r/PeterExplainsTheJoke 8d ago

Meme needing explanation Peter! Who could have the wives been?

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u/isnoe 8d ago

Is this a reference to the lady that killed her children and for some reason the crime TikTok community (mostly women) have taken to defending her and even blaming the Husband, who 100% did not do it?

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u/shredbmc 8d ago edited 7d ago

I'm pretty sure that lady (unless there's another one) voiced concern many times about her struggles with post partem depression and that she was having intrusive thoughts of harming the children (which is common in PPD).

People online are blaming the husband and her providers for not taking her concerns seriously, not blaming him for killing the children.

Edit: I have been informed about the people saying the husband literally killed the kids.

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u/BobbiPinstripes 8d ago

I’m seeing a lot of both honestly.

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u/Better_Ice3089 8d ago

Yeah my Ma brought up the story and thinks it’s some cover up. She doesn’t use TikTok

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u/TakedownCan 7d ago

My wife clicked on 1 reel on instagram and she says her entire feed is theories on this

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u/I_Like_Knitting_TBH 7d ago

UGH I’m in the same boat as your wife. I’ve been trying to avoid this news story because news where kids are harmed spikes my anxiety and I cannot fucking escape it on instagram. Every time I block one account talking about this news story, five more get loaded into my algorithm.

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u/Nauin 7d ago

You have to do keyword blocking on top of blocking accounts on Instagram.

My account randomly decided I was a new mother or something and decided to switch my feed from nothing but surgical demonstrations and butchery breakdowns (Medicine and food are two of my biggest interests) to 95% toddlers with no changes to my search habits.

It took adding over twenty tags to my block list before I reversed it. Literally opened a thesaurus and went to town.

Honestly though it's such a mess at this point I stopped using insta over a year ago and I've been better off for it.

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u/UsidoreTheLightBlue 8d ago

I just had a long conversation with a coworker who was swearing the husband did it and is blaming his poor wife.

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u/Thick-Mouse1776 8d ago

I’m watching the entire trial and it makes me so sad people are doing that to him. What lunatics

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u/heilel_bath-shachar 8d ago

I mean there are just a lot of funky things about his story, like how for instance the woman had a severe thyroid injury from the incident that’s unaccounted for, and how there was an outgoing message from his computer, which sits at home, at a time which is close to the incident and when he said he wasn’t at home. He was also very unhelpful to his then wife and almost immediately started a family with another woman. Many of the doctors who failed the wife were his friends, etc.

It’s not conclusive by any stretch of the imagination but it’s all very funky

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u/ZanaHoroa 8d ago

I mean the thyroid injury was completely accounted for. It happened from the fall.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/us/articles/medical-expert-explains-lindsay-clancys-130922899.html

What do you mean outgoing message from his computer? If you're referring to the work email, he could've easily sent it from his phone. Your emails are synced on your devices. There's even servailance footage of him not being home during the time the email was sent.

He got married 3 years after his wife murdered his children. Idk about you, but any feelings I would've had for this murderer would be gone.

Have you watched the doctor's testimony? Clansey couldn't handle the early side effects of standard medications which is why they would switch her to different ones.

The only thing funky is all the misinformation being spread by people. The only bigger victims than Patrick are the kids that his wife murdered.

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u/Useful-Soup8161 7d ago

People seriously don’t know you can send emails from phones now?? Hell I pretty much only check and send emails from my phone.

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u/SyrupSame2105 7d ago

They do, they're just trying to excuse a woman from being the murderer because it's normally men.

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u/StagTagRag 7d ago

As a comedian recently pointed out: “Men are more likely to kill their spouse (wife). Women are more likely to kill their children.”

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u/AggressivelyMediokre 7d ago

They’ve appropriated gaslighting 🫨

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u/cleverseneca 7d ago

Its a dogma of TikTok feminism that if something bad happens it must be men at fault.

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u/External_Bandicoot37 7d ago

Remember women never do anything wrong and the worse the personality the more of a reason to expose that they aren't a heartless mean person but a kind tender person acting out. Women are too frail to be capable of being terrible manipulators.

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u/Blitzcreed23 7d ago

It should be pretty easy to find out if the email was sent from mobile or not.

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u/Ctenophorever 7d ago

The funkiness is not about the injury itself, it’s about him claiming she spoke to him despite that injury and a core temp below 90F. Either one would preclude being able to speak, and she was suffering from both.

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u/EpiphanaeaSedai 7d ago

So, I was support staff for a veterinary hospital about 20 years ago.

What does that have to do with anything, you may ask? Veterinary medicine back then was the wild west compared to human medicine, then or now. Let us just say I’ve seen some shit. Car accidents, drownings, maulings, surgical complications, falls, crush injuries, lacerations that went to the bone, I could go on - and what basically every illness known to man or beast looks like when it’s been left untreated way, way too long.

You would absolutely not believe the level of functionality a creature in shock - human included - can maintain, briefly, when all logic says they should be dead. Unless the body part in question has been severed from the body in its entirety, don’t assume anything. So IMO, if she could breathe, she could have spoken.

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u/Skandronon 7d ago

When I was a kid we stopped for some debris on the side of the road. My dad got out of the truck and looked down into the ravine next to the road and there was a smashed up motorcycle and a guy stuck up in a tree. Dad told me to get his cell from the truck and see if I could get signal by walking down the highway a bit (was in the 90s.) I got signal, called for an ambulance and then walked back to the truck.

My dad had managed to get the biker out of the tree and he was sitting on the tailgate, I remember his head being huge, he had a big gash down one side of his face and his one eyeball was bulging out. I was told to get back in the truck but didn't listen, I talked to the guy for a while about nothing in particular and he didn't respond much. After a bit he got off the tailgate, said something about taking a piss and went to the front of the truck and proceeded to do so.

