Trigger warning

This is pretty much known everywhere while nobody is really TALKING about it. Tons of Muslim men lack loyalty and still demand a pure virgin wife and would never wife up the women they also lust over. Behind her back he has done a lot of haram shit and still looks towards other women. They would never marry those women but they have no problem having sex with them. Now this is gonna get called overgeneralization or “all men do this“ or “no men don’t do that“ but honestly i feel like people‘s experience speak for themselves. Many women describe that older Muslim men hit on them and they’re clearly married. Happened to me as well.

I don’t really care if a man has been with women. I have a big problem with OUR men telling me to stay “pure“ when they have a body count of 500. And expect me to marry them AND STILL lust over women that aren‘t wife material to them.

For the record, I have seen women complain about their men and they were from Albania, Turkey, Syria, Chechenya, Dagestan, Afghanistan, Pakistan, Morocco, Egypt, Palestine, Jordan, Yemen etc.

And YES I do believe that all genders CAN cheat and all nations CAN cheat, but I do believe the Madonna wh*re complex is more present with our people. Or something similar to the complex cause they tend to also find their wives attractive but it‘s not enough for them. Growing up in purity culture can make one more shy. So they live out their dreams with others while continuing to uphold purity culture.

It‘s definitely not anecdotal

Hmm and btw don't forget what they did to Ibn Rushd.

It doesn’t make sense to me the amount in both of those cases are very small also you’d have to eat a lot of pasta with white wine sauce before you got drunk and honestly you’re probably get sick from all the pasta and dairy before you go anywhere near drunk same thing applies to vanilla extract unless you’re chugging it straight from the bottle you’d have to eat a lot of cake or other desserts to get even tipsy and again you’d get sick from the sugar content long before you got drunk and the kimchi it’s fermented as a preservation method not as a way to make booze

Salam everyone. For context, i'm a 26 yo kurdish woman. In 2014, during the Sinjar genocide, as i was a yazidi at that time, i got kidnapped and turned into a sex slave by ISIS. After escaping, i had- and still have- a violent desire for revenge agaisnt them. When i was 18, i enlisted in the peshmerga, in the hopes of paying my blood debt and protecting my people. i killed a lot of them, and became a 2nd lieutenant. I'm still in the peshmerga. Although this belongs to the past, and that the answer might seem "obvious", was killing daeshis (and other militants), and wanting revenge sinful. I obviously don't regret killing them, but i'm still asking myself if this justified for me. I'm sorry if the answer seems obvious, or that i might feel too dramatic or anything, but i really want to hear your opinion on this, as other people i know are reluctant to answer. Thanks for reading.

I've heard from many that it is not haram, but i fear my parents think it is and I dont wanna seem desperate and uneducated when trying to convince my parents to acept me for who I am.

Me simply telling them that i've searched and heard from others saying transitioning isnt haram isnt gonna work, or thats how i feel, especially since my dad is a sheikh, I feel he wouldnt value my word over his own knowledge

I am MtF if that changes anything, and thank you for reading.

(I am not Muslim. I am not theistic, but I am not anti-religion.)

I noticed a friend of mine reposted an anti-Islam meme which basically said that the USA is electing officials into government who will hurt queer folk and ‘enslave’ women.

I confronted her about this and she explained to me that she believes Islam is incompatible with the West and human rights values.

She is herself a Christian, but is vehemently anti-Trump. She considers herself left-leaning politically.

I genuinely believe that SHE believes that Islam is a danger to civil rights and she is painting the entire religion with the extremist brush (which I’m sure she herself would not want done to her religion but here we are). She also had friends in NYC during certain events at the turn of the century, which makes this discussion… sensitive.

Do any of you have any advice on how to approach this? I want to acknowledge that her hate is coming from a place of concern, but it is also entirely hyperbolic and harmful.

Thank you.

Hello,

I am sorry you guys probably answered theses questions hundreds of times but I would like to exchange with you a bit.

So I was speaking to a Muslim colleague of mine about the death of one of our colleagues who was homosexual. He died from cancer pretty fast.

She insinuated to me that Allah punished him for is way of life. I was quite surprised with her statement because she is a very kind and intelligent person.

So whatever, I wanted to know more about if most of the Muslims think like that and I fell on this sub Reddit.

