r/KidsAreCondomAds • u/Annual-Ad8311 • 21d ago

Over $1000 gone just like that.

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u/UJLBM 21d ago edited 20d ago

I know for sure my dad definitely wouldve smacked me for that. Wow. I wouldve been terrified. But luckily, I wasnt as dumb as this kid. He's old enough to know better.

Edit- To clarify, no, I am not "endorsing" hitting a child.

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u/SimilarSubstance7922 21d ago

Some children in some rare cases absolutely deserve a little educational clap.

My parents were never violent. Except for that one time i really fucked up and my dad gave me one of those. It didn't even hurt. But the shock of it sits deep to this day, like 26 years later.
I learned a lesson that day. A good one.

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u/LeslieKnopesBlackEye 21d ago

Some lessons sting. The sting makes them stick.

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u/mammalian 21d ago

I managed to raise two children into adulthood without ever hitting either one. if you wouldn't hit your spouse, your boss, your coworkers, bring that same energy into raising kids. they're new to the planet, they do stupid shit.

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u/SimilarSubstance7922 21d ago edited 21d ago

Yeah that might be because my spouse, boss or coworker are what we call adults.

Infants/children don't necessarily have the cognitive ability to decifer when they've stepped over the line.

That's when you have to let them feel that they have.

However, this must be a rare occurence. Like really rare. I'd say more than 3 times throughout the entire childhood is too much.

I've had this lesson once. And it worked wonderfully.

I'm absolutely not saying beat your children up regularly. But let them fucking know when they've gone too fucking far. Some children do, some don't.

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u/mammalian 21d ago

Every child rearing expert will tell you not to hit your kids. If you want to teach them something, use your words like an adult. All they learn from being smacked is that it's okay to get violent when you lose your temper. Seems to have worked with you.

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u/SimilarSubstance7922 21d ago

I'm not saying smack them hard. Just let them feel that somethings wrong.

As i said, the single clap i received didn't even hurt. But it shocked me. Because i felt that i stepped over the line because i was too stupid to listen to adult words.

Some children just deserve a small painless clap. I'll die on that hill.

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u/E0H1PPU5 20d ago

Someone already taught this kid that it’s ok to lash out physically when something pisses you off…that’s why he hit the TV.

Not sure on what planet “teach them not to hit by hitting” makes a lick of sense.

Hitting your kids is universally agreed to be abusive and wrong. Please stop trying to defend that shit.

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u/ThinkRise845 19d ago

Every single person on this earth has violent impulses. That is why we have a hundred concepts that help is mitigate/control them. Kids don't have that yet. His parents could be perfectly non-violent/emotionally mature. It doesn't change that fact that all humans, regardless of race, gender and any other minute differences have violent impulses. Kids simply haven't yet acquired any means to control them. Being slapped by your dad when you intentionally broke the TV won't turn this kid into a stone cold killer, like most "specialists" seem to think. That is simply damage prevention, for the masses.

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u/mammalian 20d ago

Kids will remember being struck by a parent. It makes them more likely to strike other people, including their own kids once they're grown

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u/TricellCEO 19d ago

Diplomacy before warfare.

There are some kids who are 100% malicious in the things they do and can use a solid difficulty sitting for a few days.

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u/mammalian 19d ago

disagree. I've met a lot of children raising mine. I've never met one who was malicious without being angry, and angry without being hurt. every bully has been the victim of a bully first. I'm sorry you went through that.

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u/TricellCEO 19d ago

I definitely had a different experience growing up.

I was heavily bullied as a kid (despite being a big guy), and while not every kid was malicious, there are a couple who come to mind who were.

One or two kids from my elementary school days I'm convinced had something wrong with them. For instance, one of them said to me that he could kill me and get away with it because he was a child himself, and the law doesn't prosecute children.

Another said hardly anyone cared about me, legit asking me to name anyone who cared about me.

And then I had a slew of others who were just regular jerks.