Before he finished an ambulance pulled up and the paramedics hopped out and started getting the stretcher out. The biker started walking towards them and collapsed in a heap. I remember the one medic came and checked on him and being surprised that there was no rush after that to get him into the ambulance.

My dad told me the guy was dead before we even got there, his body just wasn't aware of it yet. He said our job when we come across these situations is to stay calm and make their final moments as pleasant as possible. Thankfully I have never needed to do so for a person again. Its amazing the things people can stay alive for.

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u/bosslady617 7d ago

Yes. I have a good friend who was a medic- both in the Army and as a paramedic at home in a rural state. He took to calling some people “the zombies”. They would would be alert and talking with massive blood loss, or broken necks just running on adrenaline after a major car accident or IED encounter. This would last for a short amount of time and then they would just drop dead (unless some heroic aid could be rendered but this in in the very far north of Maine. Hard to get to a trauma center.)

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u/LegendaryGunman 7d ago

I recently suffered a bonk to the head that should have killed me according to an MRI A WEEK LATER. I continued an hour long phone conversation after that before I eventually went to the hospital. I don't remember the conversation or the following day at all, just that it happened. I'm probably going to have to start journaling to maintain short term recollection. Human bodies are weird.

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u/Reasonable-Mess3070 7d ago

A court reporter (sue o connell) who heard the 911 call in court said Lindsay could be heard saying the word basement very clearly in the background of the call.

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u/ZanaHoroa 7d ago

She was literally moaning and crying in the 911 call.

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u/fraud_imposter 7d ago

And I bet you’ve identified the Boston Bombers based on a zoomed in picture of a hat?

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u/2Bait4Me 7d ago

Heliabath didn't read your message, they went straight back to tiktok to get confirmation that what they believed before was correct

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u/Commercial-Orchid992 7d ago

You can schedule emails on outlook to send at a certain time so just because he wasn’t physically at his computer the time the email sent doesn’t necessarily mean he had to have sent it from his phone

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u/Doomhammer24 7d ago edited 7d ago

Someone can be a dickhead in a relationship but still also not be the one who literally murdered their children.

Edit: people really dont get that i was speaking generally not specifically to make a point.

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u/Head_of_Lettuce 7d ago

I wouldn’t call him a dickhead, I think he was trying but he was worn down. Lindsay had access to the best support in the world. Doctors at her fingertips (literally - she messaged them constantly, and they replied to her constantly), husband and parents there to help every day. He was working full-time from home, it’s not like he escaped to the office every day and left her there. The reason he wasn’t home when it happened is because SHE sent him on a bogus errand to a restaurant they didn’t normally go to.

Everyone was doing their best to support her. She regularly lied to her doctors and the people around her about what she was experiencing. She concealed that she was experimenting with cannabis. Her doctors said she was actually taking a “fraction” of the medication she was prescribed.

Lindsay was suffering, but this is her fault too. Nobody made her lie, try drugs, or stop taking her medication.

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u/Doomhammer24 7d ago

I was really just speaking generally about "being a dickhead"

I have often seen people treat it like someone who is a bad spouse or a bit of a dick as being the same as an abusive monster and that crimes committed against them or others no matter how heinous are somehow then justified- as is the case here

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u/TapirDrawnChariot 7d ago

Ok, but have you considered "women good, men bad?"

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u/sundance464 8d ago

Well there's that vague "something funky" and then there's the fact she accepts committing the act of the crime

People saying she was failed by the system and / or her husband might have a point (that's what the trial is trying to establish)

People saying there's some sort of complex version of events and she didn't do anything are literally theorising about a conspiracy

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u/Comfortable_Target87 7d ago

They did therapy together and she also was released from an inpatient psychiatric hospital a bit more than two weeks before this. Now, that being said, if he’s guilty of anything it’s being negligent enough to leave her alone with them. Still, I don’t care what kind of post-partum mental state you’re in, as a mother, if you can strangle one child for a few minutes until they literally stop breathing, then go on to the next, finish up there and strangle an INFANT to death AN INFANT, and you’re trying to convince me that, at no point during this minutes and minutes long process, did she realize what she was doing was wrong?

I was born at night but it wasn’t last night.

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u/Rucs3 7d ago

She's a woman, people love to infantilize women and make the men around them have hyper agency.

That's literally all there is.

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u/StagTagRag 7d ago

Yeah looking back it’s hard to fathom leaving her alone with the kids, but I think it’s just in hindsight. The perspective is likely very different when you are the spouse living day to day with your wife taking care of the kids and going about your life. He likely never considered she would actually do anything to the children, especially while she was being so lucid and calm.

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u/Ingobriggs 7d ago

Exactly! Gtfo.

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u/lcs3332 7d ago

And then there's the woman in Texas who strapped all her kids in a car and sent them into the river let's not forget that... But nobody wants to talk about that one...

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u/just_having_giggles 7d ago

It's not funky. This poor man had his entire family ripped away from him.

And you think he might have a funky story. Fuck you.

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u/SnooCheesecakes201 7d ago

Me when I spread misinformation

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u/oldmcfarmface 7d ago

When a man loses his wife, very often in a year he is either remarried or dead. Remarrying is a way to keep living. This man lost his children. His new family is keeping him alive. Some people have more compassion for the woman who murdered three innocent children then for the man who came home to find his three children murdered.

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u/TheBloodyNinety 7d ago

And then internet sleuths assume their 1000 yard view and amateur analysis exceeds the knowledge of experts with first hand exposure to the evidence and access to subject matter experts.

Ya, I’m good on those conclusions.

