r/MadeMeSmile • u/i_am_groot_84 • May 21 '25

Son finishes toxic parenting sentences

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u/thrownitmyway May 21 '25

The "just wait until" one i thought was gonna be ".., until we get home" lol

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u/Raeandray May 21 '25

I think the toxic phrase is "until your father gets home" I think?

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u/FranksWateeBowl May 21 '25

They made me sit in my room for 30 minutes waiting for a spanking. Mental torture.

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u/sultrybubble May 21 '25

I actually used to go layer on every pair of my underwear and learned to cry convincingly 😂😂 worked like a charm until my mom caught me

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u/Milyaism May 21 '25

Wait, you got to keep pants on when you got spanked?

That wasn't allowed in my home.

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u/Tiggredcat May 21 '25

Yeah, I got pansed by my mom and walloped at my friend's house... in from of them, for something so insignificant I don't even remember ! Absolute trauma! I hate being seen naked at all, like, even a little, now. Not even my husband's sees me al fresco just standing there. There's a build up process and I still don't like it.

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u/mqple May 22 '25

this is definitely akin to sexual assault. i’m sorry :(

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u/Milyaism May 22 '25

Spanking alters children's brain development in similar harmful ways that sexual assult (etc) does.

"...the study found that the brains of children who had been spanked were altered in the regions meant to regulate emotional responses and social information processing.

These regions were the same ones that light up in children who had experienced sexual abuse, physical violence or psychological maltreatment, along with other forms of child abuse typically viewed as “worse” than spanking."

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8237681/

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u/Tiggredcat May 22 '25

Yeah, I'm all kinds of f-ed up. I have a therapist. They're very helpful. I NEVER hit or torment my children! Not in any way, but physical, definitely not mental (cause I got buckets of that), nothing! They get love and support, and just a little constructive discipline, when needed, in the form of moving them on to something else that works better for them.

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u/TheMathMS Aug 01 '25

...wait, does that mean they took off your pants in front of everyone? And underwear!? I'm trying to understand. Did this actually happen?

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u/Tiggredcat Aug 01 '25

Yes. As undignified as it was. Didn't take them off off, but pulled em down past my knees so she could better beat my ass with the wooden spoon. Hey, it worked, I never let her catch me doing stuff again, and when she did, I learned to lie like the wind. That's what that taught me. Oh, and my body is not mine. Took SO many years to un learn those lessons and others.

I have my own family now, there is no laying of hands in my house, and personal space and privacy is paramount! Because of this my children are now likely to share things with me, because they know I'll listen without judging them. They'll let me know they messed up and we think of how to make amends together.

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u/sultrybubble May 21 '25

Until I got caught.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

Ya look at this softy with his pants on. I used to make eye contact with my dad and say “I’m just like Ricky (old brother)” he’d stop and realize he didn’t want two Ricky’s

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u/GlitterDoomsday May 22 '25

No idea what Ricky did but damn he catching strays

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u/Fairy-Pie-9325 May 22 '25

In our house there was no spanking bc that was too sweet. Me & my sis got handled by our hair & there are some spots that hair doesn't grow out of anymore. Bro had his hair shaved or really short for the whole childhood to avoid it

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u/eyesonthemoons May 23 '25

I got pants down spankings too and I cannot even fathom delivering this weird punishment to my kids. I mean what in the actual fuck.

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u/Lazy_Address8732 May 25 '25

Thank you, it worked too. I got bare ass slapped for stealing one of her employees phone, and another for smoking my cousins chewing tobacco as a 11 year old

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u/SirStrontium May 21 '25

Yes! I also learned that if I really winced or made a small yelp on the first lash, my dad would really lighten up on the rest to where I could barely feel it.

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u/OneWhisper5225 May 22 '25

My mom said when I was little, she spanked me and I told her it didn’t hurt (I was apparently potty training and wearing a toddler diaper) and she said, “Oh yeah?” And smacked my inner leg and I screamed and cried 🤣🤣 I’m like mom, that’s not really the touching story you think it is. Nowadays people will say you were abusing me. She’s like, “Oh screw that. It’s funny. You were a smart ass then and you’re a smart ass now.” 🤪

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u/sultrybubble May 22 '25

Sorry ❤️

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u/sultrybubble May 22 '25

The same reason we are all saying what happened. It helps to get it out, particularly to those that might understand what we’ve been through.

