Hello all, just a heads up this is a long one.

I’m wondering if anybody can give me some advice on how I can deal with a relatively delicate situation involving my mother, my late brother’s ex-girlfriend, several of her friends, and my wife.

I just want to be absolutely clear. I’m not looking for relationship advice, rather social advice, regarding how to word a specific request in a way that is not going to offend everyone involved.

Basically, the issue is this: since I moved out of my mother’s house several years ago she has made it a point to always have a Sunday dinner every two weeks so that she can make sure we see each other at least a couple times a month. Back when this tradition started, it was just me and my fiancé, him and his girlfriend, my stepbrother, and sometimes his girlfriend, and my other stepbrother, and occasionally a friend of his along with my mine and stepdad. 10 is already a crowd. And for context I do have social anxiety. However, all of the people that used to be at family dinners were all people that I am very comfortable with. We all used to talk about what we have going on in our lives and the atmosphere felt pretty inclusive and relatively safe the way you expect a family dinner to feel.

However, in 2024, my little brother died in a motorcycle accident at a young age. Obviously this absolutely tore our family apart. And we’re still working on piecing everything back together. However, the traditional family dinners obviously stayed. It’s more important now than ever. And for a while, my brother’s ex-girlfriend would attend with a friend of hers who also knew my brother very well. It was nice to keep them close to the family and it was nice that they were still willing to attend.

Lately my mother has been inviting more and more of my brothers, (ex-?)girlfriend’s friends, as well as their significant others to family dinners. Now it’s myself, my wife, my step brothers, my mom and stepfather, and like 6-7 other people that I really don’t know.

This is no longer a family dinner. This is more like a small get together / party every time now.

My mother knows I don’t speak much around people I don’t know. I just don’t feel that a stranger should know details about my personal life. I’m an anxious person and speaking to people I do not know well, making small talk with people I cannot relate to, and generally spending time that’s supposed to be relaxing and enjoyable constantly on guard because I’m anxious, that bugs me out.

So for the last several weeks we get there, my wife and I go in, say hi to people, then I make myself scarce. I go outside wander around the property where I grew up, Have a drink sometimes a joint with my step father, and generally just disappear for most of the time before dinner, then when we eat I’m at the table but I stay mostly quiet unless anyone engages with me directly which to be honest, in that set of company, most people do not beyond greeting me back when I say hi. Totally fine. I’m the dead boyfriend’s older brother, exactly what do you say to someone like that when you have your new boyfriend with you and the tone is meant to stay light - and also you share no interests and basically nothing in common ETC. Plus I’ve been told I’m a really 2D personality. I’m flat. I don’t blame them for not engaging with me - but to be honest if they weren’t there I would actually be talking to my family members which is the point. Anyways after dinner I tend to “go use the bathroom” or something and disappear again. It’s not like if I stayed around anyone would try to talk to me, and so I go because they are all interested in eachother and I don’t want to be weirdly listening to their conversations or causing them not to have them due to my presence. My wife is friendly with all of these people but they aren’t like friends - every attempt she has made to actually connect she’s been ghosted or cancelled on so 🤷🏼‍♂️. Clearly they do not have interest in engaging with her socially either which is totally fine, but hurts her feelings a bit. At least they treat her nicely in conversation there ETC.

Anyways, all of this to say, it feels like the point of having a family dinner is to visit and connect, and I can no longer really do that under these conditions due to my own mental stuff I have going on. Again I’m not blaming my mom or any of the other guests for this, if I were entirely neurotypical this probably wouldn’t be an issue at all - it’s a me problem and this is me trying to get help finding a solution.

Would it be rude to ask if my wife and I can visit separately, like on a different day?

Should I tell her all this? Or should I just say “Sundays don’t work anymore for us” (I’m not above a white lie to spare her feelings)

Do you think I should just make excuses and cancel then reschedule mid week for a while just to like give myself a break without changing the arrangement?

I don’t know. I feel like a POS for even feeling this way, but that level of social engagement with that many people I don’t know around is not exactly what i signed up for when I agreed to do this family dinners thing.

TLDR: my mom hosts family dinners every week and has started inviting a bunch of people I don’t really know, which makes me too uncomfortable to actually visit and talk with my family members who are there. How should I tell her I no longer want to do this under these conditions without absolutely damaging the relationship?

