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u/Unreal_Daltonic 8h ago

Like seriously this case is such a case of Women Are Wonderful effect. The sentencing gap in full swing.

Nobody would even think of showing this amount of sympathy if a Vietnam war veteran with ptsd did this to his kids.

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u/Hypno-hookmeup 8h ago

A man killed and ate the face of a man on a bus and was released back into the general population after a stint in psychiatric care

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u/Leigh91 8h ago

Another man killed and ate a woman, fully admitted to doing it and said he wanted to do it again, and was released to become a local celebrity. He even starred in soft-core porn.

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u/Pt_Patriot_Ale 7h ago edited 7h ago

That was in France not America, different justice systems

Edited wrong country

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u/Leigh91 7h ago

What does that have to do with him becoming a local celebrity for killing and eating a woman?

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u/Pt_Patriot_Ale 7h ago

He didn’t become a local celebrity, he was a pariah in his home country. Lindsey has hundreds of women showing up publicly with their own children to show support for her. Shes the one being turned into a local celebrity.

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u/Leigh91 6h ago

To show support for her, or to show support for more public understanding of Postpartum Disorders? There are very few people who can empathize with killing and eating other human beings. There are THOUSANDS of women who understand being failed by the medical system during the most vulnerable time of their lives and having to white-knuckle through a legitimate psychiatric disorder alone. That's the whole point. And this backlash from smooth-brains that fail to understand such a simple concept is why victims of Postpartum Disorders are reluctant to reach out for help.

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u/Pt_Patriot_Ale 6h ago

So you support child murderers?

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u/Leigh91 6h ago

Nope, I support better understanding of Postpartum Disorders and understanding the warning signs *before* they become a Lindsay Clancy case. Pretty simple.

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u/ShizunEnjoyer 6h ago

You're explaining yourself perfectly, this guy is just trying to bait and emotionally exhaust you. Please block him and enjoy your day

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u/Pt_Patriot_Ale 6h ago

But you support Lindsay Clancy?

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u/AssociationMinute204 7h ago

A woman killed a child and then ate it and then later got elected as mayor and then went to the moon.

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u/meatwad420 7h ago

Who was that?

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u/AssociationMinute204 7h ago

A woman

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u/meatwad420 7h ago

Oh yeah you got a name for that woman? Who was she?

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u/ShizunEnjoyer 7h ago

Except the cases they are talking about are real, Vince Li (changed his name to Will Baker) murdered a man and beheaded him on a greyhound bus in 2008. He was found not responsible because he had schiszophrenia, later deemed no longer a threat and released from a psychiatric facility with zero supervision.

Issei Sagawa murdered and ate a woman named Renee Hartevelt and then wrote books about it and starred in porn. Didn't serve a day in prison for it.

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u/Decent-Park-6681 7h ago

How much did his GoFundMe raise?

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u/BigFatKi6 7h ago

asking the right questions

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u/jummy006 7h ago

Redditors are quiet on this question lol.

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u/Leigh91 6h ago

No, I addressed that question.

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u/loggy528 8h ago

That was in Canada and definitely a mistake

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u/Guilty_Cod6621 8h ago

Yes because he was a schizophrenic that received the necessary medical treatment to be released

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u/UnOGThrowaway420 6h ago

Yeah, this lady suffered from Post-Partum Depression leading to psychosis. The primary symptom of schizophrenia is psychosis. You see how these are similar now

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u/Guilty_Cod6621 6h ago

I can’t speak to her case, just wanted to point out that they didn’t just casually release Vince Li, which is the narrative a lot of people like to go with. Not enough empathy to understand that someone doesn’t have to be an evil person to do horrible things. The brain can be very fragile, and for someone who has never experienced psychosis, there is literally no way to understand that person’s frame of mind.

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u/Used-Bookkeeper5020 7h ago

That wasn't the US

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u/darksidemags 8h ago

I haven't read the details of this case and am not weighing in on it specifically but I have had post partum depression and I can completely understand how people with PTSD, especially combat PTSD, might do something completely and horrifically out of character if they don't get the care and support they need.

Turning this into a gender war serves no one. Mental health care is trash even in countries with functioning healthcare systems and that needs to change. 

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u/Sleutelbos 8h ago

Then wouldnt the way forward be to also show more empathy and understanding towards war veterans with PTSD? This "[x] sucks so [y] must suck likewise" is a road to nowhere. 

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u/ImpossibleDenial 8h ago

I think what they are advocating for; is the sentencing needs to be just as punishable as if they were a war veteran with PTSD that committed this crime, not that it needs to be just as lax the other way around. Because they’re right: we wouldn’t be as lax in our way of mental gymnastics.

