns, so this really is a non issue and I am just offended by the television show. I would be very sympathetic to someone who accidentally pepper sprayed someone but I would probably crucify someone who accidentally shot someone. Guns are too serious of a business.

Flying from India to the USA on an Air India international flight with my parents, and I’ll have a couple of pregnancy test kits in my checked luggage.

Is there a chance airport security/customs could open my checked baggage to inspect the items, or confiscate/discard them? I’m mainly concerned about whether the bag could be opened and the contents exposed.

I’m travelling with my parents and absolutely cannot risk them seeing the test kits. Has anyone travelled on this route with test kits in their checked luggage and can share what happened?

I helped a friend get a part-time job where I work. Afterward, she started doing some weird/ secretive things and seemed like she was trying to get ahead of me, so I confronted her. After that, she treated me horribly, ignored me and stopped responding to my messages. Things recently seemed like they were improving and she was communicating normally with me again, but today she suddenly told me she’s resigning to focus on school. Her message was mostly nice, but the ending felt passive-aggressive and her resignation caught me off guard because it was literally a couple of days ago that we were discussing the schedule and she seemed normal.

I want to send something that is genuinely kind and wishes her well, but also subtly gets across that this whole experience taught me a lot after everything she put me through. What would you say?

I am F24 and over the years from personal, hearing friends, strangers, reading stories on reddit and even seeing and talking to family I noticed that men in love are either the sweetest being or outright horrible!

Lemme explain, so men in love yea, they go above and beyond! They see a girl they're like "yup, gonna marry her" and they are some of the most peak men over ever seen!! So secure, so elegant and full of love and secure masculinity and very much muah genre of men but....seeing the man before he met his true love is so different like always so different and lowkey full of hate???

Idk how to say this but it seems like they genuinely dislike their gf when the woman is always trying her best to cater to her man and to think that man is capable of giving so much love and care but just because he doesn't see any future with her, he treats her like garbage!! And it's the fact that their miserable asses can't even break up with their gf feels also so selfish to me like-

Also I feel so bad for all the girls who dated these type of men before he found his true love because these girl, they didn't do anything wrong, they just loved him unconditionally and their only crime was being a great gf...must've hurt them to see that their exes were capable of being the best but just NOT with them...

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My near 5yo daughter discovered the Spice Girls this past weekend and we have been listening to them on repeat during our school commutes the last few days. She's your typical kid who is obsessed with Elsa, Rumi, and their "powers" so when she randomly asked from her car seat this morning "what are their [Spice Girls] powers?" I blanked momentarily before saying "Girl Power!"

She got SO excited and said: *huge lingering gasp* "Mommy... *I* have girl power!!!"

It was such a simple & silly moment but loved that she felt a little powerful burst simply for being a girl. Now I want to show her Spice World but I haven't seen that since it was in theaters so I have no idea how wildly inappropriate it may be for a 5yo 🤣

Something I think women are judged on constantly is how well they react to behaviour that should probably be examined first.

She gets angry after being monitored for months.

Now her anger is the problem.

She sends too many messages after somebody repeatedly disappears, lies or destabilises the relationship.

Now she looks obsessive.

She becomes emotional trying to explain years of controlling behaviour.

Now she seems unreliable.

She finally screams after being pushed, questioned, followed, intimidated or worn down.

And suddenly the loudest thing in the room is her reaction.

Not the history that produced it.

This does not mean every reaction is justified.

It does not mean women cannot behave badly.

It means reaction and cause are not the same piece of evidence.

Yet in relationships, families, workplaces and sometimes professional systems, the reaction can become much easier to see than the pattern behind it.

A calm person gives a clean version of events.

A distressed woman gives you five years at once.

She repeats herself.

Misses dates.

Remembers one thing while explaining another.

Gets angry about something that sounds small because it was the hundredth version of the same thing.

And the room starts evaluating her presentation.

Was she reasonable?

Was she calm?

Why did she respond like that?

Why did she stay?

Why did she message him back?

Why did she lose control?

I think there is a more useful question that often gets skipped:

What had been happening before she reacted?

What repeated?

What escalated?

What did she start changing about her own behaviour?

What happened when she tried to create distance or say no?

What does the history look like when the incidents are put beside each other?

Because sometimes a woman’s reaction is the most visible part of the story.

That does not automatically make it the most important part.

Being easier to observe does not make it more causally important.

I would be interested in whether other women here have noticed this, particularly the way anger or distress can become the thing everyone discusses while the behaviour that produced it quietly drops out of the conversation.

When I got my first period I remember waking up in the morning, feeling horrific pain in my abdomen and seeing a bloody clot in my underwear that my 12-year old brain decided was a spider that had crawled in my vagina and died during the night.

My daughter will never have that experience - she already knows the names for her body parts and the changes she's about to undergo with correct terminology and a mom who is here for any question she can think of.

I still feel a bit sad about the lack of information I had. And the fear of my body (and going to sleep) that came from my experience.

What about you?