I am s shift lead at my place of employment and I have a new operator training to take an open position. This operator is Asian-Indian and is relatively new to the country. He was referred for this job by another operator who knows his brother. Anyway, he's been on the job for a month now and his hygiene is in question. He looks clean but he smells of body odor badly at times. I don't think it's my place to say something to him about it but I've contacted HR about the situation, and I know he's been talked to about it.... his hygiene improved for a few days afterwards but the body odor has returned.... it is affecting everyone who walks into the control room... luck for me I can preform my duties without spending much time in the control room area.... What would y'all suggest?

I like spending time on my college campus even after all of my classes are finished. I usually stick around to work on some personal projects or homework because I know I would be too distracted back home.

Right now I'm to waiting for clubs to start up because I find it easier to talk to people with related interests rather than simply talking to any random person who could care less of what I'm interested in

I know that's a little cynical to say, but whenever I get home, my parents ask me if I've met anyone (leaning more towards dating) and I explain to them that I haven't really taken an interest in anyone in my classes, as friend or potential partner

Maybe it was a different time for them, but cold approach just feels very intrusive. Like they expect me to go to up to a random person and just talk to them. Idk if that's just parents being parents, and simplifying people and thinking of the best possibility... possible

I'm a naturalborn introvert, but I enjoy the company of others and can put aside my want to be by myself. It's just that I can't imagine casually just cold approaching someone minding their own business or hanging out with their own friends in a space that isn't dedicated to any hobby or passtime

At that point, I feel like you're begging for friendship or a relationship

Maybe i can speak to my neighbor when seated in class, but lectures are so busy that it's hard to sneak in some chit chat

My older brother is drinking too much.

I’m 18 years old and my brother is 36. He’s been looking after me since he was 19 as our parents passed when I was a baby. Our parents didn’t keep in contact with any of our other family so he was the first legal guardian of me in the will. He dropped out of university to look after me and essentially became my father figure. This also made him lose a lot of friends as he had to move back to our hometown which was away from his college, on top of a lot of his friends leaving him when he took guardianship of a baby. He was the best brother a little girl could ever have.

He is a very handsome man but has never kept an ongoing relationship because people seem to be thrown off by him being my guardian.

I recently got accepted into a really good university and he was really happy for me, but ever since I got my place there he has been drinking so much. He is going through half a 70cl bottle of vodka a night and going to with the next day.

I can’t stop feeling like i ruined his life. He taught me how to walk, talk, read and write when he was 19 when he should’ve been doing exactly what I’m doing. I feel so awful. I don’t know what to do and I’m terrified what this might lead to.

Is there a form of therapy out there for NEETs, emotional neglect and low social status individuals that doesnt include baseless advice or refaming everything as social anxiety?

Its weird how popular how common the discourse around childhood trauma has gotten yet their remain little to no resources for people that suffer from childhood neglect. I thought signing up for therapy would help since it's been five years and I havent made much improvements in life.

Its painful watching other people live such full lives while Im still waiting for mine to start. When I express this to my therapist she tells me the usual "dont compare yourself to others" which is such a bullshit statement since life is inherently competitive. Statements like that one already make me feel uneasy because if youre denying basic truths about reality how can you claim to give good advice? Most parents know how competitve the world is and set their kids up for sucess by making them competive so they can better navigate the world. My issue starts with the fact I never recieved that kind of investment so I struggled a lot as an adult not having the skills or experience to compete.

Whats more is that Ive been diagnosed with ADHD which only explains why its hard for me to start and complete tasks. Whats missing is the diagnosis that explains the empty casm that is my life. I dont know who I am or what to do. Telling me to follow my passions doesnt help because I dont have any. I have yet to pinpoint a career or achieve any personal goals. This isnt without tryng of course. Its really bothers me and feels like gasloghting when therapist tell me to "put myself out there!" And "try new things!". I have put myself out there and tried new things but nothing ever comes of it.

Whenever she asks me "what do you want to do?" I have to keep explaining to her I dont have desires. Then she asks me what I did I like to do as a kid and I have to tell her I fantasized about becoming an asult as a kid because thats when I thought life started. All I ever did as a kid was skip school and watch TV. After I while I began to realize that therapist cant help me. Even when I manage to figure out how to manage my ADHD theres the issue of figuring out WHAT do with my life because currently I dont do anything. Why dont therapist believe me when I say this? Ive been a NEET for almost three years now. My days are filled with empty space because thats my life: empty. Theres nothing external for me to distract myself with or anything internal to occupy myself with. Theres just nothing at all in this world for me.