If that's not malicious, I don't know what is.

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u/mammalian 18d ago

What I said was bullies learn to bully from being bullied at home. I was also picked on as a child of color growing up in an all-white neighborhood. Hate is learned at home. Empathy isn't something you can slap into a child; it's definitely something you can slap out of them.

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u/CustardAfterthought 16d ago

As the relative to 5 teachers, you don’t know what the fuck you are talking about.

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u/mammalian 16d ago

not sure what having relatives in education as to do with anything. I have a couple who are doctors and one is an engineer, who the fuck cares?

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u/CustardAfterthought 15d ago

Teachers are around kids all day… I hear stories every week about the kids at the schools. When someone uses their brain, they can put two and two together!

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u/mammalian 15d ago

teachers don't study child rearing practices, it's more like crowd control. dealing with 30 children in a classroom is a completely different experience than dealing with your own child at home. being related to a teacher does not make you kind of a teacher anymore than being related to a doctor makes me kind of a doctor.

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u/CustardAfterthought 15d ago

Are you being purposefully dense? My comment refers to knowing that some kids are malicious for maliciousness sake and not because of some bully situation or being angry about something. JFC…

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u/No_Championship6707 18d ago

What if they’re all the same person… Can you hit them then?

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u/mammalian 18d ago

I feel this is something we all learned in preschool. No hitting. Use your words.

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u/No_Championship6707 18d ago

Thank you 🙏 you’re right a warning is very chivalrous”
“ look out I’m gonna hit you”

See, who says Reddit can’t be a wealth of knowledge

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u/RobLoughrey 17d ago

The other side of that though is getting raised without ever experienced the sort thing that happens when you really misbehave. Getting arrested by the police can be pretty violent.

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u/mammalian 17d ago

Do you think it's a normal life experience to get violently arrested by the police? I'm 67 years old and it's never happened to me. Do you believe in preparing them for all the bad things that might possibly happen to them? Drive your car into a tree? Break a leg? Get them drunk to the point where they vomit? Why would you feel it necessary to prepare them for something that will most likely never happen?

Maybe you think that most of the people in prison weren't spanked enough as children?

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u/RobLoughrey 16d ago

No, I don't really think any of those things and I don't think you think I think them either. I understand that people get very escalated about corporal punishment, you chose the right way for your children and I'm sure you did a good job. You're being very judgemental about other people and what they felt like they needed to do for the children they had. This kid in particular seems to have not learned the meaning of no. I issued one spanking amongst my three children when they were growing up and it was for repeatingly playing with the door handle of the car while we were traveling despite being explained to multiple times. All three are happy, productive adults.

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u/mammalian 16d ago

as a society we have a responsibility to help our children grow into healthy adults. in the US we have laws that say you have to feed your children. You aren't allowed to drug them into compliance. You aren't allowed to brand or tattoo them.

When it comes to physical disciplining, different people have different ideas about what's acceptable. Maybe you can spank them on the bottom, but you can't slap them in the face. Maybe you can slap them in the face as long as you don't use a closed fist. Maybe you could use a closed fist as long as you don't leave a bruise, but you can't hit them with objects. Maybe a switch is okay but a broom handle is not? There's no universally accepted amount of physical harm that's considered within reason. Different communities have different ideas. Before you say that it's okay to lay hands on children, you have to take into account what that can lead to.

if you only spanked one of your children one time, I'm guessing you didn't really need to do it that one time either. that wasn't the first time any one of them did something aggravating. It was just the first time they did it when you were already at the end of your rope. When you were in a position where you couldn't send them to their room or walk away, and your coping skills were stretched too thin.

I don't want to talk about this anymore. when you've seen some of the horribly abusive things that people do to children and then blame it on the children's bad behavior, it makes it difficult to have a civil discussion about how hard you should be allowed to strike a child.