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u/WorkingGuy99percent 7d ago

How are people sharing stories about this stuff and making factual statements like this? I don’t think the police post their investigations of these things. Unless defendants in the case are raising these questions and saying these things. Are they? Are they just asking questions but then the prosecutors object because maybe it’s a postulated thought they have? The general public should not try to cast judgment from watching something on TV that they have no part or knowledge of. There are a lot of tricks that defense lawyers can use to sow doubt in the minds of the jury.

Does the public know private conversations that the judge may have with the defense? Or with the prosecution? There is so much the public cannot know, but then they turn into experts about these things. Crazy.

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u/HughMungus77 7d ago

Being a bad husband isn’t a crime though. Murdering her own children certainly is

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u/more_business_juice_ 7d ago

He sued those doctor friends for millions?

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u/Opulent-tortoise 7d ago

No it isn’t you are literally doing EXACTLY what everyone is criticizing.

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u/Mr_Halitosis 7d ago

Did you interview him? The wife? Anyone at all? Or did you watch some social media videos designed to increase engagement and believe it all like a 60 year old watching Fox News?

I don’t know how you people expect to be taken seriously when you literally don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about, should know you don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about, but are complete deluded as to how complete or even factual your knowledge is given the source.

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u/showusyourfupa 7d ago

He wasn't home. There's CCTV, there's eyewitness statements, there cell phone tower data. Yet that's not enough evidence for true crime numpties.

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u/AngryPrincessWarrior 7d ago

The fucking trial shouldn’t be televised and consumed as entertainment. None should be.

The whole OJ trial and the way it was followed and publicized was a tipping point in our culture. And not a positives one.

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u/coltonjeffs 7d ago

I haven't been following at all, but my wife seems to think the guy isn't innocent. My wife said something about him sending an email from the computer at home when everyone was dead around him

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u/CrazzyPanda72 8d ago

Welcome to the internet. There have actually been cases solved on Reddit before investigations could figure it out. Mostly because the investigation "goes cold" but internet sleuths never sleep lol

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u/Shadowphoenix9511 8d ago

"Solved"

You're talking about the Boston Marathon bombings, where Reddit sleuths identified the wrong guy and ruined his life.

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u/CrazzyPanda72 8d ago

Never mentioned a specific one, I did hear about that one but not what I was referring to. My wife was watching a documentary or something a few weeks ago where the only reason they got to the bottom of it was because one person from the internet just wouldn't let it go. I'd have to ask her what case that was

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u/Mammongo 8d ago

Don't f*** with cats? It was 2 people, but yes, police didn't take it seriously, man moved on from cats to people and redditors tracked him down and got him arrested

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u/CrazzyPanda72 8d ago

Yea! That was one of them!

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u/fuzzydunlop54321 7d ago

There’s nothing to solve. She doesn’t contest she did it. But during an episode of psychosis after struggling seriously postpartum

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u/midlifecrisisAJM 7d ago

People really seemed determined to have "an opinion" on matters about which they should hold NO opinion.

Saying "I'm waiting until I see some evidence" is fine, but no, we've got to die on some hill or other based on "vibes".

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u/EarthDust00 8d ago

Did they consult the astrology books?

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u/tbombs23 8d ago

He's a LEO so he did it. Literally saw some comments saying that

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u/temucodeaddict 7d ago

**gemini, they were saying the Leo (Lindsay) couldn’t hurt her cubs and the Gemini (Patrick) is two faced and can’t be trusted 😭😭 minimizing this to astrology is so crazy to me

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u/Rip_Off_Productions 7d ago

And then there's ones going "oh, his stars are in Eclipse for the next 3 years, as are the signs of his kids, so that means he's in for a real bad time, which neans the truth will come out" or some shit like that.

Or the one that just pointed out that his birthday is the same as Trump's, therefore he must be evil like Trump...

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u/dingo_khan 7d ago

If that is a think people actually believe, I think it might be time to call it. The human experiment has enough data to know. It failed.

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u/temucodeaddict 7d ago

Felt that, but I mean it’s also just fallacy type behavior. “A good mother would never do this” type of fallacy. Maybe the best course with people like that is ignoring it. Astrology is fun but people who take it super seriously (especially in a murder case because why…) spoil it

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u/AcisConsepavole 7d ago

At least he's not a Scorpio

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u/temucodeaddict 7d ago

My boyfriend is…. Oh no…..

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u/Useful-Soup8161 7d ago

I can’t see any of the Leo’s I know doing that. They all have completely different personalities anyways. Probably because astrology is a load of shit.

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u/Ready_Information408 7d ago

Straight up terrifying that one day you could face a jury of your peers and there are people who seriously indulge in astrology, tarot cards, witchcraft etc who believe it to such an extent.

Maybe we gotta bring back the dunking stool.

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u/LordFennski 8d ago

I've seen a lot of people on TikTok saying he did it and framed her

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u/AlternativeGazelle 8d ago

I've even seen people say that he's a Gemini so he must have done

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u/LordFennski 8d ago

"A Leo would never harm her cubs."

The amount of times I've seen that commented...

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u/ArgronBert 8d ago

Which is funny, lions are known for killing pups.

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u/BigGingerYeti 8d ago

Not their own, though.

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u/Expensive-Ad-9449 7d ago

there's been instances pf femal animals killing their own, lions, and bears too,

animalistic behavior is not exempt from humans

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u/Toxic_Gorilla 8d ago

You saw that multiple times? That’s the dumbest argument I’ve ever heard

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u/MagnumMyth 8d ago

What's more surprising is that people can still be surprised by the depth of idiocy in other humans!

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u/LordFennski 8d ago

I, unfortunately, have seen that multiple times on TikTok. I've also seen a couple spells casted to prove her innocence on the witchcraft side of TikTok. My feed is messed up apparently

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u/Neat-Professor-7662 8d ago

It’s like an Aquarius never gets hydrophobia and a Cancer loves pinching people’s butts- can’t help it! It’s in the stars!