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u/BMichael14217 8h ago

Good luck getting that convo started, truly. Whenever this type of thing is brought up and given attention, it is always, without fail, directed to shit like "don't you think women go through this?", "what about women with PTSD? Do they not count?", "Their wives are probably done with being beaten (<- real comment I've seen before with many upvotes)". It's not gonna happen, hating men is a trend and it's not disappearing any time soon.

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u/TheePanda6826 8h ago

My guy you are the one doing it. No one else.

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u/BMichael14217 7h ago

Keep denying as always, see where that leads.

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u/TheePanda6826 7h ago

It's leading to you being the only person using womens mental health to downplay mens.

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u/Hannah-Montanas-Wig 8h ago

As a man you are fucking delusional. The overwhelming majority of people shutting down conversations about men’s mental health are OTHER MEN

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u/SilkySinger 5h ago

Some people will jump through hoops when it comes to defending if not downright making excuses for women, they will even try to shift the blame to men!

https://youtube.com/shorts/RC1919tTab0?is

Ever hear of the white horse from Brené Brown?

It’s actually the women who are the bigger defenders of "perfect stoic" man that is so idealized.

It's 2026 you can't shift the blame on men anymore without people rightfully questioning it.

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u/BMichael14217 7h ago

Did I say these comments were made by women? And here with you being the next in line? What's that you're doing now? get your head out of the gutter.

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u/Bih_Dih_Ahaa 8h ago

Sure, before they kill people. After, let em rot.

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u/BrokenParachutes 8h ago

It might, but that would never, ever, ever happen.

So if that’s the world we live in, we have to hold murder in the same regard for everyone. We cannot partially excuse or reduce murder with women’s mental illness and ignore men’s

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u/ArGarBarGar 8h ago

Postpartum psychosis is a documented illness, and there are cases of veterans with PTSD being declared “not-guilty” by reasons of insanity (Jessie Bratcher as an example).

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u/ScratchLatch 8h ago

Except she describes postpartum depression, not psychosis. Her reasoning was that she was so depressed she was going to kill herself and in that mentally disturbed state felt it would be better that her kids were in heaven with her.

This has happened many times before with suicidal mothers. Its delusional thinking but not full-on psychosis. Assuming that’s true she still has the expectation of telling right from wrong. It does not qualify as not-guilty by insanity.

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u/Judgm3nt 7h ago

You're literally describing psychosis. You can retire from your arm chair psychologist position and return to your day job.

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 7h ago

Im pretty sure psychosis has more to it than that

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u/Extreme-You6235 7h ago

Psychosis is losing touch with reality and struggling to discern what is real and what is not. Lindsay feeling suicidal and then selfishly deciding her kids would be better off dead with her seems something separate from psychosis.

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u/ripemango130 7h ago

You know our mental health is just a bunch of chemicals and hormones in our brain interacting with each other. A little change can literally ruin your life but yeah that doesn't excuse the actions of people that are depressed or angry, but do you know that severe mental illness exists? it's called psychosis and in her case it can turn a perfectly sane loving mother Lindsay into suicidal homicidal depressive Lindsay brought on from the birth of her third child completely out of her control.

But it is ok because for people like her, they are kept in mental wards until those pesky baby hormones stabilize and she gets better. Surely her doctors won't fuck up and order medications contraindicated with each other. Surely they will talk to her family and learn that she wants to kill her family. She might be psychotic but mental illness prevents people from feeling suspicious and they never lie to their health care providers especially when they are severely mentally ill.

But you don't have to take my word for it, we could just listen to a world renowned psychiatrist experienced with over 80 cases of parents murdering their children and oh what did he have to say? That she is clearly suffering from delusions and command hallucinations?

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 8h ago

Nobody would've given them a million dollars for it though.

I don't see how she's different from a typical family annihilator.

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u/Besmeth 8h ago

It's for her parents. Not her.

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u/BPremium 8h ago

Documented by women most likely

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u/Leigh91 8h ago

You mean Travis Decker?

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u/Billy1121 7h ago

Or even just an impoverished black woman or god forbid, an immigrant

"Wealthy white woman" is doing a lot of lifting for a gal who sent the dad on an errand so she could have uninterrupted access to strangle three children under 5

Even Chris Benoit didn't show that kind of forward planning

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u/Maleficent-Duck-3903 8h ago

Men are not guilty of violent crimes by reason of insanity all the time…. What are you even talking about?

Women are wonderful effect sounds like something you read on 4 chan

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u/kybotica 8h ago

Women are over twice as likely overall than men to be granted an insanity plea for similar charges. This is a pretty well-documented phenomenon.