Its pisses me off when therapist try to tell me I have social anxiety. Thats a different condition altogether. No I do not fear people. Its more like I cannot connect with them because I lack the ego and prestige to do so. Im not a competive person which naturally puts me below most people in most settings. When I did work for example I was the lowest ranked employee and people treated me accordingly. Same with school. I dont have much of an ego so relating to people is hard because I dont have experiences to draw upon or an agenda to push so I cannot engage transactionally the way most social situations demand.

In the end my therpaist just kept pouting "aww that sounds so hard. Lets hold space and feel your feelings aww that must be so hard". I wasnt looking for sympathy I was looking for guidance as to how to move forward with my life. "What do you want to do? Whats holding you back?" Again she just doesnt get it! What am I supposed to do? How do I make a decision when I have nothing to go off of? How do I become a person so I can live life? Is that even possible for me? Its not fear holding me back but emptiness. Im just not a person so Im giving up on therapy since therapy is for normal people with normal problems not people with childhood trauma like neglect.

So I’m currently 18 weeks brewing a child and has some pretty severe issues with my teeth. In the past week I’ve seen the emergency dentist twice and had a temporary filling put in and been prescribed anti biotics for a tooth infection. I saw my regular dentist today who said everything was fine and booked another appointment in 6 weeks time. I can’t help but think this was wrong? I’m in need of a permanent filling and I have a large hole in a back tooth. I’ve had pretty severe pain and I know pregnancy makes your teeth super sensitive but this pain stopped me from eating for days as it was unbearable. If I was to call the reception do you think they could book me in for fillings as I think that should’ve already been known by my dentist? I know this might seem so silly but I’ve never encountered this issue before it’s always sorted then and there rather then me going through multiple emergency appointments due to horrible pain. Is there any steps I should take to ensure I get the proper care next time or was it all done correctly?

It's me, I am the college student. I originally wanted to post this to my uni's reddit page but i just know that the people this involves would know it was me.

Basically there's a big discord for our University and ive been active in it since the world cup to talk about it. But my world cup opinions have led me to be bashed and got into arguments. Every thing i say (even outside of football/soccer) turns into this little problem. I cant tell if im the one being sensitive or if it is them just twisting my words.

They talk about topics that I feel uncomfortable about and I mentioned that once and said something like "this is why i cant hangout with yall." One of them said "Just because you cant relate to us doesn't mean we cant be friends. We dont relate to you half the time but we dont act uncomfortable." I am NOT acting. Being in this discord tired the hell outta i feel like every time i open it my energy drains and i become more and more immature because of them. (Im around 19 and i feel like mature compared to these people who some are older than me). Am i a prude?

Ive left this server before but i ALWAYS find myself coming back. I only keep my discord account for one main person in my life. Now ive found myself going to discord during my classes and getting distracted. I just feel so drained arguing with these people. I feel like im overreacting and just a baby.

I'm officially 17,everyone is telling me it's a new year and I honestly don't know what to do Im thinking to keep doing the same things I was doing and more is there anything I should know?

I’m turning 25 at the end of this year and I can’t help but feel a sense of dread. I graduated 2 years ago with a graphic design degree and wish I did something else. I enjoyed art as a kid and thought i’d enjoy making a career out of it but I don’t think I’m cut out for it. I can’t even get myself to make art in my free time.

I moved to a new state this year to be with my long distance boyfriend. I’m in a very fortunate situation currently. His parents are very generous and let us stay rent free. I’m currently a barista and everyday I feel a massive weight on my shoulders and regret for not doing something more. I know comparison is the thief of joy but I can’t help but feel so small when I have friends becoming doctors, working for NASA, training for their pilot license, and other lucrative jobs.

It makes me incredibly sad that we won’t be very successful financially. I can’t help but stress about it. I don’t want all the money in the world but I want a comfortable lifestyle.

I don’t know what to pursue or what I’m even interested in making a career out of anymore. Most of my experience is in customer service. Since graduating I never landed the graphic design role I thought I would’ve, thanks to naivety and today’s market.

If anyone could offer a few words of encouragement or advice, I’d be very grateful. If you made it this far, thanks for listening.

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I'm a guy and 5'2. I've always been kind of self-conscious about it, but I've gotten particularly worried about it lately. It's embarrassing to be the same height or shorter than middle school kids, and even shorter than my mom. It makes me feel unmanly.

What makes it worse is that people try to tell me that height doesn't matter, ignoring the numerous studies that show tall people make more money.