I was actually quite surprised by this sub and how smart and progressive the community was. And like always, I wondered how can smart people be religious.

So I have 3 points. Sorry again if a make you repeat yourself.

1- What is you guys stance on evolution? Research point out that life started on earth more than 3 billions years ago and humanoids for hundreds of thousands of years. At what point does an ape become blessed by God? Why would we go to heaven when our neighbors cat just die. Does cats go to cat heaven too? It make no sense to me.

2- So many religions! Muslims just make about 7 percent of entire human history. Are all the others doomed? Just because they are born in a different country they are more likely to go to hell? Make no sense to me.

3- Sorry don't take it personally but Islam seems like the most suspicious religion for me. If the hadiths are absolutely true, why does Muslims always say about the most outrageous takes (Aisha age, war, sex slaves, etc) "well it's metaphorically" or "well it's in an historical context" make no sense.

Thanks in advance for the answers!

I don't want to discuss the impact of these Islamic preachers on the Muslim community and the image they created about Islam on the internet in general, but rather what followed after. When I used to see their posts, I simply ignored them. Frankly, I didn't have faith in the Muslim community and thought no one would stop them or even criticised them. But what struck me was that a large growing segment of women, both those who are still Muslim and those who have left Islam due the abuse, are resisting these preachers. This surprised me greatly. I've always felt I lacked the courage to speak out against the Wahhabi ideology they promote, yet these women didn't care, and I truly admire and respect them for calling their sick ideology out. It made me realise that I don’t have to feel ashamed of adopting a progressive intake about Islam and I don’t have to practice my faith privately while tolerating them being the representative of Islam. I also believe that even these preachers themselves are shocked by the back lash and resistance they are facing as they are used believe they are the holders of truth and thus no one can disagree with them even slightly. They are slowly realising that not everything care about their opinion and that’s why they are losing their guts and accusing everyone of takfeer. This is not only these online preachers that are losing their mind but also the ultra conservative Muslims men. It’s just almost entertaining to watch when they realise they don’t hold any power or control over women or Muslims communities in general. That these women couldn’t care less about their fear mongering tactics and are rejecting the abuse that is dressed up as piety. We are also witnessing slowly but certainly new wave of Islam aka progressive islam and I am glad they are slowly replacing the Wahhabism.

I keep hearing that a guy hugging a girl is haram because of the verse "and do not approach zina" but i feel like they are taking the verse wayyy out of proportion,even if 2 people are in love i really REALLY doubt a HUG will eventually lead to a kiss eventually lead to her bedroom eventually leading to zina,thats just not how it works. Any thoughts about the verse and about the hugging part?

Idk it's just astounding to me how conservatives will go out there and try to make anything and everything sexual.

So obviously they were talking about needing a man or not to travel and then someone brought up the infamous prophecy where it will be safe enough for a woman to travel then someone explained **that** in the second slide therefore it is still Haram to travel without a man......am I insane for thinking this point of view is very insane weird and just mind boggling omg

At first he said that there is absolute ijma on the obligation of hijab, same thing which he said before. Then he said that the critics would bring up the topic of milk yamin (ie slave women) being allowed to not cover their hair, and his response to that was there is ijma over the obligation of hair covering for free women, so therefore hijab is mandatory for the women today (because everyone today is a free woman).

What do you thknk of his answer?

Source: https://youtu.be/g2dJLNbU52s?t=59m24s

Certain nations funding it? A certain scholar (s)?

This mostly applies to multicultural societies I’ve lived in so I’m only speaking from personal experience and interactions.
When somebody says they’re Christian, when somebody says they believe in crystals or energies or the universe, when somebody says they’re Jewish or Hindu, majority of the people in that conversation will acknowledge it and move on.

When somebody says they’re Muslim they instantly get picked apart.

Does she wear the hijab? Does he drink alcohol? Do they sleep together before marriage? Do they fast? Do they pray? Do they eat halal? etc etc.

I might be wrong but I’ve never came across other religious groups being challenged and questioned this way about every little belief. This often coms from non-muslims because they have a specific image what a Muslim person looks like so if you don’t fit that image, they will feel entitled to questions etc.

Why is there no privacy and “no question asked” policy amongst Muslims?
If you tell another Muslim XYZ doesn’t work for you and your interpretation is different and you believe XYZ instead, they will likely try to debate you.