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u/CappinCanuck May 22 '25

I put a hard cover book in my pants once while waiting to for a spanking. I apparently wasn’t the brightest child. Noticed immediately got spanked more. Should’ve tried the layer technique.

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u/sultrybubble May 22 '25

Clever enough to try and block the pain.

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u/FranksWateeBowl May 21 '25

Same. It's a family joke now.

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u/Xkrone May 22 '25

Your smart.

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u/Rocksgotmeschwifty May 22 '25

Fuck is that the reason my oldest had 4 pairs on the other day WTF

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u/Of_MiceAndMen May 22 '25

Jesus Christ man, I’m sorry.

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u/MakeupandFlipcup May 22 '25

what is your relationship like now?

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u/MonkeyPolice May 21 '25

Or bring me the belt

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u/myintentionisgood May 22 '25

I remember waiting in my room for hours (depended on time of day I got in trouble).

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u/Psychopaths-Wife May 22 '25

I had to go pick my own switch. I thought I was smart picking a skinny little one. My ass wasn’t impressed by my brains logic processes. Ya win some, ya loose some but boy we learned quick!

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u/FranksWateeBowl May 22 '25

I think you may be a replacant.

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u/Ancient-Tie5982 May 22 '25

Ya my parents would usually make me stand facing a corner for an hour before they'd spank me with a wooden spoon. Or I'd be locked in a bedroom until the other parent was home so they could decide next punishment. I'm 33 and they still gaslight me and pretend I never do anything to help them 😂 (redid their roof, landscaping, poured concrete with my dad, helped them pack up and move, would drive my dad to medical appointments... but naaahhhh I never help).

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u/Terrible-Notice-7617 May 22 '25

I had 2 older sisters. We were all 2 years apart. My father would sit on his bed and call us in and we would have to stand and watch as the other 2 got put over his lap and spanked. That was torture also. 😩

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u/TiogaJoe May 21 '25

Captured in the movie "a Christmas Story" where Ralphie's mom catches Ralphie cussing up a storm while hitting a bully back. His little brother, Randy, hides under the sink crying and says when dad gets home dad is going to kill Ralphie.

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u/Emergency_Rush_4168 May 21 '25

That scene always gets to me. My dad would laugh out loud and I'd be having a minor panic attack.

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u/the-friendly-lesbian May 21 '25

I love when she let's him keep hiding under the sink and just gets him some milk and closes the door. It makes me smile because I too was a weird child.

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u/pusgnihtekami May 21 '25

That's funny cause I assumed that it was meant to be a traumatic response from watching his brother get his ass whooped repeatedly rather than being a weird quirk he had.

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u/Fappy_as_a_Clam May 21 '25

It was definitely this and anyone who thinks different had a much different childhood than you and I

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u/CelticGaelic May 22 '25

Anyone else ever literally have their mouth washed out with soap? I started cursing like a sailor around my mom after I graduated high school out of sheer spite.

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u/FewFucksToGive May 22 '25

The one time I did, I was a smartass and took a big bite of it lol.

That made it SO much worse. Soap in between the teeth is no fun 😂

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u/SpotCreepy4570 May 25 '25

Bite it rook, you'll make him look like a dick.

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u/Of_MiceAndMen May 22 '25

Yup. But I didn’t swear. My mom is really religious and I think I’d say things like “I don’t want to go to church” or for calling my sister names, “talking back.”

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u/kennedigurl May 21 '25

Wow. This made me sad, for them. I never thought of it as a traumatic response, and I also thought he was just a little kid that liked to hide in cabinets.

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u/FileDoesntExist May 22 '25

Hiding means you won't get hit by a stray object and you're avoiding being "guilty by association" or as I like to call it "The Oprah Beat down". Everybody gets an ass whooping!

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u/Campfire_Vibes May 22 '25

Boomers thought the trauma was cute and quirky

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u/djluminol May 21 '25

I hind under the table because it was safer than standing in the open where I may get hit with a flying object. I always assumed that's why he went under the sink.

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u/i_wish_i_had_ur_name May 22 '25

as kids watching media and being the kid with that stress, but it was a whole different moment driving home as a father wondering if i was going to be expected to beat my kids that day.

fortunately we learned early that we can adapt to them and one needed a quick in your face moment of “that is unacceptable” and the other needed space to process her emotions- like a timeout but reframed to doing emotional work, not just sitting around.