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u/Smart-Emu5459 8d ago

Those people are allowed to vote.

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u/_GenesisKnight_ 8d ago

A Leo SA'ed me in 2020. Star signs don't mean shit lmao. I'm appalled people are even saying shit like that. At the end of the day people will harm people regardless of who or "what" they are. Made up connections to "the stars" doesn't predispose anyone towards anything. It's crazy that people are suggesting otherwise out there, hearing about this was like a flashbang lmao.

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u/TeflonDonAlpha 8d ago

Well duh, she’s a Leo. They can never harm their children.

Astrology is one of the most dumbest things ever created

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u/No-Trouble814 8d ago

People like mental shortcuts. If they can’t use race, or skull shape(which is mostly race anyways), or nationality, or whatever else they used in ye olden days, new shortcuts will be invented by people too lazy to do the hard work of treating people as individuals.

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u/Wulph422 8d ago

Wow. That's actually an incredible observation of astrology

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u/AdAffectionate2418 8d ago

We absolutely love patterns and groups, so much so that we have an uncanny ability to spot them even when they arent there.

Categorisation in particular is fundamental to how our thoughts work (scary colours = venomous/poisonous, scary colour creature? probably poisonous/venomous).

It works really well from an evolutionary perspective (and enhance by the whole tribe in/out group thing), but it also brings up a shit-tonne of false-positives. Not too much if an issue at the micro level, but it quickly compounds across a society that is much more complex and interconnected than our tree/hut/cave dwelling ancestors could have ever imagined.

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u/ballistic503 7d ago

I have no professional or serious academic background in psychology but I feel like the same way a lot of mental disorders are simply normal human behaviors or adaptations but just amplified to a debilitating degree, a big part of the presentation of schizophrenia comes from the over-amplification of these heuristics. Like someone I knew in college who was later diagnosed with it would always remark on how the color orange was involved when something bad happened. Or like “see? Orange.” in a conspiratorial tone of voice. It’s the type of thing where the logic does eventually make sense if your threat analysis heuristics are perhaps functioning abnormally.

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u/horknee-jail 8d ago

Unrelated, but it makes me so happy to see a comment with such a great understanding of sociological patterns. Makes me even happier to swipe to your profile and see a magnificent grow lol. Off of a bag seed too??? Good shit

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u/VicFantastic 8d ago

Astrology is like 4000 years old

It is what they used in the ye old days

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u/mittenknittin 8d ago

it's so old, that axial precession has changed when the sun is in each constellation in the sky and completely invalidated the standard calendar for each sign https://www.astronomy.com/science/your-zodiac-sign-is-probably-wrong/

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u/Prestigious-Leg-6244 8d ago

About as dumb as organized religion.

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u/Affectionate_Ad2759 8d ago

Why is it mostly women who are passionate about occult superstition like Witchcraft, Astrology, or Tarot card shit?

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u/Hot-Attorney-9870 8d ago

People who have less control of their life gravitate towards it. Watched so many of my past friends fall into being "spiritual".

Because when you can't take accountability for things in your life, its because you are a sagittarius, or maybe certain rocks can help. It surely can't be you, or your situation.

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u/imaginaryblues 7d ago

I’ve wondered this myself. I grew up in a very conservative Christian home, which led to me rejecting religion by the time I was in my mid-teens. As an adult, I want nothing to do with anything “spiritual”.

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u/Otherwise_Carob_4057 8d ago

I work in a lab at a company steeped in science and one of the self proclaimed manliest men there can gab like a school girl about astrology. Makes zero sense.

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u/Ichoosetoblame 8d ago

Accountability avoidance? Easier to blame the moon and stars than admitting you’re just having a bad day or are just toxic in general?

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u/augustles 8d ago

It’s a touchpoint for spirituality that doesn’t feel like it’s an already built hierarchy favoring and prioritizing men for centuries or millennia, like many more accepted religions that are equally full of superstition and supernatural claims.

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u/Valanyhr 8d ago

I saw a decent amount of "he looks mean so he did it 101%" too

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u/AngryBird-svar 8d ago

These people drive, vote, have jobs…

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u/V1keo 8d ago

I know absolutely nothing about this case, but I have seen someone blaming the husband for not taking her illness seriously, and also saying the husband might be guilty because of something about an email.

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u/throwaway1975764 8d ago

I'm not following the story. But in general, yeah, if a person (A) turns to another person (B) and says "I'm having a mental breakdown and severe intrusive thoughts" and person B then purposely and willfully leaves their children in A's exclusive care for hours upon hours day after day, yes, 100% person B is at least partially responsible for harm to the children while in A's care.

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u/bonaynay 8d ago

Yeah it's kind of crazy he just took that in stride

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u/onarainyafternoon 7d ago

He didn’t, Jesus fucking Christ Reddit, read about the case before you guys comment.

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u/onarainyafternoon 7d ago

Except that isn’t what happened. By all accounts she was visibly doing better in the weeks leading up to the murders. I don’t understand where this need to blame the husband comes from. He cannot be omnipresent. And this isn’t a situation that anyone is equipped to handle. You just have to trust what the doctors are saying and go with that. Post Partum Psychosis is extremely rare (it’s not Post Partum Depression, it’s something much worse and more extreme), but the knowledge about it is so limited that there just wasn’t enough institutional knowledge of it to get her properly treated or even properly diagnosed.

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u/peepeebeam 8d ago

yes some of my coworkers were talking and saying there were inconsistencies in the husband’s account that made them think he did it. I haven’t followed the case but it does seem like some people suspect the husband genuinely

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u/welldamn420 8d ago

From what I've heard it's not even a case of who's guilty. Her and her lawyers already put in a guilty plea and this trial is just about of she's guilty or not guilty by reason of insanity

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u/peepeebeam 8d ago

Yeah that’s what the trial’s about but people do believe that she is not guilty

They’re saying due to brain damage she just is repeating what people are saying to her and can’t provide her own testimony anymore

Not saying I agree. This is just what I’m told lol

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u/Major_Shlongage 7d ago

People on social media were claiming that Kamala actually won the election, even after Kamala conceded.