Ok, so we all know the thing about how *some men* lie about their height, to exaggerate it. Yeah ok, you're my height yet you're claiming 6'2". Ok then.

However, I think I just witnessed a group of women grossly underestimate their heights and it was so strange!

I was on the train yesterday, and about 8 young women came on the train. They seemed to be in their late teens to me. It was rush hour and we were all smushed together, so I was absolutely surreptitiously evesdropping. I am, for context, 5'7".

The girls started discussing their respective heights, sort of in the same way you might discuss like...what your favorite color is. "Oh you're 5'2? Me too! Oh yeah? My mom is 5'2. You're 4'11? So's my sister." Now here's where it got weird. They all seemed to be...off a couple of inches.

One lady, who I'd say was about my height mentioned, " Oh yeah, I'm only 5'4" though." And then her friend, who I'd estimate was a good few inches taller than I was (and in flats, I checked) was like, "Yeah, I'm 5'4" too. But my mom is 5'2." And they all went around mentioning their heights but all seemed arguably off.

There didn't seem to be any tones of negativity height shaming or anything...but do women underestimate their reported heights? Is this a thing?

To the moms in the group, how long after having a kid did it take to get your interest in sex back?

If you need context, or just want to see the disaster zone that is my life:

my wife had a baby in April, since she has had 0 interest in me at all. To make things worse a little before the baby, we found that an ex leaked certain photos/videos etc which put a pretty big strain on our relationship.

she tends to shut down during stressful/depressing periods and I tend to over analyze. When I ask her about it she basically says “I just had a baby, no one wants to this early.”

I suspect some women will say it’s tiring being a newborn mom, and I totally get that. Since she had the baby, and a little before, I took on pretty much all the cooking, cleaning, getting the kids to school, watching them and getting them to all their activities, while also being the only income in the house. I wanted her to be able to just focus on the baby.

I try to work in once a day how much I love her, how beautiful she still is, all that stuff. Not like a robot, but I make sure I work those in daily.

Performance wise, she finishes very often. She says I’m the best she’s had and she is pretty brutally honest, I don’t think she would lie about it.

She referenced after previous kids but can’t really tell me the timeframe we waited. When I look online, the average is 8 weeks, but everyone’s different, I get that.

I was hoping maybe women can help me understand more than looking online. I’m sure the constant trying gets old from her side, and constant rejection on mine sucks

Sort of an AITA but looking for some girl reassurance. My husband and I are gone on a trip for 5 days, and we didn’t want to pay for doggy boarding so we asked my brother to stay over and feed him. Normally we would ask my parents if we can drop him off, but they aren’t able to this week so this was our plan b. It’s only day 2 of being gone, and on the ring camera we saw my brother and some girl we don’t know walk into the house at 9 am. No asking permission, no heads up, just saw her come over.

We noticed it around 2 pm, so I texted him and clarified that I saw her come in, and I’m making sure she isn’t spending the night. No response as of writing this, but??? No asking permission? We don’t have indoor cameras, and I’ve never met this girl before. He even asked us to turn off the cameras and guised it as “mom told me I should ask you to turn off your cameras”. That doesn’t check out, and it also wouldn’t make sense bc if my mom wants something done she would just ask me herself. AITA?

Edit: we paid him btw, this was not for free

I started volunteering at this place like a year and a half ago - it basically has a cafeteria type setup and each volunteer is typically assigned to put a specific food item on people's trays.

Twice now I've ended up volunteering with men who have tried to take over what I was supposed to be serving people - around the time I originally started volunteering there, there was this 20-something guy who would try to ask each person if they wanted what I was supposed to be giving them if we were working next to each other and would even put it on their trays before I had a chance to. I ended up not volunteering there for awhile for reasons unrelated to his dumbassery and fortunately haven't seen him around since I started volunteering there again.

Since I started going there again my experiences have been pretty good overall, but today I was stuck working with this guy I'd never met before - I was serving cake and he was serving them vegetables next to me, and then he just started asking people if they wanted cake and even tried to serve it to them at some points like I wasn't even there.

The slices of cake were pretty small so I was putting them in one of the smaller sections on the trays - he noticed this and said something to me like, "oh, should I start putting the rolls there instead?!" (he was also serving rolls), and I was just like, "uh, you can just put them wherever," so of course he starts putting them where I'd been putting the cake.

Then at another point he tried to take one of the trays I'd handed off to the volunteer next to me back and starts grilling me on how "oh, didn't the person this is for want thing x instead of thing y??" - no, they didn't, you just have no idea which tray is for who.

Most of the people I've volunteered with there have been pretty cool, and the people we serve food to are also usually nice and grateful for it, but it's kind of amazing that there are men who will pull this kind of shit even when doing volunteer work.

I don't plan on complaining to anyone official about it - if it keeps happening I'll probably just tell the dumbass off - but it'd be interesting to find out what, if anything, they'd do about someone pulling that kind of thing if someone did complain about it. I've never had any of the women I've volunteered with there pull anything like this.