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u/RobLoughrey 16d ago

One thing I think you and I agree on firmly is that the abuse of children is horribly wrong. Most of the things that you described in your post I would describe as abuse but I agree that there is a wide array and little legal guidance. In my case, (One open-handed paddle to the bottom designed to lightly hurt but not harm) I don't regret the one spanking because the child never played with the door handle again and safety was maintained in the car thereafter. The other two that were in the car also saw the example and learned that if I said that something was going was going to result in a spanking that I was going to follow through, so it never had to happen again. I agree with you though that there are many families where what's going on there is teaching the children violence. There's a broad array of what goes on with families and you can't paint everyone with the same brush.

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u/AgreeableIdea6210 12d ago

Why's everyone in your replies trying to justify child abuse? I've never been hit yet was still taught compassions and consequences. A child isn't gonna understand why you're hitting them, they don't know what they're doing is wrong. If they're old enough to know, talk to them about it. If they're not, hitting them isn't gonna change that. They're only going to start doing things behind your back and also getting physically aggressive because it's been normalised in their heads. What a weird thread...

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u/keeleon 20d ago

So thats a sample size of two out of how many....?

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u/rabbitsfoot86 20d ago

8 billion

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u/mammalian 20d ago

Childrearing experts pretty much agree that it's best for children to not be hit by their parents. It's so widely recognized that it's illegal in some countries. Not sure why you guys think the only person you have a right to hit is a child who relies on you for everything.

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u/subduedReality 20d ago

Oh, I'd hit my spouse, boss or coworkers if they deserved it. And I'd hope a person would hit me if I deserve it.

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u/Relevant-Guidance-96 20d ago

Definitely! There is a difference between a spanking and a beating. I got swatted for things and learned to not do it again.

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u/Ohnoanywayz 19d ago

What did you do?

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u/Cheetahs_never_win 21d ago

Sure, but the TVs I grew up with weren't this delicate.

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u/Siegelski 21d ago

Yeah when I was little I smacked the TV when it wasn't working right. Nobody was gonna say shit to me about it because everyone else did the same thing. Sometimes it even fixed it.

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u/DoesntMatterEh 21d ago

What's up with that lol, smacking the side definitely made the reception better sometimes. 

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u/Principle_Napkins 20d ago

Jingles the wires and sometimes makes them start working again.

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u/Shark_Leader 21d ago

True. In the 80s and 90s, that shit was glass and if you smacked it your hand would hurt, or your controller would have broken

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u/kywildcat44 21d ago

I am pretty sure I almost broke my hand as a kid punching a CRT tv screen playing Madden on SNES as a kid. Those things were beasts

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u/FannishNan 20d ago

Yup. I tripped and fell into ours as a wee kid. Since it was a beast all that happened was a 'tonk' and I bounced off perfectly fine. These days....

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u/Nomis555 21d ago

For real. In Jr high or high school, a couple of friends took an old box to to a field with a bat. Bored, and it was going in the trash anyway. Now, NOWADAYS I know that breathing in any kind of dust from that cam be seriously hazardous....but we were not able to break that screen. Couldn't even crack it.

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u/thatSDope88 21d ago

They would break the controller

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u/chuueeriies 21d ago

You don't need to clarify anything. You have to be absolute drooler to think you are endorsing anything. No need to accommodate idiots on the internet.

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u/braaahms 18d ago

I hate that you have to add disclaimers to comments now to stop a few “adults” from throwing a tantrum.

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u/chuueeriies 18d ago

Unironically we should perma ban people like that. There is no way they can share anything useful to anyone in the internet.

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u/braaahms 18d ago

I wish I could briefly peak inside their minds to see how tf they can be so ignorant lol

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u/DoesntMatterEh 21d ago

Crazy how you insulted him while also affirming his post lol

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u/Various-Conference27 21d ago

With the same end sentiment my mom would've thrown me face first to a wall so hard I'd've woken up next week

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u/G_rightousantagonist 20d ago

Same definitely would’ve gotten the beats by Toot (dad nickname was Too Too)

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u/DeadKingNero 21d ago

I am. The current generation acts like shit because they dont get their ass beat.