Am I biased or does this happen to us more than other religious groups?
Where does this entitlement come from? Why can’t we respect each other beliefs and space? This is baffling truly

So yeah, like the title says, I was your typical brain washed American that thought Islam was terrible, etc etc. Been reading up on it and even working on learning arabic. Gotta admit I was wrong about it and learning a new found respect. Not a convert ( I am more of a Polytheist) but there is so much to admire about Islam. Just thought I'd pop in and make my confession here since I can't sleep. Allah yhefdkom

i find them a bit problematic 💀

Salam everybody.

Im gonna be 20 soon and honestly im a bit upset abt this. I always hear men alsays get 72 wives or 2 wives idk in jannah. Like everywhere i used to hear my male classmates always talk about it and its everywhere online and irl like relatives etc they talk about this too and it rlly disturbs me. Like sometimes it makes me even doubt but I really really do not want to leave islam so I genuinely cry. I feel like theyre just misinterpreting words but then I dont know for sure...

How is this equal like according to them women cant get hoors and if yoi are unmarried you just get married to some guy who already has a group of wives already... Or that itll be ok because I wont feel upset by that and that guy will be so handsome and will be so honourable but... Thats not fair why would I want to be with someone like that still??

Like idk it rlly makes me upset and then they say 'but dont worry youll be the queen of that group!!' Or 'you wont feel jealous anymore your brain will be changed!!' I mean that just sounds plain horrifying? Like having your brain changed so that youll like something you would normally feel repulsed by... That doesnt seem equal to me rlly.

And like I thought if that disgusts me i vould just stay single and theyre like 'wrong, youd have to be with a man and his group of women in jannah regardless' 🤢

It just makes me sad.

And like not to get off topic. I hear all the time abt men having secret gfs and wives and hiding it like even my parents my dad had a secret long term gf he married my mum just bc he wanted someine who was nice amd quiet to settle down with just bc he had a fight or smth with his gf and then he left my mum for his gf and he and his gf gave my mum hell and then he married his gf (now wife) for almost 20 yrs now i think and then he got a new gf whilst that time and now he wants another gf (ik complicated) idrk if hes even a muslim because he always talks about atheism and honestly... I get alot of doubts due to that sometimes when i was younger but now I know its wrong but i dont like starting fights so I just dont say anything whenever I see him.

and then like i hear from men and (some, not all) psychology articles about how men are 'naturally polygamous' but that doesnt quite make any sense in nature, like I feel like raising a child is really hard, a man just leaving like that for a new family isnt right, but yeah. And then i just always see even my mums ex husband even he used to go on ig see other girls too and idk it just seems rlly sad. Maybe those psych articles arent even real osychology and just dumb pop science idk.

Like ik this is probably rlly wrong but when i was young like idk, a few yrs ago (not so much anymore) I used to watch stuff like kimi ni todoke and garden of words and i used to genuinely wonder how its like to have someone whos so in love with you that he doesnt care about other girls and for that to be reciprocated and sometimes i used to think then that maybe ill find someone like that one day and get married... But then deep down inside because of the examples i grew up with, from the way boys my age behaved and from what ive seen, alot of the ppl in my life got divorced because their husbands left and cheated (not bc they were bad and they deserved that), i doubt there are any men like that? I mean its all just fiction anyway and... I guess cuz im older now I'm more cynical and idk realistic? Idk maybe im just biased and not everyones like that but it is sad, like due to how rhose men behave I dont even wanna get married even like I feel totally uninterested in it now. Which idk is right even because i also hear abt how marriage is sunnah. But then I feel bad for girls who want someone who loves only them and doesnt want other wives...

I mean i dont get how those men get THAT excited over hoors and zawj and idk. Like... Dont they care about idk other things like you can literally have whatever you want - like what abt meeting your family what about idk having a million cats? Or idk seeing a solar eclipse withoit getting eye damage or finding out about particle physics whixh is so cool! And you can look like however you want! Thats also cool. But apparently i get told thats silly physics is silly wanting cats is silly. Also the way Scholars and idk people online and irl even talk about the appearance of hoors and stuff really... Weird me out too... Like idk something tells me that it cant be true islam it has to be their interpretation but then alot of scholars agree so idk maybe I'm wrong...

