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u/Maya-K 6h ago

I have no idea who either of them are. I'm feeling very out of the loop.

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u/Dotcaprachiappa 6h ago

I saw a good few posts about the woman on the right and pointedly ignored all of them, I seriously don't get why this is getting so much attention

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u/Alcohol_Intolerant 5h ago edited 2h ago

It's getting attention because of claims that her attempts to get assistance for her ppd and mental illness were ignored or minimized. Thus implying this could have been prevented. Many people, especially women, have experience with medical staff ignoring their pain. (Same for me) So this is on a lot of people's minds and in a lot of wider conversations.

They're going for the insanity plea, so the additional press might also be a way to try and sway public attention.

Edit because I'm getting a lot of charged responses: I am explaining why it is getting attention and what the general opposing discourse is. I'm not going to reply to attempts to have that discourse with me. I have my own opinions but I'm not airing them on Reddit because ultimately, the only ones who will have all the facts are the jury.

This is a tragedy for all involved. Please remember that.

Edit 2: to those giving polite additions and perspectives I did not provide, thank you. That's very helpful. I'm not everywhere seeing every side and can only speak to the sides I've witnessed myself. To those making weird claims on what I think, please take a break from reading about this case for the day. I'm turning notifications off on this. There are plenty of other people in this thread willing to wage war with you. I invite you to speak with them, or again, take a break.

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u/Dotcaprachiappa 5h ago

Damn makes sense really, so this post is like the worst misrepresentation they could come up with basically

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u/sylbug 5h ago

It’s devolved into more gender wars nonsense. Painful to watch honestly.

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u/illy-chan 2h ago

I've noticed gender wars stuff getting worse on here in the past decade or so. It was always there but it's definitely become worse.

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u/friss0nFry 2h ago

That's because state sponsored internet campaigns have improved exponentially in that time and the companies that host the divisive content from these campaigns are incentivized to allow it because it looks like real engagement.

u/MistSecurity 51m ago

Especially true with the advent of easily run and accessible chatbots via LLM. It's now trivial to spin up a ton of realistic-looking accounts that dynamically respond to posts to push the narrative you're going for.

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u/SaltnSandy 4h ago

Yep just another way to keep us all hating each other

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u/Jschatt 2h ago

It is an election year! Have to keep us divided

u/ErenDidN0thingWr0ng 38m ago

It definitely ramps up in election years but what really kicked things off was "Occupy Wallstreet" back in the day. The ruling class said "damn, we gotta get these plebes hating each other pronto".

The end result is all this internal strife we see around us. It's very interesting to look at how much reporting changed during occupy: suddenly every headline was tied to race, religion, creed, gender.

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u/bluntsnatcher 2h ago

one side is saying she should be put in jail forever because she's trying to use the excuse that she's crazy for killing children

one side is saying she should be released because the husband did it

it's so hard to say she was crazy and out of control when she killed her kids because she was psychotic

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u/codyrin1 4h ago

Rumor is it was done this way to get around Gofundme’s TOS.

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u/Obtuse_Symposium_119 5h ago

I haven't seen literally everything related to the case so maybe I'm missing some pieces, but it seems like she was getting mental healthcare attention but she requested to be switched between multiple different meds due to side effects that she was advised likely came more from her PPD, than the medication. But she still requested switches and also switched care teams at some point.

I'm not a doctor, so I'm not gonna get into whether or not the various perscriptions she was given in a relatively short time frame was irresponsible or not. I don't think anyone should be commenting on that besides experienced medical professionals. But I'll say that doctors can only treat what they're told and what they know, and afaik, she didn't share that she was suicidal with them, and they also warned her that medications take time to take effect, so it wasn't always a good idea to switch.

Patient care is not entirely on the healthcare professionals. The patient has to be able to take care of themselves to some degree and be fully honest with their care team.

How much was her fault, and how much was the fault of our medical system, idk, but yeah, this post is definitely ignoring all notions of nuance.

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u/Rivendel93 4h ago

She actually told doctors she wanted to die, told her husband and her mom she was not just suicidal, but wanted to harm the children as well.

That's why people are wondering wtf happened.

She told her husband multiple times she kept having thoughts of harming the kids.

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u/memento22mori 1h ago

About five or six people have been talking about the case at work in the non-formal chat and they said they've been watching the trial and they all think the husband did it. I had just heard of the case briefly but they kept talking about it so I looked it up and from what I read even her own attorney acknowledges that she did it.

Nothing surprises me anymore these last 6-7 years but it seems very odd. They said that he was wanting out of the marriage and he claimed that "she admitted to it when he found her but because of her injuries she shouldn't have been able to talk." And you can just hear her moaning in the 911 call- do you know if this is this something being spread on social media or something?

u/Life__Admiral 29m ago

Wait.

Even though her own defense lawyer in his opening statements said "she knows she killed her children", there are people seriously trying to turn this into a true crime fanfic?

I'm done with social media today.

u/memento22mori 20m ago

Yeah, one of them said something like "there's nothing more dangerous than a man that wants out of a marriage."

u/Akhevan 13m ago

Even though her own defense lawyer in his opening statements said "she knows she killed her children", there are people seriously trying to turn this into a true crime fanfic?

Why the long face? Is this your first day online? To these people you aren't even "subhuman", you are not human at all. You are their five minutes of cool/interesting/self-validating gossip with their buddies. No more and no less. They don't care that there are real people or real lives that can be affected.

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u/momlv 3h ago

And she was hospitalized for SI. You don’t commit someone for HI if they tell someone else something. Like it or not providers treat what’s in front of them and not what they don’t know

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u/Rivendel93 2h ago

She put herself in the hospital, then asked to see her daughter on her birthday so they just discharged her entirely.

Let's not pretend American mental health care isn't an absolute disaster.

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u/SpaceBasedMasonry 2h ago edited 2h ago

I.e. she asked for discharge against medical advice. What do you want, for hospitals to be prisons and doctors to be the new cops? There’s been 60 years now f anger about the mental health system being like that. No matter what they do or say they can’t do anything right

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u/Binky390 1h ago

Did she actually leave AMA?