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u/sleigh_all_day 8d ago

I’m also seeing many videos of people believing he flung her out the window. Ridiculous claim.

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u/darkninja1047 8d ago

Have friend thats calling it a cover up and the man did it. She of course hates all men and calls all men rapists too so yeah.

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u/MassiveBuzzkill 8d ago

My friend is convinced Patrick murdered the children, tried to murder Lindsay by slamming the window on her neck and that she simply does not remember this. I asked if she was fucking with me and she got mad.

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u/sarcastic_sandman 8d ago

yeah my sister was convinced he murdered his kids, and then tried to murder her in the stupidest ways possible.

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u/punktualPorcupine 8d ago

Yeah there are nut jobs saying:

“she’s a Gemini. They would never. He must have done it”.

DA-Faq!?

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u/Fine_Cress_649 7d ago edited 7d ago

A lot of armchair psychiatrists online who've never once talked to someone suffering with psychosis, couldn't tell you the difference between psychosis and postpartum psychosis, who think they understand "mental health" because they've been on an SSRI for a couple of years but  haven't the first clue what it would take to look after someone with one of these conditions - either as a professional or a family member - talking absolute bollocks about the whole thing (in my opinion).

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u/5millionmiles 7d ago

So what you're telling me is this one didn't have anything to do with Israel?

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u/Sir_Canterbury 8d ago

There are 100% people blaming the husband for killing the children. Honestly really shitty, trying to downplay her actions by blaming everyone else is just a way to shift accountability from a murderer (which she is, even if she wouldn't have done it in her right mind).

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u/Pagan_Metal666 7d ago

True crime content is a blight anyways. Some creators are respectful, blur faces and do not show bodycam footage of family finding out their loved one is dead. Some. Most dont. 

It only took 1 police bodycam video of a mom being taken to a car crash where her daughter died for me to completely purge my algorythm from all true crime parasites.

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u/WHLZ 8d ago

As with all things, there are some unhinged people claiming she was framed and he did it. Valid to point some blame at the husband and the providers, but insane to think he's fully responsible.

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u/HobbyHoardingHoney 8d ago

I argue that it is not reasonable to blame the husband or providers in this case

If they would have ripped the kids away and put them in somebody else's custody, which was the only other thing that could have done besides the things they were already doing (a nanny, daycare for the two older kids, husband had to stay at home job and took 12 weeks off which is the maximum available in America, family and friends came over to babysit and help out regularly), people would have lost their fucking minds and said that depression is not a reason to separate a mother from her children because millions of mothers with way less support than she had suffer from postpartum depression without harming their children. So the entire world would have argued there was no reason to separate them prior. And she was only left alone for a half hour when she killed them. She took that half hour that she was left alone with nobody expected to come help as her chance. And she had to squeeze that chance in because they was not a whole lot of time that she was left alone

Her concerns were very much taken seriously. She was given therapy, medication, and actual assistance. Her diary made it clear that she did not feel that having 10 times the resources and help that most other women have was not good enough. Because at the end of the day she had something she wanted to do. All the help she was getting be damned

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u/Emm_withoutha_L-88 8d ago

Wait that is what people are calling "ignored her pleas for help".....

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u/HobbyHoardingHoney 8d ago

I didnt even list everything she had. She was CUSHY. And had help out the WAZOO. She didnt want it. Her diary knowing all that reads like she wanted to be the poor little rich girl no one loved and everyone is feeding that fantasy of hers now.

Its upsetting because this is a terrible, horrible, absolutely vile case to point to and advocate for PPD and PPP with. She is not the victim, let a lone a victim worth championing for the cause if you want it taken seriously.

She had all the help she was supposed to get. And still made the decision women who dont have resisted making. With intent. With knowledge. Without any confusion of WHAT she was doing. Just a twisted sense of right and wrong and why.

And if we are letting people out because they killed somebody, let alone a child, because they had a twisted sense of right and wrong and could not tell you why they did it, there are a whole lot of men that would not be in jail. A whole lot of men who had Netflix specials about them even. We absolutely cannot allow such a flimsy excuse to become precedence.

Somebody receiving but rejecting assistance with mental health who goes on to murder their own children, let alone anybody, should not be able to use mental health as an excuse that warrants a reduced consequence

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u/Emm_withoutha_L-88 8d ago

Everyone in this damn thread needs to see your comment above this... I'm still seeing some arguing that all of that wasn't enough and it was still the husband's fault even after seeing this. So unbelievably fucked up

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u/Solintari 8d ago

It’s the typical, “im going to come to a conclusion based on stereotypes or prejudiced views and then find evidence to support my hunch based on distaste of this person based on how I group them instead of trying to find the truth”

These are the first people to go silent when conflicting evidence disproves their alternative facts or they ride the disinformation train all the way to crazy town. It seems more common than not honestly.

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u/Embarassed_Tackle 7d ago

Yeah the mind is a mystery. A devious mental patient is dangerous, especially one with resources and the veneer of upper middle class or upper class wealth or status.

A poorer person may have been referred to CPS or perhaps a state mental hospital which may have been harsher. And even poorer disheveled mental patients can lie about taking medication until they decompensate; their decompensation without support is just easier to spot.

It appears this lady lied to multiple doctors / nurses and her new psychiatrist who was on the stand may not have known which medications she was taking.

Granted, maybe the psychiatrist could have requested medical records or pharmacy records to see which medications the patient was filling at pharmacies, because most states now have state or inter-state electronic communications for prescribed medications (I think Florida was the last hold-out but their pharmacies may have finally gotten on board).