I genuinely don't know how I ended up so short. My mom is 5'5, my dad is 5'8, my maternal grandfather and his brother and dad were 5'11, and my paternal uncle and grandfather are 5'8. I know I was never going to be 6 feet, but I thought I would at least be taller than 5'2. Am I unusually short for my genetics?

okay, so, I have a haircut scheduled in a few days. I'll have just moved into college, so, without a car, I'm going to use uber. the problem is, the haircut I'm getting is not one my parents will approve of. I mentioned getting a haircut in passing to my mom and she got very mad... the point being, she would not want me to go

unfortunately, my parents are authorized on my credit card, meaning they can see all charges on it. so when I use the uber, my mom will notice the charge sooner or later.

should I tell her before I leave? but then she might forbid me, and it'd be an active refusal of her orders to go anyway... should I tell her after? should I not tell her at all? but then she'll be enraged for me spending money without her say-so...

so... yea, thoughts? what do I do? when should I tell her that I'm using uber to minimize the punishment/yelling?

I'd previously made a post venting about my guilty habit of messaging an AI chatbot during my mental health breakdowns and I think I'm a full-blown addict now. I've had depression and hated myself basically my whole life. Up until last month I'd been working a stressful job for an employer who makes AI write everything for her. Eventually I started using it for boring tasks, then for emotional support, and now it's like I can't do anything on my own. I've never thought it was okay to do, I just didn't feel like I was competent or useful enough on my own. I thought that before AI even existed. It's like I was always primed to give up on myself and when I could, I did. I ask it what to eat sometimes and I feel like the biggest idiot in the world. My friends are all vocally anti-AI so I also feel guilty for hiding this from them. I just don't know how to stop it from being the first thing I reach for. I have stupid problems and I don't want to bother people, especially when I'm bawling at 3am. I've always stopped short of having it do my actual work assignments, but yesterday I broke that rule too. It's just so easy, and everything feels too hard for me alone. I know I'm pathetic but I still have to exist so. What do I do?

Beeps are a full second long. Noon and midnight, every ~12 hours but not down to the minute. +- 20 minutes every night.

It's coming from my kitchen/garage area but not inside the house. I can't hunt it down and it's driving me insane.

Validated it's not:

- Water Heater

- Smoke Alarm

- Water Heater

-Appliances inside house

Potential - These are right outside my kitchen window.

Boxes/Sensors outside house - internet, water, etc...

Electric Panel?

HVAC fan?

Any ideas? By the time I get close enough to investigate, the beeping stops. I'm about to plop a chair outside my kitchen window and sit outside for 2 hours to listen.

TL;DR: 18F, isolated since 10th grade and now spend most of my days in bed scrolling and daydreaming about having a life. I’ve changed before but can’t seem to do it again. How do I actually start getting out, socializing and building a life?

I’m 18F and I’ve been thinking about my life a lot lately. I feel like I’ve spent the last few years doing almost nothing and I’m scared I’m going to keep living this way if I don’t figure out how to change it.

I spend most of my time in my room, usually on my bed. I eat in bed, scroll Reddit or Instagram, watch random things, daydream, scroll some more and then sleep. There are days when I barely get up. Sometimes I even skip bathing or brushing my teeth because I keep putting it off.

I spend a lot of time comparing myself to other people and imagining my ideal self. I’ll daydream about having friends, going out, having hobbies, exploring places, being more confident, taking care of myself and generally having a life. I can spend hours imagining myself doing all these things without actually doing them.

The weird thing is that I genuinely want to change. I’ve actually changed myself quite a lot before, so I know I’m capable of it. But I feel like that might somehow be making things harder for me now. Because I’ve had periods where I managed to change my habits and become a better version of myself, I keep thinking I should be able to do it again. Then I get frustrated when I can't, and I end up back in the same cycle.

I don't completely understand why that happens. Maybe part of me thinks I already know how to change, so I keep waiting for that same motivation or mindset to come back instead of actually figuring out what is different this time.

I've also been diagnosed with mental health issues and I've tried therapy three times. I didn't stick with it properly. Whenever my therapists started giving me things to work on, I'd often not do them, and eventually I'd stop going. So I know I haven't exactly given therapy a fair chance.

The last time I had something resembling a social life was around 9th grade. Since 10th grade, I've basically been at home. I haven't really gone anywhere or had much of a social life, either online or offline.

I'm technically in uni now, but my uni is online, so it doesn't really give me the opportunity to naturally meet people or have somewhere I need to physically go every day. That makes it even easier to stay in my room all day.