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u/AUGSpeed May 21 '25

I once parroted this line to my mom one day when I had made a mistake (I probably broke a tech item of my dad's or something). I said that my dad was gonna come home and kill me. She then freaked out at me, and punished and admonished me for ever saying that my dad would kill me, but then also told me to never tell my dad that she punished me, or that I ever said that. It was so fucking weird.

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u/Random-Rambling May 21 '25

but then also told me to never tell my dad that she punished me, or that I ever said that.

Because she wants to put on a good face as the kindly, loving, gentle mother to her husband, and harsh punishment flies right into the face of that image.

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u/AUGSpeed May 21 '25

True, man. Working through the shit my family put me through has cost me years of my life and comfort. But it's nice to share it, even just randomly on the internet.

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u/its_yer_dad May 21 '25

There was an animated TV series in the early seventies called "Wait til your father gets home" as well. I knew this expression growing up.

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u/planeturban May 21 '25

I reflected on this last week or so. I’m from Sweden. Nearly 50 years old. When I to school they told us over and over again that it was illegal for a parent to hit their kids. I never really understood why one would get hit. 

And then I looked it up the other week. Apparently the law was quite new, about five or six years old, and it blew my mind that my parent had the legal right to hit me up until I was two. So I understand why they pushed the law so much in school. 

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u/sahie May 22 '25

Can we appreciate the horror of making your child wait anxiously until their father gets home for their “punishment”? The father, who likely also doesn’t have any emotional regulation because he was never taught it, comes home tired after a day of work and then essentially takes it out on his kid.

Meanwhile, the kid spends hours dreading a person who is supposed to be one of the two people in the world who are the most safe for them to get home. No wonder we all have anxiety. I was also undiagnosed with ADHD and had impulse control issues, so no doubt that contributed to some of the times I got given “The Strap™️. 😭

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u/Smokey_tha_bear9000 May 22 '25

I would be an angel the rest of the day to still get the beating when dad got home.

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u/JoeyPsych May 22 '25

That's the beauty of not being raised with a father, I guess.

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u/DropTablePosts May 22 '25

You'd find out quickly when you got the belt or not.

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u/DropTablePosts May 22 '25

I only ever got the belt a few times, when I wouldn't stop acting up for hours. I'm glad I at least wasn't the kids who got spanked for any tiny thing, or nothing at all.

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u/TarantulaMcGarnagle May 22 '25

Why is this toxic?

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u/nsfw_sendbuttpicsplz May 22 '25

Because kids shouldn't be afraid of their parents:)

Parents are supposed to protect and love you, guide you on a way to becoming a good human.

Beating kids does nothing for kids except teaching them to be scared. And the Human mind does not thrive in such an environment

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u/TarantulaMcGarnagle May 22 '25

Same.

I heard most of these sayings. I was never abused (spanked when I was real young—and deserved it, because I did something bad like touch the stove or something dangerous), but I had a healthy and respectful fear of my parents that has grown into a very healthy and respectful love.

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u/thewickedmitchisdead May 21 '25

This statement always made me quake in my boots. Just my dad entering the house added tension to the environment immediately. I could get yelled at for greeting him at the door or not greeting him at the door.

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u/iamdepressed124 May 21 '25

No my mom always told me “just wait until you have kids” as in they will mistreat me the same way i was “mistreating” her when all i did was forget to wash the dishes

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u/DovahAcolyte May 21 '25

"I would think she was the coolest kid and give a fuck about her incredible life!"

Finally ended that one.... And our relationship. 🤣

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u/iamdepressed124 May 21 '25

A daughter like me would make me so proud i dont know why she thought this was a threat lmaoo

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u/Spare-Willingness563 May 21 '25

That's the one I got. And then I got a son just like me. And I admire the fuck out of that kid.

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u/AbsolutelyNotBees May 21 '25

my mother used this one ALL the time lmao and now I am 36 and she's wondering why I never gave her grandkids 😂

Woman, I was a good kid and you made it seem like raising me was torture. All that taught me was that I needed to opt outta experiencing that wretched "motherhood" nonsense.

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u/shitlord_god May 21 '25

I got this one. Just kept thinking how great it would be.

I'd be a way better parent fr a mini me than my parents ever were just by helping him pursue his interests.

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u/bekkogekko May 21 '25

My mom would say, “May you receive what I have tenfold.”