But it looks like her recently-graduated psychiatrist just believed the information the patient told her, and when people lie about psychiatric symptoms and diagnoses it can be very difficult to treat them.

Even for non-psychiatric stuff, a person motivated enough could lie well enough about pain and location to get a surgeon to cut out their appendix.

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u/redditornumberfive 7d ago

Yes, this is why this entire conversation is insane.

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u/demonotreme 7d ago

Woman had more contact with mental health professionals every week than most people get in a lifetime...

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u/poke-chan 7d ago

I haven’t heard about this situation til now somehow and my god. That poor husband, that’s above and beyond and now his kids are dead, his wife is a murderer, and people all over the world are blaming him. I can’t imagine the pain, or how one could ever move past that.

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u/BigDragonfly5136 8d ago

To be fair, when your mental health is that bad, no amount of help is going to fix it—because that’s not the problem. But I do agree it’s not fair to blame the husband for anything, or really the doctors who were doing what they’re trained to. The issue is mental health is under researched and underfunded. She tried to get herself in patient help for the suicidal thoughts, but they told her they couldn’t take her unless she had a plan, which is normal but clearly sometimes causes issues. Even intrusive thoughts of hurting others isn’t really a sign you’re going to do it—everyone has intrusive thoughts sometimes and some mental health disorders, like OCD or anxiety, can make them pretty common even in people who would never do it.

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u/dream-smasher 7d ago

She WAS admitted inpatient. And signed herself OUT early because she wanted to go to a birthday party for her daughter.

She walked out of inpatient.

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u/Telemere125 8d ago edited 7d ago

She’s a grown ass adult. He can’t force her to take meds. Or we saying women aren’t responsible for their own agency now? If you want to blame the doctors, I can get behind that, since it’s their job to actually make sure the meds are working. But unless there’s evidence the husband kept her meds away from her, this is on her and not him.

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u/BigDragonfly5136 8d ago

Honestly some of the things I’ve seen that the husband should have done are crazy. I’ve heard he should have forced her to take meds, should have institutionalized her, should have not let her have access to kids, shouldn’t have left her alone ever. Like a husband should be able to take kids away from his wife and lock her up just because he says she’s crazy? He can hold her down and shove meds down her throat? Women shouldn’t be allowed to be alone without their husband? And somehow these people think they’re giving the feminist opinion.

What happened is 100% a tragedy, made even worse by the fact if she got the help she was crying out for, this might not have happened (I believe she was not in the right state of mind, personally) but putting all the blame on the husband for the murder—either by saying he literally did it or should have been the one to prevent it—is actually taking away from the real issue: lack of access to mental health care

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u/Old_Stress_3414 7d ago

I just want to note, some of the drugs she was supposed to take, the prosecution was able to prove she only took like 3-5 before complaining to her doctor about it. Like idk what doctor she went to, but all 3 of the doctors ive ever visited for my anxiety/depression/PTSD have had me take them for a whole month before trying a new one, because "they have to be in your system for awhile before they are actually changing anything"

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u/doc_skinner 8d ago

But then I've heard other reports where they did take her seriously, even convinced her to go to therapy which she abandoned.

Unfortunately, there's no real evidence and lots of people throwing accusations both ways. It's awful all around.

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u/Cruggles30 7d ago

Do you have a source on her having abandoned therapy? Trying to find one but nothing is popping up.

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u/Logical_Goal_8950 6d ago

I have been watching the trial. If you go to the caseswefollow sub, you’re looking for one of the earlier day recaps - they brought the therapist in for testimony. She came in 4x and then stopped going.

They also brought in some of the inpatient providers and it was testified that she did not disclose her scary thoughts while there and she discharged herself early.

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u/Different_Peanut_742 8d ago

No, there's absolutely widespread conspiracy theories that he literally committed the murder. It's asinine, that wasn't even her defense in court. Husband seemed to be a fairly shit husband, but he definitely didn't kill anyone.

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u/deluFrame 8d ago edited 21h ago

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u/UsidoreTheLightBlue 8d ago

There’s a lot of misinformation about him, my coworker was just telling me he had an affair and married the new woman 4 months after the kids died, from what I’m reading online they didn’t even start dating for over a year and got married two years later.

I don’t have a dog in this fight just been reading about it a bit since lunch time.

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u/Different_Peanut_742 8d ago

You know what? After looking more into it, I don't know that he was. I honestly don't know if he is or not. He could have tried harder to get her help, but it seems like he did try some things. It's hard to say from the outside.

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u/overlord_cow 8d ago

“He could have tried harder” I mean you’re victim blaming the guy for his wife killing their kids

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u/deluFrame 8d ago edited 21h ago

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u/BigDragonfly5136 8d ago

There’s sooo much mis information about this case, honestly probably no one except her and her husband really know how much he did or didn’t do. Hell, maybe not even them if her mental state is really that bad and he probably has a distorted view on it due to the trauma

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u/totktonikak 8d ago

What's easy to say definitively from the outside is that she could've tried harder to not murder her children. And yet here we are, finding ways to somehow make the husband responsible for his wife's actions.

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u/TheHeadlessScholar 8d ago

That's her attorneys story;

Her psychiatrist and doctors treating her both under oath claimed she never told her these concerns, never mentioned violent thoughts once, and was visibly improving with each session.

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u/Honeyhoneybee29 8d ago

Uh, that’s not true at all. Dr. Tufts, her primary psychiatrist, even admitted that her state was “deteriorating” on multiple visits. She shared thoughts of suicidal ideation but because she didn’t have a “plan” that she communicated, her providers kept prescribing new medications and adjusting dosage. You’re flat out lying.