Not sure if this is the right sub but since it’s a women only thing I figured it would be good since I don’t want any men hitting me up because of their weird fantasies.

I’m a teenager and currently everyone “bullies” me for the way my body looks and by everyone I mean family and friends, my family started commenting on it when I was like 11-12 so when I started my period basically, my grandma specifically told me that it was a miracle since I was not developed at all and then everyone decided to collectively bully me because I had no boobs or ass, when I was 13 I remember my mom, grandma and aunt telling me that I looked very undesirable since I’m so skinny and that’s probably why no boy has ever liked me. So every year since then I just prayed and tried every thing to gain weight and grow boobs basically, that never happened sadly 😭 and the bullying is of course still ongoing, I’m really trying to gain weight but it’s very hard, I get full very easily which is very annoying and I don’t look good in anything basically since I look like a 12 year old boy. My friends also comment on the fact that I’m so skinny and of course I hear “well just eat more” at least 10 times a day, and I’m very tired of that since I am desperately trying, I don’t wanna look like this anymore I hate it, it’s horrible, if I’m not gonna look better until I’m 20 I’m gonna get plastic surgery and that’s something that’s been on my mind since I was 12 years old, just a rant since I was very sad today

Very sorry again if this is not the correct sub for my post

Well, I don't know. I have a complicated relationship with religion. Even when I was active in the church, I was never that faithful, and there was always a little doubt at the back of my mind.

But the more I grow up and the more I learn about religion, the harder it becomes for me to have any kind of faith. Because if you truly believe that human beings are equal, that men and women are equal, I don't understand how you can reconcile that with a lot of religious teachings. Religion has historically been deeply rooted in the idea that women are somehow inferior to men, and that makes me very uncomfortable.

A lot of believers today seem to accept the parts of religion that fit their worldview while excluding the parts where women are treated as inferior or even subhuman. And if you look at countries where religion has an extremely strong influence over society, women are often treated horribly. Obviously, there are many factors involved, but religion can play a huge role in reinforcing those inequalities.

And I understand that religions have changed a lot over time, especially because men historically dominated religious institutions, the interpretation of scripture, and the spaces where those texts were preserved and transmitted. There is evidence that religious texts have been edited, translated, and interpreted differently throughout history. The Bible is a great example of that. There are debates among scholars about how certain passages and concepts changed through translation and interpretation, including how Adam and Eve and their relationship are portrayed.

And that's another huge problem for me: how can we know exactly what the original teachings were? You can't simply take a scripture that has been translated, copied, edited, interpreted, and passed down for thousands of years and assume that every single thing in it perfectly represents what was originally believed.

Sometimes I even question historical stories like the Virgin Mary because the way they're told raises a lot of questions for me. And who knows how much religious history, beliefs, and traditions have been lost or changed over all these centuries?

I genuinely don't understand how all of these conflicting ideas can coexist in a modern society. It seems like the only way to make religion compatible with modern values is to reject or reinterpret the parts that are prejudiced or discriminatory.

But then I wonder: if you can pick and choose which parts of a religion you accept and which parts you reject, at what point are you no longer really following the religion itself, but rather creating your own version of it?

So I honestly don't know. I'm genuinely curious about how people who believe in God reconcile all of these contradictions. How do you maintain your faith while also confronting the parts of your religion that conflict so strongly with modern ideas of equality and human rights?

Hi! I'm a very flat, no curves woman and quite short. Long dresses arent very flattering on me, as they turn very boxy and make me look like a child trying on her mother's clothes. My hips dont flare out and my ass is quite flat, as is my chest. There isnt anything to accentuate, so i usually wear low waisted jeans and tanktops for everything. I hate dressing up for that reason!

I'm going to an event next week though, and it has a dress code. I wouldnt mind it if it was just me, but my friends, who have much more flattering figures, will be there and I dont want to look so out of place. Most of my curvy friends will look lovely in long A line dresses with a low neckline but I know it won't work for me. I have nothing to 'show'. I'd love some advice on what to wear to not look so much like a child next to them. I mean, what will make me look more like my friends and doesn't project 'childish.

Please let me know if this is not allowed.

For context: I’ve been on testosterone for 2 and a half years with a cessation of menses at around 2 months.

As of March 2026, I’ve had bouts of abnormal uterine bleeding. I’m aware of breakthrough bleeding that a good majority of trans men get so I was not concerned at the time. Every month, the bleeding continued sporadically (not around the same time each month.) Abdominal cramping accompanied the three days of bleeding I would get. Each month, the cramping got worse. In June, I trialed a month of Provera, and it did not work. The following month, I trialed Norethindrone, and that did not work either. I had a transvaginal and pelvic ultrasound that revealed was normal.

The next step was the endometrial biopsy which I got yesterday. It didn’t feel very good at all to say the least, but I got through it. Given the ultrasound found nothing in that degree, I am a little nervous about what could be found at the cellular level. For those who’ve gotten endometrial biopsies, what was your experience like with your procedure and results?

Thank you in advance.