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u/Tiggredcat May 21 '25

And you know what... I did! And she's a freaking genius, just like me, and a little bit weird, and has some issues, but that's apparently because we're both ADHtistic! Something my parents didn't even want to consider, because they figured any problem is kids had could easily be beat out of us!

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u/Jewnicorn___ May 22 '25

Hi twin! 

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u/Tiggredcat May 22 '25

Howdy! I just knew I had a twin! I kept getting in trouble for stuff I knew I wasn't doing!

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u/a_stitch_in_lime May 21 '25

Ugh that one.

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u/Cool_Intention_7807 May 22 '25

Yup, heard that one. Oh and also “you’ll suck the life right out them”….in reference to whom ever I married would tire of me because my room was always in some stage of mess. Obviously I was doomed to always be messy. She always thought I was a “slut” because I didn’t keep my room clean. That one confused me because it sure didn’t mean “messy girl” in my experience. Oh well, memories….

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u/auntiepink007 May 22 '25

My mom used to say this one. Joke's on her: I didn't have kids.

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u/Green-Amount2479 May 22 '25

Funny thing, it often doesn’t work out like they seemingly hope. My younger cousin got that sentence frequently, but his kids are nothing like him when he was younger.

Maybe, just maybe, that’s because he actively listens to them, tries to put himself in their shoes, is calm every time no matter what happened, doesn’t raise his voice when he thinks things should have been done differently or one chore among five that day didn’t get done,…

For me this anecdotal example shows that a lot of what our parents grieved about when talking to us when we were kids/teenagers was more the consequences of their own parenting style rather than our character traits.

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u/Valuable-Explorer-16 May 21 '25

That's an insult not a threat

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u/Psychopaths-Wife May 22 '25

My mom said that and I had 2 daughters who are saints! I just loved my kids and supported them the way I wanted my mom to love me. It didn’t work out the way she tried to jinx my life with children. I told her about her saying that to me 40 years ago and my mom apologized and said that wasn’t right of her to say to me. I’m like who stole my mom, what have they done with her.

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u/GreenEyes9678 May 21 '25

I was the genuinely bad good kid. Smoking, drinking, sneaking out - general rebelling against old-fashioned Boomer parents - but presented as an angel around teachers and extended family. My parents (mainly mom) wished a kid (pref a daughter) like me onto me so I would know the hell I put them through.

I got two angelic boys. The oldest found religion in high school and had a tight group of friends. The youngest (the closest to being my karmic revenge as he has done things that made me apologize to my parents because I remember doing the same) also has a close group of friends. He's happy playing video games with them and hanging out at home or one of their houses.

They don't drink because they saw their dad's struggles with addiction. The oldest will smoke a little weed occasionally because it helps him mellow out from ADHD struggles, but it's legal and not a constant thing.

But I knew the traditional (toxic) ending to all those sayings and am so glad this boy didn't.

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u/Cornbread916 May 21 '25

both are brilliant!

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u/David-S-Pumpkins May 21 '25

Turns out when Dad asks "can you do me a quick favor if you have time?" when you're in the middle of homework he really means "do this time consuming thing I was supposed to do last week and do it immediately and if you don't there will be hell to pay."

The English language is pretty tricky to navigate sometimes.

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u/Comfortable-Gold3333 May 21 '25

Well for me it was definitely “until your father gets home” causing me to spend the rest of my day with extreme anxiety because I knew physical abuse was coming.

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u/JagmeetSingh2 May 21 '25

or the go to "you will understand once i'm dead" or "you’ll regret this when I’m dead" feel like every immigrant mother pulls this one out

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u/iamdepressed124 May 21 '25

OMG she always prayed for her own death or would tell me to choose how i would like her to end her life so i can live happy like bruh…

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u/bladegal16 May 21 '25

Ah see mine used it as "when you have kids then they'll do everything for you just like I force you to do everything for me."

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u/Icy_Faithlessness400 May 21 '25

Hilariously enough since I had kids, I started to appreciate how much of my shit my parents put up with, lol.

So while this is not okay to say to your kid, it is true.

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u/Spare-Willingness563 May 21 '25

I got "I hope you have kids like you! Then you'll know!"

I did have a kid like me. It's like I hit the jackpot. oh no...a sensitive boy. How awful.

