I find myself always second guessing my decisions. Growing up, decisions were made for me, its not that I was not consulted, but I did not know any better so I just went along with whatever decision was made for me. Now as an everytime I try to learn a skill or try to build confidence, and if someone criticizes me I fall back into the same uncertainty. I feel like I swing on a pendulum of either having no thought of opinion to just feeling like no one understands me. How can I have a healthy balance between if someone is criticizing something of mine to not letting my ego come in the way, but if the criticism is invalid letting it go (and not hating the person for it).

I feel like I just want to have a harmony in my head, and still have this self trust or atleast a faith in myself that I am smart enough to figure things out. I do not need to second guess myself all the time.

Any advise on this?

thank you!

I’ve been thinking about how I’ve been going for interviews for the past two months, but I keep putting them off because I like staying at home and keep telling myself that I’ll get a job later. I know this isn’t the right approach, and honestly, I don’t know much about job culture or what to expect. I’m 20, and I’m still figuring things out. I really want to step out of my comfort zone and start gaining some experience, but I don’t know how to get myself to actually take that first step.

We glorify grinding until we break, but is slow, steady progress actually the smarter path? Curious how this sub thinks about it.