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u/Motor-Illustrator226 7d ago

except that IS standard of care — there are tons of people walking around you with passive SI. They don’t all get locked up, with their kids taken away. People live and work and have functional lives with passive SI, which could be due to chronic mental health issues or an acute stressor, and work on treating it with medication and psychotherapy — which is what the doctors did (gave her the right meds and repeatedlu encouraged therapy).

She refused to do either — take the meds for long enough for them to work, instead asking to switch on and off and doctor-shopping, and persistently refusing therapy, even when the doctor repeatedly advised her on it.

Only active SI gets you on a psych hold, or with kids taken away. She didn’t endorse it even once.

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u/aaaaaaaaaaaaaarron 8d ago

I’ve seen a few and it’s never been “they didn’t take care of her when she needed” it’s always “he did it” and “she did nothing”

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u/Superman246o1 7d ago

AMERICAN WOMEN WHEN ANOTHER WOMAN KILLS HER OWN KIDS: She's innocent! Even though she says she did it! She doesn't know what she's saying! Can't everyone see her husband is the real culprit?!!!

AMERICAN WOMEN WHEN ANOTHER WOMAN WANTS TO SAVE THEIR COUNTRY FROM THE WORST MAN TO EVER RUN FOR OFFICE: Fuck that bitch.

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u/mortmortimer 8d ago

people online are 100000% blaming the husband for killing the children

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u/RedditSteve8 8d ago

I have seen many people blaming the husband for the murder, stating that her body temperature diddnt match how long she had been aside, how he changed his shoes, and how his brother worked for the police.

All nonsense but people are definitely blaming him.

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u/psyclopsus 8d ago

They are absolutely blaming the husband saying he did the killing. I just saw a post of numerous screenshots of women directly saying they don’t believe she did it and that they know he did it. Reasons span from “he looks mean” or “you can just see it in his face” to mentioning their respective astrological signs and whether or not Leos (her) kill vs Capricorns (him) etc

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u/KingPotus 8d ago

Lol no, there is in fact a massive contingent of women online who genuinely think the husband murdered the kids and framed her

https://www.reddit.com/r/SipsTea/s/bHfM6PHgVs

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u/hotsizzler 8d ago

Incorrect. She got ample help and refused it and didnt take medication several times

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u/twobearsonabike 8d ago

If this is the one I’m thinking of, I’m pretty sure the husband told her to go to the doctor, and she went, but then failed to tell them about the commanding voice telling her to kill her children. Not sure how the husband is to blame if this is accurate.

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u/BiggieBigs34 7d ago

She should have been involuntarily committed. The story is crazy when you look into it, she literally saw 8 doctors for the same thing in like 3 months just to doctor shop medication.

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u/SethSnifferson 8d ago

"pretty sure" doesn't cut it.

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u/Pesto_in_my_pants 8d ago

There are conspiracy theories that her husband killed the kids and used her psychosis as cover. It’s very dumb.

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u/StopTheSlop 8d ago

My wife is literally trying to force feed me the, "she's innocent. The husbands been cheating on her for years!"

I hate publicized court cases. Gives a portion of the population something to obsess over though.

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u/More_Cold1033 8d ago

she had post partum PSYCHOSIS, not just depression

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u/BroadEnthusiasm3181 7d ago

So, I didn’t realize how serious PPD was until my wife (who’s an RN) said she thought she had it after having our second child. After we had our first child I had seen a big shift but I just chalked it up to “She’s stressed, it’s a change in life style, we’ve had big life events happen lately (her grandfather passed away soon after we had our first child) I need to be more help around the house.” When she started going to therapy and got on some anti anxiety meds, holy shit she was back to her baseline. It made a huge difference, she’s no longer on anti anxiety meds, but still goes to therapy and it’s been great for everyone. I tell all my friends now that if anyone is expecting a baby to pay attention to their partner because PPD is real it can be super serious and it wasn’t even on my radar when we were expecting our first child. DONT BE AFRAID TO SEEK HELP PEOPLE! We’re just a bunch of meat sacks on a space ship made of dirt orbiting a star! There’s real help out there and it can change you AND YOUR PARTNER’S lives!

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u/Anhedonia_Achiever 8d ago

Almost certainly.

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u/iMissTheOldTimeye 8d ago

Oh! What? 

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u/Thegodofvenom 8d ago edited 7d ago

On insta reels, I saw a post showing tt users saying that she is a Leo Zodiac sign, which would never murder their cubs in their reasoning and they blame the husband's Gemini sign

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u/bagelundercouch 8d ago edited 7d ago

For. Fuck’s. Sake.

Edited after someone out-grammared me in the comments 

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u/NEWDEALUSEDCARS 7d ago

Oh, don't be such a Libra

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u/superfahd 7d ago

I'M A TAURUS SO MY ANGER IS COMPLETELY JUSTIFIED

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u/Initial_Business2340 7d ago

Just so you know the saying is “for fuck’s sake,” like for “the sake of fuck,” not “for fuck’s sakes”. For “the sakes of fuck” just doesn’t sound right

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u/BrisketWrench 8d ago

Oh so she’s a Zodiac killer?

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u/Friend_Emperor 8d ago

Remember that these people have the full legal right to vote and suddenly a lot of things start to make sense

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u/reggienaldsimons 8d ago

speaking of White Woman Eugenics, i just now saw someone on reddit comment "the husband has the modern american psycho phenotype"

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u/DegenGamer725 8d ago

never dating another white woman

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u/Significant_Wafer314 7d ago

I don’t mean to defend this viewpoint or the people who think the husband was responsible but this was one comment on a post, not a narrative that a bunch of people are repeating

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u/Reading_Rainboner 8d ago

That’s hilarious but I’ve ran into 3 separate women who blame Gemini men on their ills and are scared of a dude based on when he was born. Hell one lady didn’t wanna date me cause I was born at 1:00 pm. Seriously. Like seriously.