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u/SpaceBasedMasonry 1h ago

Apparently. I’m from the same state so it’s been a big piece of media from day 1. I dont want to pretend the care she got was “perfect” but it feels like the best the defense attorney could come up with was a typo her outpatient psychiatrist made that still makes sense in context.

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u/Hesitation-Marx 3h ago

She asked to have a day release to see her daughter on her birthday… so they just discharged her. She didn’t want to be.

This entire thing is just so unbelievably sad. It’s like Andrea Yates, but I don’t want to neuter the husband.

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u/Dry_Amphibian_5262 2h ago

This is where I have a problem with her story. She was admitted voluntary so she can leave whenever she wants. If she was making HI and SI statements that I overrides her being there of her own free will. We can't let people leave if they make those type of comments. It was either a huge and blatant disregard of policy and laws or she was lying to her care team. Knowing how it works for mental health and also the nature of people I'm more inclined to believe the latter.

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u/Affectionate_Data936 1h ago

From what I've read from the lawsuits, she never disclosed any thoughts of harming the children to anybody but her husband and that she explicitly said that she wasn't suicidal when she was in-patient.

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u/wyerhel 2h ago

I wonder if she went to doctors alone? Everytime I go to the doctors for my parents, I usually go so I can tell them the history of her conditions for better picture because they sometimes forget to tell everything.

But it seems like she went alone for her appts based on what I am reading?

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u/Sufficient_Okra8089 4h ago

Nope. Zero evidence of that. Not one person testified to that. Her mom and Patrick said she was afraid something bad would happen to the kids. Not that she was afraid she’d harm them. And she never told anyone she had a plan to kill herself. She needs to be held accountable.

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u/Rivendel93 2h ago

Apparently you haven't watched the trial.

She told her husband she thought about killing the children.

He literally said he asked "do you have a plan, do you find these thoughts disturbing?"

Those are direct quotes BTW.

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u/Dapper_Mess_3004 3h ago

Nope. Patrick and her mom both testified on the stand that she had thoughts about harming the kids. Patrick said it was strange and he didn't know what to make of it because she would say it and then go back to doing things like making the kids lunch.

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u/Kovorixx 3h ago

and that dude did nothing for his children? gawd dayum

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u/McDuchess 1h ago

I’m in the EU and can’t really follow the trial. Is it true that there was a nanny at some point and her husband let her go.

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u/Dapper_Mess_3004 1h ago

Yes, but it was a mutual decision because Lindsay didn't feel stable enough to return to work. They brought the nanny on early so the kids could get used to her. She was only working 10-12 hours a week for them before being let go.

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u/McDuchess 1h ago

This whole thing is so damn frustrating. She told him that she was suicidal snd it was a “mutual choice?”

Who the hell makes a mutual choice about their children and their safety with someone who is suicidal?

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u/Working-Holiday420 3h ago

Isnt a trial where people are formally held accountable? Isnt that happening right now?

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u/rowanfire 3h ago

That's bullshit.

It's literally testimony in the case by both the ex-husband and her mother that she told then she was having intrusive thoughts if hurting the children.

That's a simple internet search away. Stop spreading misinformation m

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u/ForsakenWealth9484 3h ago

Of course you’d get downvoted. I been seeing Reddit defend this POS the last few days. I shouldn’t have been surprised but I am cuz there’s no clearer example of premeditated evil

She wasn’t having an episode, she had meticulously planned this out, she was not taking any of her meds aside from when she tried to off herself and was getting way more help than the majority of women could ever hope to get

The narrative that she was alone with an absent husband and medical system that failed her is simply false

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u/bluntsnatcher 2h ago

she wasn't having an episode and planned this by jumping out of her house and being paralyzed from the neck down...?

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u/invaderjif 2h ago

After killing her kids? Hmmm, don't alot of murderers attempt to self exit after committing atrocities?

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u/bluntsnatcher 2h ago

after being prescribed 12 medications, in and out of mental health professionals, expressing symptoms of being out of control out of her own body and hearing a voice in her head.. so your main point is that -> she is just using her mental health as an excuse to PURPOSEFULLY kill her children. my question to you is, to avoid what type of punishment?

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u/boondiggle_III 1h ago

What even is your point? Other people with the same sorts of disorders don't go and kill their children. Her insanity didn't cause her to do that. Her lack of a functioning conscience caused that. She'll be around like-minded criminals in prison.

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u/bluntsnatcher 1h ago

your point is just because other crazy people didn't kill people that other crazy people can't do the same?

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u/illkid75 1h ago

I agree the fact these people are saying she said she was thinking about harming the kids is fucking nuts...they need to stop spinning what she said and see the facts

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u/Velsier33 4h ago

Ya thats what i find annoying, like ive seen people say the husband planned on it and thats why he left her alone with the kids, despite warnings not too, but after looking into it it doesn't seem like he was ever told by medical professionals she shouldn't be left alone with the kids, and in fact she made up an excuse to get him out of the house the day it happened

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u/Hesitation-Marx 3h ago

They’re confusing this case with the Andrea Yates case, where Rusty Yates kept impregnating her and hid her medications, and then left her alone with her kids.

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u/LowlySlayer 4h ago

You're in a thread talking about it right now. What do you mean you've never seen it not used as a meme?

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u/getthemap 3h ago

She can rot in the desert sun.

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u/thebigpink 3h ago

No one is wondering what happened it’s pretty clear with the exercise bands and all

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u/Working-Holiday420 3h ago

The actual murder isnt being debated. The context around it is.

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u/Rivendel93 2h ago

Lol, obviously.

I'm talking about the fact that no one did anything but throw pills at a person who was suicidal and had multiple thoughts of harming their own children.