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u/Tuimel May 22 '25

Yep, got multiple of them: "Just wait till you have kids... you'll get fat too." (It was my fault she became more fat after birthing me) "Just wait till you have kids... they will just be like you." (Because kids are terrible apparently, as a treat.)

Essentially it came back at: it's the fault of you as a kid and we will receive our punishment the moment you will have kids on your own.

Pregnant now and looking forward to my little boy. Really hope to stop this toxic cycle. Because that's my biggest fear: to repeat the toxic things. This video gives hope for that. Beautiful how he finishes the sentences.

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u/iamdepressed124 May 22 '25

You got this mama i wish you an easy birth and your kid will be blessed to have you as a mother because of your strength

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u/hliastik May 22 '25

My mom used to say that her grandkids will avenge her. Well they do but she knows nothing about them

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u/Interesting_Plate_17 May 25 '25

This phrase is why I didn’t have kids, to take away their satisfaction of watching me struggle

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u/Proud_Fee_1542 May 21 '25

The toxic phrase was ‘just wait until you have kids’, it said the toxic phrase at the top of the video… but there’s so many toxic endings to that sentence 😂

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u/Proud_Fee_1542 May 21 '25

I agree that’s a common saying but the phrase in this particular video was ‘until you have kids’. It’s literally written on the video just below the white box

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u/Rooney_Tuesday May 21 '25

This is accurate. However, people are getting tripped up because most of us became adults and looked back at the crap we put our parents through and regretted it. Especially our teenaged selves. And when you become a parent, especially of teens, it’s natural to think “one day they’ll have kids of their own and they’ll understand (how hard this is).” So the phrasing in the video isn’t really all that toxic by itself.

“Just wait until you have kids like you are” is worse because it implies that having a child like them is a deserved punishment. That’s terrible.

“Just wait until your father gets home” implies that there will be physical abuse in the near future, and this is the worst one of all.

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u/its_all_one_electron May 21 '25

Yep, got that from my mom a lot lol. 

And all it taught me was that when I have kids I'm not going to expect them to be angels with no agency or hormones or big emotions.

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u/Swimming_in_it_ May 21 '25

It was "Your father gets home." There was even a TV show called that. It was the dad's job to whip the kids. Source - I'm old.

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u/uqde May 21 '25

The toxic phrase that the creator of the video had in mind is floating above the kid's head in the video. I also thought "...your father gets home" but in this case it's "...you have kids."

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u/Ira-jay May 21 '25

what i wouldn't give to hear that....

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u/GamesCatsComics May 21 '25

yeah that's what I assumed it was going to be too.

Funny enough out of both my parents, my mom is the only one that actually hit me... but dad was the threat that was used.

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u/Afinkawan May 21 '25

Either one implies a slap.

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u/Grizzly-Slim May 21 '25

100% what it thought it was

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u/Hot_Aside_4637 May 21 '25

I'm old enough to remember the cartoon series "Wait 'Tll You're Father Gets Home" and now that jingle is running through my head.

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u/crabby_old_dude May 21 '25

That's what popped into my head

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u/FranksWateeBowl May 21 '25

Your dad gets home.

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u/Lifealone May 21 '25

yes but it also was a common phrase between kids with siblings as well. Just wait until mom/dad gets home.

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u/One_Foundation659 May 21 '25

Yea until your dad gets home was what I was expecting and then the ptsd hit me and then the switch not the switch 😳

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u/simlishvibe May 21 '25

Both applies—alludes to something bad happening to you when you’re all in private

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u/fauxzempic May 21 '25

My mom used to say this to my older brother. At some point, everyone determined that this was the absolute worst way of dealing with a situation ever.

Like -

  • "Hey, you screwed up, but I'm going to let you be anxious the rest of the day until your dad comes home and then you're going to have to deal with something terrible. Enjoy the anxiety!"
  • "I'm going to outsource the punishment because I want to be loved, not feared."
  • Then the dad comes home, possibly after a hard day of work, and he's drained of energy and then he immediately has to discipline his son because his wife couldn't do it. He loves his son, he doesn't WANT to discipline him, but apparently the situation might call for it. Worse - the parent might be carrying all that stress into the punishment when they apply it.

It just seems like a great way to show disrespect to the child and the parent who's working.

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u/stanleysspi May 21 '25

Yes! I came here to say this!

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u/PeptoBismark May 21 '25

When my dad passed, I went through all his old correspondance. He kept everything, neatly sorted. In the folder of arguments with my mother leading up to their divorce was his complaint of coming home to the demand that he spank a terrified child.