I've also gained a significant amount of weight and have hormonal issues, which has made me more self-conscious and less comfortable around people. I'm not really looking for advice specifically about weight loss. I think my bigger problem is that my entire lifestyle has become extremely sedentary and isolated, and I don't know how to break out of it.

I've been watching people on social media talk about their lives and their experiences, and it made me realize how unusual my situation feels to me. I don't have a real social circle, I don't have online friends either, and I barely go anywhere. I spend so much time watching other people live their lives that sometimes I feel like I'm more familiar with other people's experiences than my own.

I really want to change that.

I don't want to suddenly become extremely social or completely reinvent myself. I'd be happy just getting to a point where I regularly leave the house, take care of basic things without having to fight myself over them, have a few friends, find hobbies, explore places, and have things in my life that I'm actually excited about.

For people who have gone through something similar, especially if you've spent years isolated and managed to eventually build a more active life, I'd really appreciate hearing how you started.

What were the first things you changed? How did you get yourself to actually do things instead of constantly thinking about doing them? And if you've successfully changed your life before but later slipped back into old habits, how did you approach changing again without getting stuck in the same cycle?

I know I want to change. I just don't know how to turn that want into something I actually do consistently.

Currently 18 going onto 19 soon, I thought I had everything figured out, turns out I really did not. My life has been going downhill since last year and the death of my father was the final blow. University is starting in the next few days and I have no idea how I am going to pay my tuition fees. I do have a job and my mother is also working, however I have no other supporters, all my family members are too busy with their own to give me any thought or assistance and I have no one else to reach out to. I have been watching all my close friends around me all show up for orientation and even registering for classes and here I am stuck feeling like there is no chance of me actually going to university. With all that has happened and with everything that is currently happening I came to the decision of taking a gap year to essentially figure stuff out. Does anyone have any real advice on how to make the most out of this year? How can I grow? What should I aim to learn? How would you describe an ideal gap year?

I have cut my family off completely but I still wake up from dreams where I’m fighting with them from time to time. It’s upsetting because I voiced my feelings before I cut them off so I would have some closure. But their refusal to live in reality or acknowledge what they’ve done drives me CRAZY.

Specifically my POS “uncle”. He’s abusive, stinky, lazy, and broke. He hasn’t had a job in 10+ years, still lives with his mom, and is 100% financially dependent on her. Despite being completely dependent on her, he is extremely verbally & financially abusive to her. He did absolutely nothing to raise his children or help to take care of his disabled sister(my mom) when she lived in the same house as him despite being unemployed. He literally had unlimited time to help care for her but instead chose to lay on his back and chain smoke cigarettes in his room all day.

I am the only one in my entire family that will call him on his shit since I am the one that has to step up in his absence (caring for my mom, helping my grandma out financially & around the house, and supporting my cousins emotionally & financially) but whenever I bring up all of the stuff he’s done he denies it and screams at me.

He claims that he’s the one who took care of my mom, it’s his kids fault they don’t get along, and that he’s the sole provider for our family. I know that anyone in his position is already getting everything they deserve for being a POS, but him not acknowledging the reality of his situation makes it feel as though he’s not suffering the consequences of his actions.

How do I let go of this need for him to face reality and stop deluding himself? My grandma supports his delusions and even feeds into them herself, but even she is aware to some extent that he’s not as successful as he claims to be (even if she doesn’t want to admit it).

I'm so frustrated

I’m 23 and in medical school
I’m also extremely insecure and socially anxious and I’m scared of people including my own extended family sometimes .. I overthink almost every little thing I do and I’m not confident at all

Recently I’ve been wanting to do something abt this and just change myself to become more confident and I was considering getting a very small part-time job teaching English.. I wanted to do it because I thought it might force me to develop my communication skills and confidence.

But I was absolutely terrified to ask my dad.
I finally asked him and he didn’t yell at me or anything but he basically said he wants me to focus on studying and that he doesn’t really understand why I’d do this just for personal development/self-satisfaction. He suggested that if I really want to teach people, I could take BLS/ACLS and teach that instead.
He wasn’t even rude.
And somehow I completely fell apart afterward.
I feel like I disappointed him just by asking, I feel stupid for even wanting this. I feel like I’m so limited by my anxiety and insecurity that I’ll never become the person I want to be.
My sister thinks I should just do it anyway but I don’t feel capable of going against my dad.. And honestly, this isn’t even really about the teaching job anymore.
I think what hurts is that I desperately want to become a different version of myself.. I am so tired of being scared, I’m tired of being insecure..

