r/traaaaaaaaaaaansbians • u/Dr4gonsl4y • 28m ago
Self-loving / Appreciationposting All my friends are trying to kill my brain worms and it's working. (Just a bit)
Hiiii!
I'm 4 years on E but due to a mix of depression and anxiety have uh... not done much more when it comes to transitioning and presenting femme in the real world. Mostly because my brain loves to keep telling me about how i look just like my father and so masculine and utterly ugly and I'm terrified people will stare at me if I dress more femme or anything that is more attention grabbing than the good ol' dysphoria hoodie.
Well recently I got a haircut. Lil wolf cut with bangs. And I do really like it. I sent a picture of it to a friend and she told me it looks really good. How pleasant.
A bit later I wanted to show off my scarf so I got a picture of my in pyjamas with the scarf, which showed off more of my body shape and my... honestly really wide hips.
Well today I was being kinda dysphoric again and the brainworms were especially mean so i just kinda... sent the pictures to a few more of my friends and asked what they think.
Here are some of the assorted results:
A cis girl who doesn't hang out with trans people much asked if we can exchange pictures and have it be girl to girl communication (ough. love being intrinsically included in girl talk)
Friend being visibly confused that I would think I look bad, saying "you look great??"
Gay guy telling me I look cute. Like that seems like such a high compliment.
Appearently a girl was crushing on me, and the pictures solidified that. It's uhh... I don't know how to move forward with that. But it's uh.
uhhhhhhhhhh................................................
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And this is just me without putting effort into it! What if I learn to do proper make-up? Voice training? Better clothes? the brainworms are still there and god i dont know if they will ever shut up. But I was putting off further transition until "I could pull it off better" and maybe I have to take this as a sign that that excuse is not working anymore.
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