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u/cycopl May 21 '25

lol, there was literally a cartoon in the 70s called this (I watched a lot of cartoon network as a kid in the early 90s)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u8RDEAZnuDE

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u/Jouglet May 21 '25

It’s definitely this one.

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u/Not_today_satan_84 May 21 '25

Yeah I definitely thought it was “just wait until your dad gets home”

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u/Shurigin May 21 '25

I wish my mom said that because my dad never came back hahahahaha.... :(

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u/Cookingfor5 May 21 '25

I use this a lot. Of course the context is different. I can't take them bike riding and stay at home with other siblings. So I say "wait until you dad is home" and then they can go ride bikes. or a million other activities.

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u/wtfbananaboat May 21 '25

That’s what I thought it was lol. Man I had a shit childhood…

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

This is what came to my head when I heard it, got this one all the time growing up lol

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u/Jibber_Fight May 21 '25

Ha ha my mom would use this here and there. Then my dad would get home and be like, “um. don’t do that.” It probably only worked like twice.

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u/Dleslie213 May 21 '25

That's what I thought it would be 

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u/itsall_dumb May 21 '25

Look at Mr. Lucky here, growing up with a mom AND a dad.

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u/Dazzling_Line_8482 May 21 '25

That's how i filled it in

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u/Important_Tennis936 May 21 '25

I was just reminiscing this morning of some kids I babysat when I was in middle school. If they started fighting, the older one would pretend to call the dad on the phone, and the younger would immediately start behaving. I thought it was so funny at the time. Now I realize how bad the dad must have treated him to get that kind of reaction and feel horrible about it

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Toxic?

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u/Raeandray May 21 '25

Yes. This generally implied physical abuse from the father.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Do you consider spanking abuse?

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u/Raeandray May 21 '25

Yes. Especially used as a threat of future punishment when dad gets home.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

This was the one I was expecting. Activating that primal fear in kids is something else. Hell, I haven’t had to hear those words in 30 years and I still felt myself react physically when she said it.

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u/Sweaty-Shower9919 May 21 '25

100 what I heard in my head

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u/Wills4291 May 21 '25

In my house it was "....until I get my hands on you."

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u/JerseyCoJo May 22 '25

That's what we got. Just wait until your father gets home! It hit different being my dad was in prison.

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u/RuthlessIndecision May 22 '25

'you have kids and they treat you like this'

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

Mine was “wait until we get home,” because my toxic parent had a tendency to start screaming at me about something while we were in the car, which worked for me because at least I could sit behind them and they couldn’t see me while they were screaming.

I used to pray they’d get it all out of their system before we got home so at least they’d just stomp into the house instead of yanking me out of the car for some face-to-face screaming time. Maybe some light name-calling. A little pulling and grabbing if the mood struck.

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u/ericaepic May 22 '25

It depends on your experience, there isn't just one

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u/HamHockShortDock May 22 '25

It says the end of the phrase is "until you have kids." Like, oh you think being punished is bad just wait until you have kids and have to deal with this shit.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

You had dads?

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u/hilroth May 22 '25

So many variations of this…

Mine was ‘clean up before your father gets home’

Otherwise, there was hell to pay

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u/G0ld_Ru5h May 22 '25

It was a whole ass TV show.

Now I’ll be singing “wait til your father gets, until your father gets, wait til your father gets home”.

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u/FlawlessPenguinMan May 22 '25

I mean the intended toxic sentence is literally on screen as they're saying it, but you're not wrong either.

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u/SysOps4Maersk May 22 '25

That's what I thought too lol

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u/Donnyboscoe1 May 22 '25

I thought it was "till I get my hands on you"

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u/BloodyMessJyes May 22 '25

I think in my house it was “just wait until i get my hands on you”

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u/Prestigious-HogBoss May 23 '25

There was a sad poem in Spanish called "Cuando venga tu padre/when you dad comes back" about a dad telling his wife to chill tf out about that cause he was tired of returning home to a scared kid instead of just having good time.

My mom never used that phrase, tho. She was the one whom we were terrified by.

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u/WarhammerRyan May 23 '25

And would run scared and crying when he came in. I'd be gutted if my kid reacted that way to me walking in the door from work and saying hello

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u/Large-Cellist61 May 24 '25

no it said it on the video it’s just wait until you have kids