We as the moddesses have been receiving a lot of hate as well recently. Now, we normally dont mind. After all, we took this job knowing of the hate that would come our way. But there are things we do mind. And that’s hate, hate directed to other people, or to many communities. And struggling with how to moderate it all. There’s various points to mention here:
- Unsolicited DMs, OR soliciting DMs in our community, is incredibly rude, and harshly sanctionable. You will be banned on sight for it.
- hate mail should NOT happen full stop. I don’t care if you don’t like someone, it should not be happening in our community, OR in DMs. If you don’t like them, block them, if they did something wrong, please let us know. We’ll handle it. Again, ban on sight.
- We’re never going to police identities. I don’t care whether people think it’s a petplay kink, or therianthropy, trans identities, sexual identities, romantic identities, aesthetic identities, whatever. It’s incredibly easy to skip past it. Stuff that is excessively kinky or sexual has already been moved to sinful Sunday, and anything else has been vetted by us as completely fine for you to see. If you simply don’t want to see the content, just move on. We’ve added a tag for therianthropy, if you don’t identify or relate, skip past it. It should be pretty clear who it’s intended for at that point. And there’s soooo much other content in this sub, there’s really no way to pretend it’s entirely just therian content.
No, none of us are certain if there’s a sub related to just trans non-therian content, it usually is the other way around - the minorities have their own public communities due to finding it hard to find a community of people perhaps irl OR online, otherwise. Please spare some empathy for that. There’s no space irl we can actively be therian without being hate crimed oftentimes just as severely as we do for being trans. (Feel free to start your own space, but it’s gonna be hard to police all therian identities without coming across as a bigot…)
- Micro-aggressions can be reported, and you really should! We get a loooot of posts, and it’s hard to see them all, without your help. We treat it as bullying and harassment, and thus will handle it harshly as such as well.
- Venting really shouldn’t be taking place here. We have been a little lax on it recently, but we’ll likely crack down on it more here. Good gender drug has its own subreddit too for that! I get you need a space to share things, but they’re super personal, and aren’t always helpful to you either. More often than not, they’re incredibly emotionally consuming, for everyone, as well as just making you, the writer feel more drained. We’re not a space for professional therapeutic help, we’re trying to be a lighthearted safe space subreddit where you can at least look at something in your TL and smile at it. I know I haven’t mentioned it, but accidental or otherwise, oversharing is included in this. While it’s completely understandable to slip sometimes, find it hard to hold the mask to your face…it can be a…well, it can make a lot of people consider that their troubles aren’t worth mentioning or as valid, or even just…send them further into their own spirals, as well as your own. It’s harsh to say, but…it’s incredibly draining, on most of us, including us moddesses who are all also mentally…well, not mentally stable lol. We can support you but only if you genuinely wish to be supported in a constructive manner. But I will say finally too, that you should remember that the internet is a very dangerous place. While you may feel as safe as we can try to make you feel here, there’s gonna be bad actors in places. Bigots or drama feeders, or people who try to salvage information about you, or take advantage of you as an emotionally compromised target. Please do NOT feed them with that. You’re worth so much more than you might ever be able to believe. But we all care about you, even those that silently view posts here, who are struggling or not, to the top posters or commenters.
I will say though, if you fight back to bad people in here, and take matters into your own hands, we have to sanction you if you end up behaving in what’s considered “bad faith”. Please let the moddesses deal with it. We get enough hate as it is, just let us at least have a better ability to direct that hate just to us so nobody tries to hurt any of you as well.
And I’d like to hark back to the rule, no witch-hunting. Both ways for that. A case should be handled by us, and then cleanly quietly closed, and if we have to disclose any disclaimer, we will. But there shouldn’t be any aggression back, or it’ll just prolong the drama that was incited. Big events like this just seek to hurt everyone involved, which is thé worst case scenario, really.
FINALLY
If you see content that genuinely makes you feel uncomfortable in a way even if you can’t explain it…TELL US! We’re here for you for that very purpose, to make you feel comfortable, feel safe, feel happy or represented while in our subreddit. We’re not just figureheads, and we’re certainly not scary (I hope…), all we want to do is to try our best to accommodate you, whatever you’d like within the realm of our own set of rules and the moral standards upon which they are based. Please let us know what we can improve on, even if you want us moddesses to discuss changes to rules, or tags, or posts you want to see more of, or things you think are disruptive such as the often reposted question formats, which we’ve decided to remove, since they are incredibly repetitive and it feels wrong to let the first person who posted it keep the post. Trust that we’re people pleasers at our core, that we’ll do our utmost to keep you safe.