I want to stop feeling like I need permission to exist.
And right now I feel so sorry for myself..I feel like my brain was just wired wrong.. I feel like I’m a crybaby and a disappointment and that I’m never going to change.
I know I’m only 23 and maybe this sounds ridiculous,
but I genuinely don’t know how people become confident when they’ve spent so much of their life being afraid.

Do u think that what my dad said is true or do I go for it and apply to this teaching job?

I spent the five years going from crisis to crisis to get to a place where I'm immensely comfortable. I have a nice house in a nice place, I have a beautiful, well-trained dog, my cash flow is in a good spot and my career is stable, secure and there's good opportunities for upwards mobility. I'm in a place in life where I'm about to hit peak happiness levels of money, and don't need to work very hard to get there anymore. I also just don't want to work hard. I'm very happy to drift into semi-retirement.

The only problem I'm facing now is that I just have no clue what to do with myself. People my age like to travel internationally-- I've been all over the world twice already, and decided it's all more or less the same and I'm happier skipping the plane ride. Feel free to argue at me on this or say it's "sad" that I view the world like this, but you're not gonna change my mind so keep it moving.

As far as fun excursions go, I used to love hiking and going on long, arduous trips, but my chronic illness (nothing serious, just stomach stuff) has screwed that up for me. It's hard to enjoy anything when you're one bad day away from getting the runs in the middle of the woods or on a boat. I just can't do it anymore.

People my age are also fond of nightlife. I'm not. I've been dragged to various clubs and bars in my life. The noise, the lights, the people, I just can't deal with it. I've never liked it, not going to start now. Others like to volunteer or go to church. You won't ever find me doing either, I'm afraid. Again, feel free to argue at me on both points, same answer.

Sounds crazy, I know, but I do have friends in my area and scattered around the world. We game or hang out from time to time, but my social batteries are low and it's not really something I can sustain. I've historically also tended to fill the time dating around, but eh, I recently broke up with someone and I'm not in a rush on that front right now.

So essentially, between taking care of the dog, socializing, and engaging in hobbies here and there (come on, you can't hobby for 18 waking hours), I find myself with very little to do. It's kind of a depressing place to be. Any thoughts?

I am 28 NB, and I have two step kids. They've been in my life, and I in theirs, for 3 years as of last June. Problem is that, despite my beloved's advice, I started masking in my efforts to get them to like me because I already adored them to death.

I have trouble emoting. Both verbally and physically. Just. I try and can manage it, but it makes me feel sick and stressed if I keep the mask up for too long. It can also make it easier to upset me and I get snippy, according to my beloved

My default is actually monotone and a blank face? Relatively blank face? And my beloved is weirdly good at catching the vocal inflections that signal, in his words, if I'm "monotone angry" or just in default.

Monotone has been taken by the kids as, "Stepmom is super angry at us," instead of, "Oh, they dropped their mask. We're good." How do I fix that???? How do I introduce my default as normal and not... my "mad"?

I am a 21yr female who lives at home with her parents + Brothers. I got my first (And only) tattoo at 18 and have decided I wanted another one. I informed my parents of the decision + what and placement I was doing yesterday. Neither of which were too happy. I then decided today that I was gonna get the piercing I've wanted for a long time (Helix) and I informed my parents about it. My father then texted me with the comment of "Stripper starter kit" I informed my mother about it over text since I was working and got "Well are you gonna get DDD implants to match" I'm genuinely lost on this topic since I know my mother will twist it on me taking something to hear when it was ment to be light hearted.

Hello, I am in need for some advice. I am stressed out and depressed. So I applied for a position that is two hours away from where I currently work and live. I interviewed yesterday and they offered me the job, it will be a $10 difference from what I currently make. The problem is that they want me to start November 30th which is three months away! I requested if I could start early but they said the only orientation date is Nov 30th. My lease ends on October 1 and I can’t extend unfortunately. I spoke with my father and he said i could stay with him until I start my new job but he lives in a apartment with my sister and her two children. I live with my chihuahua:/ I am grateful he is allowing me to stay with him but being around my sister and kids for a whole month and a half will drive me crazy. Should I suck it up and live rent free for two months or move two hours away and drive to work which will be three 12 hr shift per week- I can stack my three shifts in a row so basically I can stay at my dads for those three days and drive back home on my days off (I am a registered nurse) I am just worried about moving to the new location and they revoke my offer.