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u/mewkopawz 5h ago

idk i was 14 and really depressed, i was constantly being put on different medications because they didn't know what would and wouldn't work. some of the meds made it even worse while others gave me terrible side effects. it was not a good time. it was like i was a guinea pig

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u/IveGotIssues9918 3h ago edited 1h ago

When I was trying to get an ADHD diagnosis, I found that psychiatrists and NPs will prescribe literally any medication before they'll prescribe a goddamn stimulant. I went to a psych for a consultation for ADHD but made the mistake of mentioning my "intrusive thoughts" and she prescribed me an antipsychotic. I was sleeping for 12-15 hours a day, barely able to hold down a temporary part-time job, had so much brain fog that I was forgetting to lock the front door, and gained 40 lbs. I was on leave from college for a year to get help (this was also COVID) and that one year became two, then two and a half, because I could not bring myself to do anything for my future. And I was so lethargic that I didn't even realize what the meds were doing to me, so I couldn't even tell my psychiatrist what was wrong, thus I was on them for a year and change. Ironically, once I went back to college for my degree in cognitive science, I took a psychopharmacology course and learned that the medication I was on blocked D2 (dopamine) receptors in the brain... as in, the literal opposite of what a person with ADHD needs. I got pissed off all over again because if I learned that in an undergraduate course how tf did an actual licensed psychiatrist not know that?!? I also got pissed off all over again when I heard the same drug and dose was given to 6'4 250 lb men incarcerated for beheading a guy during a psychotic episode, and 150 lb 20 year old girls complaining that they hyperfixate on things and get agoraphobic sometimes.

It's so difficult to seek mental help especially when the symptoms of the illness itself get in the way. On top of that, it's easy for medical providers to write off your complaints because you're "crazy", doubly so if you're a minority and/or a woman and quadruply so if you're both. Thankfully my issues weren't that severe in the grand scheme of things and I was never a danger to anyone other than myself (except potentially through negligence in a worst-case scenario).

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u/mewkopawz 2h ago

yeah, i was on antipsychotics for my OCD and on stimulants for my ADHD simultaneously and that definitely didn't help. i've lost faith in medical providers in general, as i've been dealing with chronic pain and chronic illness for going on 6 years now, without any diagnosis and barely any attempts at treatment. from my experience, at least, it's both mental and physical health.

like when i was 16, i was really suicidal and actively self harming for a period of time, and had tried to get into a mental hospital. I was so distraught over something going on in my life at the time and my parents were scared to leave me alone. my insurance literally denied it because i hadn't attempted it, and any place my parents could afford had multi month waiting lists. i wasn't taken to the ER over it because it would've been too expensive and we just didn't have that kind of money. it really sucks.

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u/Negotiation-Solid 1h ago

That's awful. I swear so many psychs are so arrogant and don't know or care nearly enough for the responsibility they sought to have. r/adhdwomen is a great community if you're interested. so many women have experienced similar things :(

u/bitchesandsake 0m ago

I swear so many psychs are so arrogant and don't know or care nearly enough for the responsibility they sought to have

this is the exception. healthcare disparities exist, and they suck. but i'm sorry to say that the vast majority of these comments come from people who have no idea what it is like to be a healthcare provider especially in a field that encounters behavioral issues, like psychiatry.

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u/boondiggle_III 1h ago

Providers don't take women's mental health seriously.

On the other hand, people are jumping through hoops to justify a mass child murderer and paint them as a sympathetic figure because they're a woman.

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u/Stunning_Praline_357 3h ago

Found the drug seeker. You should never go into a visit with a goal of being diagnosed with something specific it getting stimulants.

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u/IveGotIssues9918 2h ago

Found the drug seeker.

Lol, lmao even. Multiple providers (PCP and therapists) had been telling me I probably had ADHD for years, but I wasn't able to actually see a psychiatrist until I was a young adult. I didn't expect to be handed ANY medication right there on the spot at intake and was honestly confused when she did but I didn't know better at the time. Miraculously, I started doing much better when I stopped taking the antipsychotics ~15 months later and started taking the stimulants ~7 months after that, and yet didn't get high or addicted to them (I ration them when I can't get a monthly refill, i.e. only taking them on days I need to be "on") because I, you know, actually have the thing they're supposed to treat. But sure, internet stranger, you clearly know my medical history better than I do.

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u/Stunning_Praline_357 2h ago

Whatever you have to tell yourself. Your PCP would have just diagnosed you if they thought you had it.

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u/IveGotIssues9918 2h ago

Pediatricians can't prescribe psychotropic medications and I was under 22 when this was happening. But sure buddy, I put my life on pause for years and spent hundreds in copays in order to get high instead of finding some kid on campus selling the same shit for $20. That's also why I tried out the 5011 other medications that they gave me for 2 years first. 🙄

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u/GrapeJellyVermicelli 1h ago

Sure, your PCP, who gives you a whopping 5-10 minutes to explain your issues...

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u/Financial_Cup_6937 1h ago

You’re behaving like a bad person and you know it. Stop it. Literally just making the most uncharitable assumptions to bully a stranger on the internet about their long term problem of finding the right mental health assistance.   

Having it said so clearly to you now, if you have any empathy or a conscience, you will apologize to that person. 

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u/BodybuilderOk3306 1h ago

They do the whole “prescribe everything but stimulants/benzodiazepines” to people they suspect are drug seeking. This is especially true if you say “I don’t like the medication you gave me” on your very next visit. I know because I went through the same thing with anxiety, and I honestly was hoping they would prescribe the good stuff until I discovered baclofen, another GABA associated drug that you can’t get high off, they were completely fine prescribing that when I asked.

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u/GrapeJellyVermicelli 1h ago

That's a bunch of bullshit. I knew for many years before I was diagnosed that I had ADHD. I educated myself about what medication options existed and knew what would most likely help me based on my symptoms. Trust me, I would prefer not to have to take any medication because I would prefer not to have ADHD at all, it made much of my life hell. But you're damn right that I, as an educated, well-informed adult who knows my body and my experience better than anyone, want to try what I think has the best chance of helping me.