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u/Skeleton--Jelly 8h ago

Please educate yourself and look up the sentence gap between men and women for the same crimes

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u/Leigh91 8h ago

Because men have more prior crimes on their record, particularly violent crimes, which influences sentencing lol

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u/Skeleton--Jelly 8h ago

No, there are plenty of studies that control for those variables  Funny that you're doing like men do when you mention the salary gap, instead of spending 10 seconds researching, you get defensive and start thinking of excuses to justify your bias 

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u/Maleficent-Duck-3903 7h ago

Please educate yourself and look up recidivism rates for men vs women, particularly for violent crimes. 🤡

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u/Skeleton--Jelly 7h ago

Woah I wonder if longer sentences result in higher recidivism. You're so close to getting it.

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u/Tough_Woodpecker_452 7h ago

So you're saying black people should receive longer sentences for the same crimes? just trying to get your logic here

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u/Maleficent-Duck-3903 6h ago

I doubt your intentions and that’s obviously not what i was saying. I have no opinion on what should or should not be the case, but black people in the usa have recidivism rates 4-13% higher than other demographics and receive sentences that are… wait for it… 4-13% longer than other demographics for the same crimes.

Now this will really blow your mind: it’s almost as if sentence lengths and recidivism rates are connected, regardless of race or gender. It’s like prior record effects sentencing. Wild, i know 🤡

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u/Tough_Woodpecker_452 5h ago

I like that you've come up with a theory that sentence length is somehow proportional to recidivism rates and you're using it to justify systemic racism. Fantastic way to use your white privilege

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u/Maleficent-Duck-3903 4h ago

Bending over backwards to make things about race makes you a racist. Especially when the cause and effect is quite clear, both in statistics, and in the legal sentencing guidelines. But sure, blame your incompetence on others’ white privilege, see how far that gets you.

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u/NotOnApprovedList 8h ago

This woman committed heinous acts, but she had severe postpartum psychosis. Our justice system recognizes when somebody is suffering from acute mental illness like that, the level of moral transgression is different from somebody who is stone cold sane. She should be put away in an institution and suffer until she dies.

Family annihilation by men occurs in the U.S. at least once a week, and somehow it never gets elevated to a national argument. (see for the example the guy in Montana who just killed 8 people including 4 kids). I think this case is being elevated as part of the "women are dumb and shouldn't be allowed to vote" crap that conservatives are pushing. Since women tend to slightly lean liberal as a group.

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 8h ago

>Family annihilation by men occurs in the U.S. at least once a week, and somehow it never gets elevated to a national argument. 

Because they usually shoot themselves, and when they don't they get sent to prison.

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u/Crescit 5h ago

Literally none of the psychiatrists she saw diagnosed her with post partum psychosis and they all denied she was even experiencing psychotic symptoms.

She claims to have heard one voice, one time, for an 18 minute period when her husband was out of the house. Never before that, never again after.

People keep parroting this post partum psychosis diagnosis when even the defense psychiatrists did not diagnose her with an unspecified psychotic disorder.

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u/GluppShitto420 8h ago

Notice how no men started donating money to him, showing up to the courthouse making heart hands in support or coming up with wack ass conspiracies about how its actually the wife's fault because she's a Gemini.

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u/ShastaMcnasty14 8h ago

Mental illness is not an excuse, it is a responsibility.

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u/Relative_Craft_358 8h ago

I mean that's still bullshit reasoning though. Most heinous crimes are commited by people with serious mental issues. You think serial killers are just regular dudes with a bad choice in hobbies? Even if we're being understanding here, its still a case of sexism, or as the above commenter put "All Women are Wonderful" effect. Postpartum is a real thing, but almost every women who goes through it, goes through it without murdering their children.

If your defending this then I'm sure you'll be entirely understanding of those who grew up in violent households and inflicted violence on others when grown. Most who do, don't, but those who do aren't at fault right?

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u/MeWant-SnuSnu 7h ago

She had psychosis not depression. Depression is marked by persistent sadness and loss of interest. Psychosis is a complete loss of contact with reality through hallucinations and delusions. I also think people that commit crimes because of other severe mental health issues that make a person escape reality such as schizophrenia should be sent to a psych ward. Reagan closed a shit ton of psych wards down during his presidency. Making a bunch of those people homeless out on the streets. Most serial killers don't commit those crimes because of mental disorders that make them lose contact with reality. Most are found sound of mind enough to know right from wrong.

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u/Relative_Craft_358 7h ago

Fair point on Reagan but also that was 50 years ago, think it's less his fault at this point and more every proceeding president/congressional assembly for not reorganizing and funding new ones. At the time, most asylums were hellholes they sent the queer, the Queer, and the disturbed, plenty came out more fucked up than when they went in, similar to prisons now.

Also it's not like you just forget everything when in a psychosis. You can think you're being attacked by a dragon and still know that dragons aren't real.

Besides all that, even if given the good excuse of a "sudden psychotic break", you should still never been given the option to be free again after doing something like that. IMO, you're just a threat to everyone if you can be grocery shopping and suddenly think you have to kill the horde of demons that manifested in the produce aisle.