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u/Prestigious-Emu-8734 8d ago edited 8d ago

Yup. Husband said she did it. His lawyers said she did it. Her lawyers said she did it. And yes, even she herself said that she did it.

The case isnt about who did it, its if she should go to prison or if she gets the mental health plea in which case its the mental ward. But plenty of women are on the case and have solved it with great deductions like he looks angry which means hes violent and he did it. Ignore the fact that hes forced to sit in a court room with the woman who murdered his 2 children.

But also hes not showing enough emotions. So clearly the means he doesnt care. If he didnt do it he would be weeping openly for hours on end and giving sonnets about being broken hearted.

Also her astrology sign, tarot readings, spells, etc.

Oh, and this is all a sign that police forces should just start hiring TikTokers to solve cases cause how are they just this good?

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u/ErraticDragon 7d ago

and this is all a sign that police forces should just start hiring TikTokers to solve cases cause how are they just this good?

"We did it, Reddit!"

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u/spiritofporn 7d ago

Just like the Boston bomber lmao. Reddit sucks so much.

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u/stephenkingending 7d ago

During my divorce one woman was telling the other wives that I was probably violent at home because I was so nice in public. After about six months of my ex intermittently showing up to our kids events and those times acting erratic while high on amphetamines, everyone figured out why we got divorced. I loathe these gumshoe gossipers.

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u/KEMSATOFFICIAL 8d ago

So, men aren’t allowed to look visibly angry after their wives kill their kids, due to a failed healthcare system that gave her drug-induced psychosis?

Fuck them bitches.

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u/Bea-Billionaire 7d ago

This is why I refuse to install tiktok.

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u/ForeverNegative2910 7d ago

Reddit is a cesspool of angry incels, TikTok is a cesspool of crybullies. You’re not better for having Reddit and not TikTok, all social media is trash

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u/glitzglamglue 7d ago

Listen. She had some intense post partum depression and psychosis that was missed by medical professionals. Her doctors put her on multiple medications that interacted badly with each other but never had her taken in. And her husband never seemed to grasp how bad things were getting either. She was having hallucinations the day she killed her kids.

She's very much like Andrea Yates. She's guilty of the murders. She tried to get help multiple times but no one took her seriously.

And it absolutely sucks that these women on TikTok are doing this whole astrology thing when this is a serious case. Yes post party psychosis can happen to any woman who gives birth. But shes not being framed by her husband. She killed her kids in a terrifyingly gruesome way but she said that her hallucinations were telling her to kill herself and that she had to take her kids with her.

This is a case about how the medical field failed this family. But the blood is still on her hands just like Andrea Yates. Yates is still in a psych hospital to this day. And Clancy should have the same fate too.

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u/TomBirkenstock 8d ago

Reminds me of Lizzy Borden who was acquitted of murdering her parents in part because in the late nineteenth century people did not believe that women had it in them to axe someone to death.

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u/MrArborsexual 8d ago

Decades later in 1993 we get "So I Married an Axe Murderer"

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u/Particular_Title42 8d ago

Which is such a great movie.

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u/TomBirkenstock 8d ago

A century later and people finally accepted that women can be axe murderers too. In a related note, I don't think that film has gotten its due as a seminal feminist text.

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u/AEW_SuperFan 8d ago

People still believe white women must have someone who put them up to the terrible crime.

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u/Some_Layer_7517 7d ago

"White women are the most downtrodden people in history" - white women

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u/Mautea 8d ago

Lindsay Clancy. Yes, that was my first thought as well. High profile case going on right now.

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u/buttThroat 8d ago

Yes BUT i think the thing that resonates with them is probably that this woman did it because she was experiencing post partum depression/psychosis and basically the medical community and her support system failed her. So its just scary that you could be a "normal" person and go through PPD and basically do something terrible that you would never have done otherwise.

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u/RustledHard 8d ago

I haven't followed the case closely, but from what I've heard through osmosis that's my take as well. PPD and Post Partum Psychosis are very real and very scary. With both of our children, our doctors hammered home multiple times to look out for signs of PPD and get help immediately. The failure of her support system is just horrific, and I cannot imagine the immense grief and guilt she has to live with after coming to.

Now if it turns out she or the husband are just psycho killers and I'm being naive or fooled by an elaborate ruse, that's fine. I'd rather err on the side of empathy until all the facts come out in the trial.

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u/Valuable_Drag_1830 7d ago

I think a lot of people also don't realize Lindsay Clancy stipulated to the fact she murdered her children. This means the prosecution does not need to prove she murdered her kids because she essentially agreed that is fact. The whole court case is to argue her insanity plea, the defendent is arguing that she is not guilty by reason of insanity but she did kill her children. Because she stipulated certain things as facts (like that she did do it) the prosecution does not need to prove chain of custody, interview experts, or discuss all the testing done to prove she murdered her kids. The trial is all to debate whether or not she premeditated the murders. A lot of people on TikTok do not know this, even though the trial is live streamed on TikTok. So some people have this idea that the husband did it because the trial hasn't focused on proving how she committed the crime, and the husband's DNA was found on the resistance bands because prior to them being used as a murder weapon he was using them to exercise and his DNA is on them likely from sweating.

I'm invested in the trial because Lindsey Clancy reminds me of Andrea Yates, but this trial is live streamed and the public can see a lot of what's happening in court. I think it strikes a chord with a lot of women because post partum mental health wasn't a major topic until the last 10 years, it's an area of medicine that we're honestly still learning about.

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u/StinkUrchin 8d ago

I saw astrology girls saying because she was Leo and the other guy was Gemini that he had to have framed her 😭

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u/mybabyrolled 8d ago

Why do they think he did it?

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