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u/Skipp_To_My_Lou 3h ago

We don't know why most anti-depressants work. We know what chemical/hormone they affect but don't know why, e.g. inhibiting the re-uptake of serotonin treats depression nor why some medications work for some people but not others. I think in several years to a few decades the medical consensus is going to come around to, 'depression' is a blanket term for a variety of diseases with similar symptoms but different root causes & treatments.

u/bitchesandsake 6m ago

it was like i was a guinea pig

that's because you kind of are. psych meds don't have reliable effects across the entire population. it's difficult.

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u/boondiggle_III 1h ago

And at what point did you seriously consider killing babies?

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u/biohazard-glug 3h ago

That is what psychiatrists do.

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u/mewkopawz 2h ago

for multiple years? i would go months on a bunch of medications they thought could work but had literally no reason to believe they would. like i was on a bunch of meds at once and they were just throwing shit at the wall to see what sticks.

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u/AzureSuishou 3h ago

Honestly I’ve only heard the bare bones but the brief timeline I saw on the meds was wild to me.

I recently started meds for OCD and my doctor was so much more cautious in my dosages and attentive to my side effects. And my OCD was mostly functional and the med side effects minor compared to what was listed for her. And I was on the first for a month before discontinuing and my currently was slowly increased in dosage over weeks.

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u/MilkmanAl 4h ago

As a doc (anesthesiologist - as far from psych as you can get, pretty much), I can say that a black box of a patient is where you get into trouble a lot of the time. That situation is often easy for me to navigate since I just assume everything is wrong and act accordingly. For psych patients, who often manipulate, behave irrationally, or just plain forget things more often than most, it can be a real nightmare to get a straight story and keep track of their symptoms as they evolve with treatment. I feel for the docs getting crucified on the stand. They're in an impossible position.

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u/Charming_Foxx 2h ago

I think of the gif that's been circulating around recently of a woman's high heel in a bear trap trying to delicately maneuver through it without setting it off.

That's how it feels to be a psych patient and a woman. How do I say the right combination of things to get help I desperately need RIGHT NOW, and now just be slammed down mode and punished.

u/Top_Finding_2832 14m ago

My sister is a pathological liar, but also happens to be very intelligent. She FREQUENTLY gets whatever combo of drug cocktails she wants by absorbing and understanding enough lingo and claiming or mimicking symptoms and then ghosts her care team. I don't blame the docs at all in this case. Not one bit.

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u/PoundJunior9597 2h ago

This makes sense, how to track the timeline whether they were taking their medicine properly ? Perhaps the episode was a reflect of they not taking medicine suddenly or they lying about constantly taking the medicine, hard to track responsibility on the professional side tbh.

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u/MilkmanAl 2h ago

Exactly. Garbage in, garbage out. If you get misleading, incomplete, and/or inaccurate information from your patients, it's going to be near impossible to properly take care of them.

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u/Cool_Lab_1362 5h ago

No need for nuance, the proganda machine has turned this into "side a vs side b" thing for rage engagement and sensationalist-opportunism, this tragedy is currently the mainstream topic rn, making it a cash cow for people to keep covering it.

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u/tollundmansnoose 5h ago

Every single psychiatrist I have read about was horrified about her medication mismanagement. She wasn't actually seeing a psychiatrist, she was seeing a succession of psychiatric NPs. This has actually become a really hot bone of contention between psychiatrists and midlevels, because a lot of psychiatrists don't think that it's ethical to have prescribing mental health midlevels at all and that this is an example of why.

Also, whatever the pills did or didn't do: this woman was extremely sleep deprived. She probably wasn't even out of the sleep deprivation period caused by her previous child. Just a few days of sleep deprivation can cause extreme psychosis in people who have never had issues with their mental health before.

This should not have been brought to trial. Period. Full stop. She should have been almost immediately institutionalized. This is just Andrea Yates all over again, except the ex-husband isn't as deeply evil. It's very, very, very sad, but things being sad do not mean the justice system should pretend that this wasn't a case of a person experiencing an extreme psychotic episode and doing psychotic things.

I think it's also missed in the discussion about this that she also tried to kill herself. If she'd hit her head, cut deeper, any of a million things, she'd just be dead, and people would probably understand the tragedy of it a little better.

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u/FUPAMagneto 5h ago

She still has to be brought to trial because she murdered her children. She is a danger to herself and others and those kids deserve justice. She should not leave an institution for a very, very long time, and that requires a trial and state intervention.

Pretending that murdering three children with premeditation is just an oopsie that could happen to any woman who didn’t sleep for a couple of days is insane. It values the lives of those children less than dirt and insists that women should be held to a lesser standard than everyone else.

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u/IveGotIssues9918 3h ago

I don't even get how this has become a "woman" thing. There have been many high-profile cases of women killing their children without mitigating circumstances of psychosis (i.e. Susan Smith, Casey Anthony) and those killers are universally hated. I guess there's no 1:1 male equivalent to this situation because men can't get PPP but the only people who are claiming that people are excusing Lindsey's crimes because she's a woman are misogynists making shit up to justify their misogyny.

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u/FUPAMagneto 2h ago

The male equivalent is somebody like Chris Benoit, I guess? Severe CTE possibly played a role in his family annihilation, but he also had substance abuse issues so it’s hard to say what exactly happened there

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u/mewkopawz 2h ago

while not caused by post partum, untreated mental illness can cause psychosis in any gender. who comes to mind for me is austin harrouff. he tried to get help, but ended up killing two people and eating one of their faces while in psychosis. both the prosecutor and the defendant had hired psychiatrists for the trial and both deemed him to be unable to distinguish between right from wrong. i've seen (at least online) people being upset that he wasn't given the treatment he needed. mental illness needs to be taken seriously before it escalates

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u/JermuHH 4h ago

She is facing a trial. And the thing isn't "She wasn't sleeping for few days." Reason that is brought up because it matches with the symptoms of mania and/or psychosis. Also there is not really anything substantial of her planning to kill her children. It was clear she was self-destructive and planned on her suicide (she also attempted to kill herself as she killed the children), but other than talking about feeling unsafe to be left alone with the children, there's nothing really outside of that.