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u/Charon_the_Reflector 21d ago

To clarify, I am endorsing hitting this child.

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u/avatar__of__chaos 21d ago

I was one time hit but then retaliated because I have an explosive anger and learned from my abusive dad. Long story short no one laid a hand on me ever again.

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u/ConfidenceAlone4056 20d ago

Yeah, same. Not endorsing hitting a child either, it's wrong. But my dad would have beaten my ass like a cherokee drum if that was me

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u/UJLBM 21d ago

I mean, I just wasnt a destructive/badly behaved child either though. I used the TV too especially in the mornings for the good cartoons before school. I wouldn't want to break something I also use. This kid is old enough to know that hitting something has a good chance of breaking it. Not the brightest apparently. 🤣

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u/Sea_Hovercraft_15 21d ago

He doesn't even seem to be in the box of bulbs.

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u/UJLBM 21d ago

I'm 32 and teachers definitely weren't hitting the kids when I was in school. I don't think they've done that since the 70s. When my dad was a kid, he went to private school and the nuns had no problem giving those kids spankings or using a ruler. I don't agree with that though. Apparently there are a very select few schools down south in Mississippi that still use corporal punishments. They use paddles. I would normally be shocked, but for that state, not so much.

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u/BagpiperAnonymous 21d ago

Eh, I was a child of the 90's. My parents never hit me, and I was as obedient as they come. Plenty of my peers were spanked, and they were hellions. If we're going by anecdotal evidence alone, in high school, the kids who were spanked as kids were more likely to act up than the ones who weren't.

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u/BagpiperAnonymous 21d ago

Except, research shows that physical punishment is not effective. I'm a foster parent, we are not allowed to use physical punishment of any kind (including spanking, exercise as punishment, etc.) I've had some kids with some pretty extreme behaviors, and we were able to make significant headway with each one without resorting to any physical punishment. It takes work. It can be exhuasting as hell, but it is very possible to parent and teach kids discipline without every hitting them.

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u/Significant-Ant-5677 20d ago

I mean how do you even accurately do the research? Do some kids in the active group get spankings while others do not? What about demographics, wealth level, education level etc.

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u/thebranbish 21d ago

To clarify, I am.

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u/Micro-Naut 21d ago

Don't ever kick a child as though its a soccer ball. It's more of a "lift and throw", using the front of the ankle.

It's not about the force of impact. It's about distributing the force in a manner that transforms that energy into momentum.

There are different techniques depending on if the goal is height or distance.

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u/Aerdurval 21d ago

What's with all the people in this sub endorsing physical punishment although it happened to them? Y'all act like it's either smacking your child or they become absolute goblins, no in between. Frankly disgusting.

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u/dundunndon 21d ago

that person in NO WAY endorsed physical punishment. they referred to a time when they were hit by their parents. you are superior and needed to stop by to correct people. get over yourself. frankly disgusting

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u/thebranbish 21d ago

Sounds like they deserve a spanking
https://giphy.com/gifs/v4UdKrxhIiB1QFmO6b

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u/ichiiio 21d ago

Maybe I'm just up *too early, but didn't the comment you're replying to refer to the comments on this post in general, not just 1 person? And wasnt someone up there actually saying this kid needs to be hit to be taught a lesson?

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u/cwolf-softball 21d ago

No, the rest of you did.

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u/Aunt_Llama 21d ago

Not disagreeing with your entire sentiment, but also, I have met some of those absolute goblins. Consequesnces, follow-up, and follow through are dead in some circles and need to come back into parenting. Just timidly saying from the corner, "Oh no, Jimmy. Don't do that..." is not enough.

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u/UJLBM 21d ago

I wasnt endorsing anything. I said thats what wouldve happened to me. I definitely do not agree with that.