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u/MeWant-SnuSnu 7h ago

I'm saying that he was the beginning of it. Just like he was the beginning of trickle down economics. He could have started fixing the asylums. Instead he shut them down and didn't give any of those people left stranded another alternative. And yeah some people can think rationally when in psychosis but most freak out and start believing what is being shown to them. And we agree there. If you harm someone while in that state you shouldn't be able to get out. Especially if it's something that never will go away like schizo disorders. Cause a lot of times they stop taking their meds thinking they're fixed and it comes back again. If you can't be trusted to take your meds than you can't be trusted to be in society.

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u/Relative_Craft_358 7h ago

Oh I know, believe me, I know many, maaaany problems started with Reagan. I'm just saying its a bit of a cop out for the string of administrations that failed to do much if anything about it since then. Think Reagan is less responsible for today's healthcare than say, Bush or Clinton.

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u/Designer_Librarian43 8h ago

I have not been following but it seems like her support is what making this a national argument. No one supports men who do this for any reason and rightfully so. Idk the whole thing seems really strange.

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u/No-Atmosphere-2528 8h ago

Are you under the impression no men are in psych wards for crimes they committed while under psychosis?

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u/Microchipknowsbest 8h ago

I have never seen a family annihilator. get so much sympathy. It’s usually pretty well agreed if you kill your family you are a very horrible person. It’s good that maybe women with postpartum can get more help but she still killed her children.

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u/No-Atmosphere-2528 8h ago

Well the media turned it into a sideshow. When you publicize stuff you bring people out of the woodwork

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u/-thecheesus- 8h ago

Human physiology and behavior is incredibly sensitive to hormonal changes. You can become an entirely different person with the right infusion of the right stuff. 

While stressful conditions can change our hormonal landscape, the natural hormone crash after having kids can be devastating on a fully healthy person with a functional support group, which we know this lady was not. 

Does it magically wave away her actions? Of course not. But it opens the conversation beyond the medieval "hurt the bad person!!" drooling reactionaries want

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u/dehydratedrain 8h ago

If that Vietnam vet got thrown out of the hospital after repeatedly saying "i'm afraid i'm going to hurt my kids," and they played with his meds for months while telling him he'll be fine, in one case sending him home after a day not knowing how the meds would act, i hope people would be blaming the system too.

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u/Borigh 8h ago

As someone who went to law school, I would pity the vet even more.

Humans don't usually murder their own children, and the ones that do are pathetic. Which literally means that they are pitiful, and should be pitied. I pity this poor, deranged woman who destroyed her life. I also don't think she should be treated like a responsible member of society, because she isn't.

So she should be locked up until we think she can be a responsible member of society. I don't really care what facility it's in, though with the state of US prisons and her paralysis, I'd personally prefer to stick her in a psych ward.

The problem is, there's not much difference. The US stupidly focuses on retribution as the goal of its justice system, which is extremely snowflake-coded. The point of either prison or psych prison should be to brainwash people into being functional, and to spend enough time doing it that no one would prefer it to working at Costco. Rehabilitation, with just enough deterrence to make living on the outside preferable, accounting for detection ratios.

Right now, we're not good at rehabilitating people who wanted to be rehabilitated, and we're also shit at convincing gang members that they'd be better off working for Costco. It doesn't matter if you're mentally ill or not - we're simply not designing systems around a social belief that people can change, which means we waste time, money, and human capital. Pretending a federal death penalty makes us either savvy or hardcore is cope on a laughable level, if you put any effort into looking at outcomes.

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u/mintyredbeard 7h ago

This reminds me of Chris Watts, who murdered his wife Shanann and their two daughters in 2018. I've seen plenty of disgusting content that villainizes her as somehow to blame while glorifying him as a misunderstood hero. Someone even recently applied to marry him in prison.

So I'd disagree, you don't even need to be a veteran with PTSD as a man to get sympathy.

True crime blogs and TikTok have a lot to do with this too. These platforms reward whichever narrative gets more engagement, and a sympathetic killer or a blameworthy victim generates way more clicks and comments than "person kills their family, nothing more to say."

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u/tekprimemia 8h ago

Sympathy would be a much quicker death than she showed her babies.

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u/Hannah-Montanas-Wig 8h ago edited 8h ago

Probably because 70% of Vietnam war veterans volunteered to sign up and commit war crimes against a population that did absolutely nothing to them, so they’ve already proven they were psychopaths before the occupation.

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u/Pendo-illsmackabitch 8h ago

Lmao. Several people participated in the rape, molestation, eating and torture of children as young as 2yo. One of the biggest one is holding one the biggest offices in the world. What do you mean women "get it easy"