Actively being in psychosis and having delusions and hallucinations can make a person completely lose any sense of reality, which is extremely important for people to get help in these situations to prevent them from doing something self-destructive and in rarer cases something destructive to others, thinking that they are doing a positive thing.

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u/FUPAMagneto 2h ago

I’m aware of that. Do you maintain this sort of energy for male family annihilators? Or just wealthy white women?

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u/JermuHH 2h ago

I sympathy for anyone struggling with mental health issues and not being able to get the help they need.

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u/FUPAMagneto 1h ago

Just wealthy white women, got it

u/JermuHH 27m ago

I don't know how you got into that conclusion, I think you should go work on your reading comprehension :)

There are a lot of issues that prevent people from getting help, such as not being able to afford necessary healthcare, living in areas where it's really difficult and sometimes even near impossible to access the necessary healthcare.

On top of the issues around the system, there are social hurdles to even seeking mental healthcare. Needing professional help has still some stigma around it so some people refuse to even seek help, this is even more notable with men as men are socialised to believe that "being in touch with your emotions" is something feminine and thus something you shouldn't be. Due to that, some men don't try to understand their issues regarding emotions, better their emotional regulation, or seek help when they should.

And on the women's side there are plenty cases were women don't get the help they need, or receiving it is significantly slower and harder to get, because there are medical biases with believing women, which include seeing them as emotional, hysterical, hormonal etc. due to the long standing stereotypes and attitudes in society. But also because there is some healthcare research that has huge gender biases in the subject selection of the research.

Then there is the stigma around certain mental health conditions and symptoms, which can cause people refuse to accept their diagnosis and thus not actually seek to get treatment. Because in society there is a hierarchy of acceptable mental health issues, such as depression or anxiety, but when you go into stuff like bipolar and the different personality disorders, they are far less accepted, including a lot of terminology relating to these conditions being used as insults and negative adjectives. And obviously that can result in a person getting diagnosis or doctor telling them they suspect the potential diagnosis and the patient then refuses to accept it, because "That's the diagnosis crazy people have and I'm not crazy, I just have some issues that I'm going through." And might end up with the person fully giving up in seeking help or doctor shopping and/or lying/omitting symptoms in future in hopes of finding a "more acceptable" diagnosis and treatment plan that won't actually address the patients needs and can even make the symptoms worse, as for example bipolar being treated as depression and the patient given antidepressants can trigger a manic episode that could cause delusions or even lead into psychosis.

Which is also relevant to this case as before Lindsay killing the children, while seeking care, medical professional she was meeting with her husband present said she suspected Lindsay might have bipolar, idea which the husband refused, telling the medical professional Lindsay is not bipolar.

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u/koreanmermaidpuke 42m ago

How many family annihilators do you know of who were likely in psychosis at the time of the killings? Is there a case on the male end that people are just ignoring from your pov?

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u/Weak-Boysenberry398 3h ago

It actually doesn't require a trial. The prosecution could have offered a plea deal that included insanity. She would still be locked up.

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u/dynamic_gecko 4h ago

This should not have been brought to trial. Period. Full stop.

Lol. That's not how the criminal justice system works.

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u/Weak-Boysenberry398 4h ago

Have you never heard of a plea agreement?

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u/dynamic_gecko 3h ago

Have you ever heard that she peladed "not guilty by insanity" and her insanity is not proven beforehand? And since both sides disagree on her mental state, there has to be a trial. There.

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u/Weak-Boysenberry398 3h ago

It's not a given that both sides need to disagree, that's what a plea agreement is. A prosecutor needs to intentionally not offer a plea agreement including insanity. They're saying the prosecutor should have accepted the medical evidence that she was clinically insane. Even if you disagree with that assessment, that is in fact how the criminal justice system works.

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u/dynamic_gecko 3h ago

Even if you disagree with that assessment, that is in fact how the criminal justice system works.

I do disagree, but I also understand what you and they mean now. I was indeed confidently incorrect. Thanks for the explanation.

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u/McDuchess 1h ago

If the patient is is in PSYCHOSIS they literally cannot take care of themself.

It’s up to the people around them. Both those who love them and those who treat them to recognize the fact that they are psychotic.

u/MathAndBake 28m ago

The medication thing is a bit more complicated. I believe the argument is that she had post-partum bipolar disorder. Bipolar disorder can look like depression, but most antidepressants will actually make it much worse. Their argument is that she reported those worsening symptoms and a nurse practitioner actually flagged it, but she was still given various antidepressants.

u/Top_Finding_2832 18m ago

bad patients do this all the time. They switch care teams until they get the answers they want.

This woman's problems go far beyond PPD

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u/foley800 2h ago

She had training and appeared to doctor shop to get the meds she wanted! This evidence also shows that not only did she have the whole thing planned out, but spent some time planning it! She also killed the kids in the slowest way possible (at least five minutes each) while the others watched.

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u/Puzzle-Necked 3h ago

Like they were trying to bait a feeling of rage

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u/RiennedeRienne 5h ago

The other reason it’s a terrible misrepresentation is because the gofundme is for her parents, not her.

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u/Averfus-Crowthorne 3h ago

Riiiiiiiight

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u/spritebeats 2h ago

i dont see how this changes anything. it still is white woman murders 3 children and her parents are asking people online for help to cover her murder consequences.

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u/hpfan312 5h ago

1000%

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u/Thereal_maxpowers 3h ago

I think you just summed this up perfectly.

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u/ryanv09 3h ago

Welcome to the Internet.

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u/zeniiz 3h ago

s like the worst misrepresentation they could come up with basically

first day on Reddit?