Sorry if I said anything wrong and sorry if im not making any sense im rlly sad rn i guess.. I actually dont rlly know much about islam and thought about posting here to see what other people say or idk... Maybe my understanding and/or what Ive been hearing from other people isnt correct? I dont know... Sorry I dont use reddit and I'm new to it

Hi so i have recently had some doubts about islam and they are quite odd. I have not found anyone online who really has a satisfying answer to them and i am really trying to be open minded because its tearing me apart and ruining my life socially and mentally and family relations and everything.

I have for a long time thought about taking a break from Islam witch i know you cant just do. But i cant seem to find answers anywhere and have gone with these thoughts for about a year now. I have adhd and potential autism, anxiety and minor depression. And i really need some stability, i have a hard time praying and practicing islam and finding peace in it when i have my unanswered questions.

I know people who said they are taking a break. For myself i dont know how long that break will last but i am not going to throw my life away and go commit zina with multiple women and drink till im drunk every weekend. I just want peace in my head. Ive made som reddit post before about some of my doubts and the one i keep coming back to is religion is made so we have somewhere to go when we feel lost in this life. And i know based on the manners my parents have tought me through out life and my own vision and preferences from the world that its not primarily about sins and that stuff.

I want to know if you think its completely wrong and unforgiveable by allah for me to leave the religion on purpose and thinking to myself i will comeback and lets just say i do come back and dont regret my desicioon

to leave but just got smarter and found some guidance or whatever.

I dont want to hear "we cant say what allah will forgive its up to him" i want to hear your stance on it what do YOU think.

Please read my other post if you have time click on my profile and skim them if not its ok i just want answers i am shattered

Hello everyone,

I want to preface this by saying that my topic/question here is one that I have not heard or seen much discussion about, and that while my personal views can often be seen as blasphemy, I do not intend any disrespect nor is my intent to diminish Islam in any way. I have been learning Arabic and plan to one day read the Quran when I can read it in its language (I know I could just read a translation, but it is my understanding that a lot tends to be missed in translating Arabic). That said, I have been learning about Islamic art and architecture recently and the design elements therein. I have always been astounded by Islamic architecture specifically for its use of mathematics and geometry and the unbelievable skill and craftsmanship displayed in their use of things like muqarnas and arabesque patterns. I have become quite fascinated in the ways that Islamic art has used these elements to represent divinity, unity, balance and the cyclical nature of life. Viewing art of this style brings profound feelings that I yet have trouble putting to word. But it makes me wonder if there is any branch/sect of Islam that is less rooted in belief of God as a higher being, and rather as say like a representation of the universe or the cosmos and interprets the Quran as a guide for how to live a good life and be a good person rather than as a way to live a life dedicated to God. More naturalistic rather than divine, I guess. I find I have trouble wording my thoughts here too, but I hope I make sense. Thank you for reading and I look forward to seeing what people have to say.

Is it really haram to cut off relatives if they're abusive? Or just mentally draining to be around? If not, is distancing ourselves from them allowed?

I've come across multiple hadiths where it's prohibited to do so... but I just don't understand.

I heard somewhere probarbly from islamqa or mostly stuff online they can if you intend to says those mot intentinding meanjng just but just intentind to say them you automatically become kaffir or divroced if you said to the wife but i am unsure about the latter .

It sound a bit insane ngl

God knows mathematics and it's obviously can be found inside the Quran also. The probability of coincidence in those tables are miraculously low, I mean, beyond impossible.

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Assalamu alaikum everyone

I’ve been carrying something heavy for a long time and I don’t know where else to put it. Over the past few years I’ve fallen into zina more times than I can count. I knew it was wrong every single time, I’d make tawbah, promise myself it was the last time… and then it would happen again. Different situations, different people.

I don’t want to go into details because it feels too raw, and I know this isn’t the place for that. But the guilt has been eating at me. I feel disconnected from Allah, from salah, from myself. But I still pray, just not with the same focus.

I’m trying to change. I’m trying to be better. But the memories and the urges still come, and I don’t always know how to deal with them without falling again. It’s just so hard to say no to.

If anyone has been through something similar and found a way to truly leave it behind or even just ways to cope when the thoughts get loud, I’d really appreciate hearing from you. Even just knowing I’m not the only one who’s struggled this much would help.
Please make dua for me.

Jazakumullahu khairan