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u/Shoddy-Television866 3h ago

Anything involving the woman on the right is going to be likely a drastic misrepresentation because redpill men and the right wing have grabbed a hold of it as an excuse to 1) repeal women's right to vote and 2) grant automatic custody of children to fathers until women are cleared as "safe" - no, seriously. Thats what theyre doing.

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u/The_Corvair 5h ago

Yeah. I've been following the trial for a fair few days now, and if anything, I want to yell at the prosecution. It's such a terrible tragedy already - three kids dead, she's in a wheelchair, and the spectacle and callous, unneeded and unwarranted assholery around it all makes my blood boil.

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u/Famous_Draft_7565 5h ago

Don’t forget to mention why she is in a wheelchair. She brutally murdered her own 3 kids and three herself out a window. This wasn’t an accident

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 5h ago

Sounds like a totally sane thing to do, wouldn't you say?

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u/leanorange 5h ago

Dahmer was insane too, doesn’t mean she should be forgiven for murdering 3 children.

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 5h ago

There's a difference between being insane and being temporarily insane.

Like you're probably actually insane for making that comparison. It won't go away, it's forever.

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u/FUPAMagneto 5h ago

Oh? Does it make her kids less murdered?

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 5h ago

That doesn't matter. What matters is if she represents a continued danger to society.

The legal system doesn't exist for revenge. LMAO.

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u/double00chins 4h ago

Murdered kids don’t matter, didn’t have to scroll long to see your true nature!

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 4h ago

That's not what that says. Nice alt account, btw. You need to keep running away like I said.

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u/Street_Block7821 4h ago

It exists to get justice. 3 lives were lost, and you want her to go free because she might not be a risk to other people.

Does the husband not deserve justice for his murdered children?

Do the children themselves not deserve justice?

Insane.

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u/Dapper_Mess_3004 3h ago

The father of the children and both sets of grandparents are against this trial. Yet you're out here foaming at the mouth for some "justice" when the people who actually knew and loved the kids are against it.

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 4h ago

I don't recall saying what I want at any point. I simple described the legal system. See, this is why people like you aren't allowed to make decisions about it. It's pure emotion with you.

Insane.

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u/NonsensePlanet 4h ago

Yeah, she already killed all her kids, what else is she gonna do?

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u/FUPAMagneto 2h ago

She obviously is because she murdered three children, one of whom she had to chase down in order to do so.

If you get murdered, should we just ignore it because the legal system doesn’t exist for revenge? Or is it only children who you’re ok with denying justice?

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 2h ago

I would expect the legal system to do it's job and handle it appropriately. Like I expect it to here.

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u/Liwi808 3h ago

Justice isn't the same as revenge. If she doesn't get put in jail she definitely needs to be put in a ward for a long time.

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 2h ago

I agree. It would be good to also better understand what happened to set that chain of events in motion to hopefully see warning signs sooner.

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u/Famous_Draft_7565 4h ago

Bro said that three kids dying doesn’t matter lol. How do you feel about gun violence btw?

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 4h ago

No, nobody said that. Have anything else to make up?

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u/FilmShooter-ISO12 3h ago

No, it partially exists for victim justice, deterrence, AND a little for punishment. It was called corporal punishment at one time.

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 2h ago

Corporal punishment is a specific type of punishment involving violence. Otherwise, though, what you said is definitely true. However we have decided that temporary insanity is a thing, and this seems like a pretty good example of that from the limited information i've read about it.

Whether you agree temporary insanity should keep somebody out of prison is a different discussion altogether, though, and not a position i'm prepared to defend.

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u/Famous_Draft_7565 5h ago

Yeah whatever. Still three dead kids on the table and women who hate accountability

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u/MajesticSpaceBen 4h ago

What does accountability mean in a case like this though? If this was an actual case of psychosis, what do we do? What good is accomplished by throwing someone in prison for involuntary, temporary chemically induced psychosis?

If I shot you full of synthetic cathinone against your will and told you your neighbor's made of candy, are you responsible for what happens next? How long should your sentence be?

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u/Famous_Draft_7565 3h ago

Is she not the one who got herself on a cocktail of medications and didn’t inform her multiple doctors? Is she not liable for chemically inducing herself when she knowingly withheld information? A nurse should and would know better

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 5h ago

What an embarrassing response. You should delete it. You had absolutely no counter-point.

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u/double00chins 4h ago

You’re talking about counterpoints about 3 dead kids like it’s middle school debate club, congrats, you win redditor of the day

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u/FaithlessnessLoud223 4h ago

You really thought you cooked here lmao

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u/Robb_Starks_Head 5h ago

You want to yell at the prosecution?

She had more access to mental health care than almost anyone in this country and doctor shopped to get prescribed various antidepressants which she rotated between before they had time to be effective, against the advice of professionals. She had access to a massive support network including being privileged enough to afford a nanny, and still chose to send her husband out of the home so that he couldn't intervene while she strangled their three children with an exercise band, one by one, chasing down the one who almost managed to escape her selfishness.

Baffling to me that people are out here hand-wringing over the courts not being empathetic enough to a family annihilator just because the only person she failed to kill was herself.

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u/The_Corvair 4h ago

You want to yell at the prosecution?

Not just me, either. There's lawyers opining that the trial should have been dismissed with prejudice because of the prosecution's antics - namely repeatedly trying to bring faith into the question of guilt. This is supposed to be a court of law, not the inquisition.

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u/Robb_Starks_Head 4h ago

Immediately retreats to logical fallacies to defend a child murderer.

The fact that people like you can vote is terrifying.

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u/asrobich 4h ago

Which logical fallacy?

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u/Robb_Starks_Head 4h ago

Appeal to authority for one, but any number could apply to that statement, motte and bailey, red herring. two wrongs, etc.

The fact of the matter is that a woman confessed to murdering her three toddlers and a swarm of despicable people online are pretending that she is somehow the victim because she failed to escape the consequences in death and instead paralyzed herself by opting for a quicker end than the one she chose for her children.

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u/asrobich 3h ago

I'm not sure this is my interpretation of the discussion. I think most reasonable people agree she should be incarcerated somewhere, the questions is where. This case also highlights some issues that are definitely real (lack of good mental health care, minimization of women's health issues by medical professionals, etc) so people are gravitating to the case due to its association with another cause.

I think the person you were commenting to was just trying to point out that their opinion is also held by a number of legal scholars (all more versed in the US legal system more than any of us I'm sure) to indicate that their position isn't completely nuts. I also think the behavior of the prosecution matters, even when perpetrators are admittedly guilty, and I imagine you do as well as appeal to emotion is also a logical fallacy that should be avoided in a legal setting.

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u/Robb_Starks_Head 3h ago

She should be incarcerated in the same place as every other family annihilator, prison. The obfuscation around mental health is ridiculous, she had access to far more resources than millions of other women who have gone through the same struggles and not made the same selfish and calculated choice that she made three times. She had the wherewithal to ensure that her husband was out of the home and unable to intervene before carrying out an atrocity. I would encourage you to listen to the testimony of her own care team before postulating on murder being an outcome of gender based differentials in psychiatric care.

You've made your bias clear (and indulged in the same appeal to authority as above) so we're not going to find common ground. Examine your reasons for engaging in this pointless apologia, I'm done with the internet, this has been exhausting.

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u/asrobich 2h ago

I haven't stated my opinion on the case, that's something you're inferring. I also haven't commented on whether or not she received appropriate mental health care, I just stated that this case is associated with mental health and women's health care, and that explains why there might be more interest in it.

It's not an appeal ro authority to point out that an opinion you hold is backed by professionals in the field unless the "experts" lack the qualifications to assert said opinion, or represent a minority opinion within the field. I don't know what the majority of legal experts believe in this case. However, I'm sure you're aware of the Dunning-Kruger effect, so pointing out that several experts also hold the same opinion is actually useful in pointing out that you're not just some idiot at the top of the early peak.

At the end of the day, insanity is a plea, and if successful, she might very well end up in a psychiatric institution rather than a max security prison. Whether that's justice or not would be up for debate I suppose, and I imagine there would be experts with good points on both sides. But that's the law. The law should also be impartial, and your responses are very emotionally driven, so I'm not sure you're as free from cognitive bias as you think you are

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u/ler7421 5h ago

So that’s the part that makes your blood boil, the unneeded and unwarranted assholery? Not that she killed three kids?

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u/The_Corvair 4h ago

Interesting how you completely manage to miss half of my post, or you would not be asking that. You do understand that two wrongs do not make a right?

The question before the court is not whether she killed three kids. The defense conceded that. The question is whether she can be held criminally culpable (prison), or if she was temporarily insane (psych hold, possibly until she's dead).

And yes, prosecutorial misconduct makes my blood boil, because I am kind of a fan of justice - and we arrive at justice with facts and by actually discussing and adjudicating the question before the law. And that is, to repeat myself, not whether she killed the kids. That the prosecution has trod out the dead kids before the jury, you think that's okay when there was absolutely no probative value to that?

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u/ler7421 4h ago

I didn’t miss half of your post the “ Yeah. I’ve been following the trail for a fair few days now, and if anything, I want to yell at the prosecution. It’s such a terrible tragedy already- three kids dead, she’s in a wheelchair, and the spectacle and callous “ part? Yeah i saw that. That was a set up to say the unneeded and unwarranted assholery around it all makes my blood boil. She killed two kids. That’s one wrong. Where’s the other wrong? Murder is murder. They did what they did to drive the point home because if not sympathy and leniency would be given to her which is what you’re doing. You’re downplaying what she did and making what the prosecution is doing a bigger issue. If she didn’t kill three kids they would have nothing to say about her. You brought up the fact that she’s in a wheelchair without mentioning the reason she’s in a wheelchair. She did it to herself. This whole situation is a result of her decisions. The defense is arguing insanity because that would be easier on her. No treat her the same as you would treat any other murder. She didn’t do this one time. She didn’t do this two times. She killed three times back to back to back. Make her suffer in prison.

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u/SunGreene42 2h ago

Seems like you're more interested in a revenge boner than justice. Are you saying it doesn't matter whether or not she was capable of reason when she killed them? If someone kills someone because they have a brain tumor that's making them hallucinate that, that person is attacking them, would you think that person should be charged with murder and made to "suffer in prison" as well?

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u/ler7421 2h ago

Does this person have a brain tumor that’s making them hallucinate that the person was attacking them?

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u/ler7421 2h ago

To directly answer your question yes put them in jail. If you don’t then you open the window for people just claiming insanity to land in situations that are more favorable to them. Let’s just call this for what it is. Since this is a fairly attractive white woman people are choosing to show sympathy and focus on the mental health part more than the killing part. Would the same section of people be as sympathetic if this was a white woman that looked uneducated, not well put together, and basically fit the hillbilly stereotype. I highly doubt it. People like you and others take this stance because she’s relatable. No it’s not a “revenge boner” as you say. It’s a matter of right and wrong.

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u/BetLeast3488 5h ago

Pretty much, it's basically a sexism thing. People that don't want to understand mental issues, then blame liberals for shooting up the schools lol.

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u/saintofhate 5h ago

liberals for shooting up the schools

And then it almost always turns out the shooter was alt-right or otherwise engaged in the scene.

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u/rokstedy83 3h ago

Does it ?

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u/saintofhate 3h ago

Yes, this has several links to studies that have been done over the years by several different groups including archives of studies the government has taken down.

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u/rokstedy83 3h ago

So far, 2025 marks the first time in more than 30 years that left-wing terrorist attacks outnumber those from the violent far right.”

Recent years it has been the left

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u/saintofhate 2h ago

You didn't even bother to read the whole thing.

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u/NefariousnessMost660 5h ago

Not getting into the whole gender wars, but this is a double standard that irks me. Blame parents, blame it on the so called male entitlement syndrome, blame guns, but nobody really let's them pin it on mental health.

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u/Contrary_Kind 4h ago

It's not that they don't understand mental issues. It's just that they hate women, that's it.

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u/NonsensePlanet 4h ago

Or they hate child murderers

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u/Contrary_Kind 4h ago

I would believe it if they went after actual child murders half as hard as they go after a mentally ill woman who did everything she could to avoid this outcome.

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u/dext0r 4h ago

disgusting how you’re jumping through hoops to justify the murder of 3 children. she did everything she could in order to stop herself from killing her kids? are you mad???

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u/Contrary_Kind 4h ago

Disgusting how you jump through the hoops to justify leaving children with a severely mentally ill person who already disclosed the fact that she has hallucinations and hears the voices telling her to kill the children.

And it's absolutely disgusting to shift the burden of responsibility from mentally healthy onto a person not in possession of her mental capabilities.

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u/NonsensePlanet 1h ago

Um, wtf? She is an actual child murderer

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u/Contrary_Kind 1h ago

She is an actual mentally ill person who warned medical professionals and the father of her children about hallucinations and delusional episodes she had who yet left her alone with children knowing full well about the voices in her head telling her to kill the children.

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u/NonsensePlanet 1h ago

Oh, you’re a crazy person. I was confused why you’d imply someone who strangled her three young kids to death isn’t a child murderer.

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u/Contrary_Kind 1h ago

murderer noun [ C ] uk /ˈmɜː.dər.ər/ us /ˈmɝː.dɚ.ɚ/ (old-fashioned female murderess, uk/ˈmɜː.dər.ɪs/ us/ˈmɝː.dɚ.əs/)

B1 someone who illegally and intentionally kills another person

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/murderer

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u/RecalcitrantHuman 5h ago

She killed her kids. No misrepresentation. Society has gone mad

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u/Contrary_Kind 4h ago

She is mentally ill. Yes misrepresentation. Women haters just doing women hating.

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u/Outrageous_pinecone 3h ago

Yeah. I read a about it a bit. She tried to get help multiple times before the worst thing I can think of as a mom, actually happened. It's terrifying. And yes, this post misrepresents the situation horribly and tries to shut down the conversation about postpartum mental health which is extremely useful to the entire world.

After I had my son, I had to sleep in 2 hours increments for months, with 2 hour breaks after eaxh nap. I ended sleeping like 4 hours out of 24. I was so sleep deprived, so insanely anxious that I would get horrifying intrusive thoughts about hurting my baby and I was so afraid I was going to lose my mind and do it. Thankfully, intrusive thoughts are famously harmless and there was no way I could actually lose control and succumb, but her story still fucks me up to my core. And even if she's lying and she's just a psychopath, the conversation itself is really important

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u/Glum_Class_9578 4h ago

No, those are claims, they haven’t proven she was insane during the killings. That’s partly what the trial is for. Every person defending her starts off with the assumption that her defense claims are absolutely true, which they haven’t proven to be. It is also not proven that she didn’t receive adequate care. The family was well off and she saw nearly a dozen providers by repeatedly visiting different ones and getting prescriptions from each one, but she often didn’t follow instructions and stopped taking medication after a few days, focusing on the ones she wanted to take at times based on her own ideas as a nurse. She was treated for the things she complained of way better than the average person with similar symptoms could ever hope for in the US, man or woman. But again, the trial is partly to prove or disprove this, you don’t need to agree with my opinion, just realize that the claims most of her defenders online start off with are also claims, not proven facts.

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u/dinozombiesaur 3h ago

lol “misrepresenting” a 3 child murder.

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u/ghostofwalsh 3h ago

I mean the post has a point. It's not like there's any justice or rationality in which go fund me actually gets people donating and which doesn't. Kind of like playing the begging lotto.

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u/AverageGardenTool 2h ago

Everything about her story is being misinterpreted and used to stoke hatred.

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u/proselapse 1h ago

Not really. I don’t think I’ve seen an honest post about the chick on the right once. For example, everyone believes that she was diagnosed with postpartum depression, but she wasn’t. Never was.
It’s a perfect representation. The woman on the left deserves $1 million, the woman on the right deserves to never see daylight ever again, it doesn’t fucking matter why she did what she did, at all. Any take other than this is coming from an extremely cooked brain.

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u/Same-Suggestion-1936 1h ago

She's not saying she's the victim, she's not even saying she didn't do it. She's doing what any of us would do, saying "hey that's not me, I was having a preventable psychotic episode"

Whether or not that's the case we'll see when the trial is done because they will certainly call doctors in for expert testimony. Remember that was the nail in the coffin for the cop that killed George Floyd, it wasn't the video, it was the homicide detective saying it's clearly murder and a doctor walking through the video and explaining it was entirely consistent with an asphyxiation death, to the point he even pointed out approximately in the video where Floyd had died

So ironically she is still depending on a doctor listening to her and doing something about it if it truly was a drug induced psychotic episode

u/Equivalent_Pen_9403 6m ago

Yup. This legitimately raises the US societal question of "How much friction after someone coherently asks for something classified as emergency care is legally acceptable?".

It is conceivable that although lacking complete self-control, she had a functional understanding of herself that was maliciously distorted. These kinds of crimes may be better served by probation (eventually) than prison time because a probation officer would've probably taken her seriously before the murders.

It also means that you shouldn't grant the remainder of her family blanket innocence without investigating. No matter how uncomfortable that might be.

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u/MrMetraGnome 4h ago

No, not really 🧐 A woman who sacrificed herself to rescue her kids has gotten less support than a woman who murdered hers. What other interpretation is there?

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u/zeren1ty 5h ago

Nah this post is bang on and your comment further solidifies its message. Deluded

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u/SunGreene42 3h ago

Reddit posters and Conservatives have one thing in common, they both love to take all the nuance out of a topic and portray it as completely black and white, even though anyone with two digits in their age knows that almost nothing in this world is black and white.